10 things you should know about before having a baby

10 things you should know about before having a baby
First of all that idyllic picture with the mother holding the baby in her arms, being happy and fulfilled isn't far from the truth. But before you reach that point you need to understand the real-life challenges of getting pregnant and actually having a baby. Most parents do not seem to be prepared for disappointments, anguishes and not understanding what is happening compared to what they were expecting. So here are 10 things you should know about before having a baby:

  1. The first time you will see and hold your newborn baby in your hands, you may not hear the chorus of angels singing in the background. The first time for the mother may be very painful and stressful for just having given birth and for the father, well the pure realization you now have a kid may make your head spin.

  2. After giving birth, the first road to the toilet may be very hard for the mother. This is why the father must be present and ready to help. None of you should feel embarrassed.

  3. Breastfeeding is not easy as cake. You need to learn how to breastfeed correctly and at first, there is a lot of pain involved. The mother needs perfect the technique, making sure both the breast and baby are fine and getting enough care.

  4. Some mothers will cry a lot in the first days after giving birth. This is usually the time when hormones will go crazy and you will feel like your life is over, your partner does not support you, and you can not do anything right.

  5. Stay in pajamas and comfortable indoor clothing for the first few weeks, your main concern should be the baby.

  6. Babies don't sleep 24/7. You will realize that as soon as you come home from the hospital. Talk and entertain your baby while he/her is awake.

  7. Do not let anyone make you think you do not know what's best for your child, or you do not do an excellent job as it is.

  8. Find support, a group - among neighbors, friends, internet, other parents you've met at maternity.

  9. Do not turn into a martyr. Especially when your kids will grow, don't lament about the fact that you had it hard with them during this period.

  10. Make as many pictures as you can with your child in the beginning, because you will not remember many details about this period later on.



Being a parent is a blessing

Starting a family needs a lot of planning. And having a baby needs a lot of patience and understanding that everything will change with you, your partner and your surrounding. You will need to change your focus, redirecting it to your baby. No more thinking of your self and your hubby only. It will be the start of giving affection to your little one and molding him/her into someone that is acceptable by God. Why? Because not everyone has the chance of having a baby. So if God gives you the opportunity, make sure you will do your very best to cherish him and bring him up with God's grace.
Posted by Anonymous on 12-11-2017

Hubby should help

When I gave birth to my first and second newborn babies, my hubby was there to help me out when I needed. He makes sure I lay down on the bed almost all day, eat well, turn down the speed of the fan and make sure that I use warm water to wash my face or hands. He even bought the utensils and other items during my confinement period.
Posted by peachpurple on 12-01-2017

Having hard times and good times

Having a baby must be plan carefully. Both partners must prepare and be ready to go to the next level of life. Having a family. So these 10 things is really helpful for those who wants to have a baby now. Make sure to remember these things before having a baby. So that, it is not hard for you to give birth.
Posted by blank629 on 12-02-2017

Before or Learn as Quickly as Possible

I laughed at the point about breastfeeding. I was so determined to breastfeed because of all the wonderful bonding and also for the child's good health. That first "latch on" experience was a shock! But I persevered.

Also, Number 10. For sure you should take lots of pictures. Kids grow up super fast! You will want to hold on to the memories but sometimes the memories really do fade.

If a person doesn't know these things before they have a baby, if they're like me, they'll learn quickly. That's an excellent list.

Posted by foxchannel on 12-07-2017

No instruction manual

I agree with this list completely. As a mother of two, soon to be three, it was hard to go from only having to worry about taking care of "you" to having another human being to care for and teach. Even if you already have had one child, they are all individuals with their own personalities, likes, and dislikes. While there are key skills you learn from your first, not everything will transfer over to any subsequent children you may have. My first hated being swaddled and covered from the first day after she was born. My son on the other hand was perfectly at ease being wrapped in a blanket most of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on things, their likes may change to dislikes, and you're left scratching your head in confusion until you realize it isn't just a one time thing. It is amazing how much you will learn about yourself and your partner in the process of learning about your new baby. It is also amazing how much teaching your new baby will end up teaching you.
Posted by Rmarsh1984 on 12-04-2017

Think you are ready?

Totally agree with the list above. Before having a baby, I think I am so ready to have one since I helped in taking care of my nephew from birth till he is 3 years old. But I was wrong. Having your own baby is not the same as just helping raise another kid. You may be familiar with what to do on certain things but it feels different when it is already your kid involved. The panic is stronger when your kid gets sick. The work is 3x more since you need to be always ready to get up 24/7 for their needs. Stress is a part of your daily routine but the difference of it from other stress is that you are doing it out of love and not just because you are required to.
Posted by mdayrit on 07-14-2018


No one has disagreed yet, be the first!


All what is stated above are really good suggestions that can help anyone preparing to have a baby, because to take care of a baby is a real serious business which is not an easy task.
Posted by babyright on 11-24-2017
Looking after a baby is a challenging task both for a mother and a father. When my best friend was pregnant she used to read all kinds of pregnancy books just to have an idea about how to care for her baby. She equally bought a little diary where she wrote about her baby's first words, the first time she walked and she even added some photos.
Posted by Pixie on 11-24-2017
Yes, you shouldn't expect it to be easy. It is a challenge. However, people have been having babies for centuries, it is nothing that can't be managed, even if it isn't the easiest thing to do in the entire world. There is plenty of help around for people who want it in most cases.
Posted by kgord on 11-24-2017
Well since I'm a nurse I'm familiar with this reality. It is actually really hard being a mom, especially for the first time!. They need a lot of support and caring from their partner and the rest of their family. I had the opportunity of working in a labor clinic and it was eye opener when it comes to having a baby, the reality is when you are pregnant everyone will help you out but once you give birth you are alone and that's scary as sky is blue.
Posted by Pink_Turtle on 11-24-2017
Those are solo true having a baby and being ones self isn't easy, everything tend to change and alone become do helpless that why we need our partners more of a support system which could be our relatives or support group. The first few weeks after birth is never easy.
Posted by lovely on 11-24-2017
Having a baby is one of the most difficult aspect of a newly married couple and I have to confess that these 10 tips can be quite useful to those expecting a baby for it will help to lessen the anxiety that comes with such situations.
Posted by Barida on 11-25-2017
I was among the last ones to have a baby among my friends and also among us siblings so when I did have one, I already have ideas how it would go and was prepared for it. I had a baby at an age when I was no longer so caught up with myself and was ready to devote my life and time to raising a child so I didn't have much of the issues that younger mothers usually go through. I knew it was life changing and I was ready for my life to turn 360 degrees with my baby. Well, he is worth it and I literally cried the first time I saw him. It was love even before the first sight.
Posted by chatbox on 11-26-2017
The decision to have a baby has to be something very, very well planned because life really changes completely. Nothing in your life will remain the same as before. It's certainly a decision that will bring many happiness, but also many challenges and you need to be prepared for all of them.
Posted by wiseagent on 11-27-2017
I agree with these sentiments and with the comments.Having a baby certainly changes your life. What I 've learned is not to fight against life and accept the changes. Definitely, you're not the same person. The process completely changes you. After this experience, believe me, you will care about nothing and know you're a slay queen you can do anything! It's time to flow with life and accept all the help you can get. Many marriages also suffer because one partner wants to continue with the status quo. It's also scary you are now responsible for another human being.
Posted by jaymish on 11-27-2017
Wow, even I' a mother of 3, I'm still interested to read this article. I learned a lot. Well, all the other stuff I already know is through experience really when I started to become a mother. It was a hands-on learning for me. I did not have time to rely on books or other mothers' advice. There was mother instinct in every step of my way in childcare. It was like I knew everything even it was my first time. It's unexplainable, a magic and a blessing.
Posted by tiffiecute on 11-28-2017
Not every woman is the same. Yes, generally speaking, pregnant mothers have some common characteristics. However, there are many who just simply don't follow the crowd. Like vomitting. Some pregnant women vomit from day one until childbirth. Others sail through their pregnancy like nothing is amiss. Or craving. Some women crave strange food while pregnant. Some just eat like normal. Of course, all women experience the same physical changes when pregnant. However, after childbirth, some women find it quite impossible to shed the extra weight. Others go back to their prenatal shape without any hassle.
Posted by Aree on 12-02-2017
I do not personally know the direct effects of having a child, but this definitely helped me see the true meaning of child care. I see now the physical and mental strains that could come after having a baby, but also important ideas to consider before. This has given me new insight into the wonders of child care and I thank you for posting it!
Posted by Zellis55 on 12-07-2017
Yes, it is. Having a baby especially the firstborn wouldn't be as easy as it may seem to be.It is a difficult adjustment especially if the mother and father are not prepared psychologically, emotionally, and financially. Having a baby is a great joy and responsibility at the same time.
Posted by cess_08 on 01-27-2018
My concern for parents to know is the proper caring of the baby and the proper attitude when the baby is sick. Those are the instances that parents should always have the presence of mind. When the baby cries at midnight, the parents should wake up and tend to the baby. And when something is wrong, bring the baby to the doctor. Those contingent actions are important for new parents to know and understand.
Posted by Corzhens on 02-22-2018
Thank you. This is very informative, I wish I have found this article or post before I have my children. It's not that I am regretting having them but I wish should've been more prepared and lessen our stress because what happened was, it is like we dive into the water and just learn how to swim while we are in there. It was pretty tough but I guess we survived the first stage. My kids are about to turn 3 and 2 in a few months. Moving forward me and my wife will be more prepared as they grow.
Posted by gavinci13 on 03-24-2018
I am not yet a mother but it is my dream to be one. This is very informative, thank you. I admit what you've written here is true. I witnessed it happen to my sister but she never regretted one bit. It is much harder for her because she is a single mother. We are blessed to have parents that supported my sister despite everything.
Posted by Alymae on 11-16-2018