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Being an Only child

Being an Only child
Being an only child is a great experience because you live like a queen/king of the house, all the toys are for you and you are the attention center of your family. You don't have to fight with your brothers but also I think is very solitary which can make you an introverted person, of course, it depends on to the personality.

Pros
-The kid will be more independent -They don't have to compete for their parent's love because they have it unconditionally -The Parents can take more care to the kid
  • They will be protected
  • The fights don't exist
  • They feel less jealousness
  • is cheaper to maintain economically a small family

Cons
  • The loneliness
  • the kid will be overprotected
  • can be a spoiled brat
  • Depression
  • The kid can be selfish
  • Can be an adult with dependent relationships
  • Poor social skills

Supporters

Jonathan Solomon

Only child

Well, I grew up as an only child. I must say, there were some periods where I wanted both. I sometimes wished I had a brother or sister. While other times, I respected the privacy and space I had as an only child. So for me, it goes both ways. Nevertheless, I'm happy being an only child. At the same time, it would've also been cool to grow up with siblings.
Posted by Jonathan Solomon on 08-27-2017
JaiGuru

Single Child Household

Being an only child is an ideal scenario in the modern developed world. Virtually nowhere has income kept up with the rate of inflation, making raising children far harder than it was just 40 or 50 years ago. The stay at home parent is rapidly becoming a thing of the past as couples have to work their separate jobs to make ends meet. With a single child, the odds of being financially successful are far higher and more attention can be given to the child individually. In a world where nine out of ten problems are caused, or exacerbated by over population, having one child is a matter of social responsibility.
Posted by JaiGuru on 08-23-2017
cubo

I prefer it

I would wish to be an only child. I have 1 brother and 2 sisters, and my relationship with them wasn't good, I preferred to stop treating them because they are very problematic people. They used to fight each other almost every day, they loved to look for troubles and they didn't respect my parent's rules and that made me hate them sometimes. I'm a peaceful person so, I don't want to live with people who fight or discuss each other.
Posted by cubo on 08-22-2017
galegatling
You are not the only one. That is also how I feel about my siblings. Although we mostly have good moments and fun times, but when bad moments happen, it really is a worst one and you sometimes would wish that you were the only child. But I guess that's just how it goes.
Tania997

Financial problems

I have a sister and our family always struggles to get to the end of the month. I know it's selfish to say but I wish I was an only child because my sister is really expensive for us. She has no respect for our situation and she's so stubborn, she'll start fighting over small things like tidying up her room.
Posted by Tania997 on 08-22-2017
Vastor122

Undivided attention

So I have 4 siblings and yes we grew up within the parameters of chaos hahaha but it's fine though cause it's fun to be with a lot of people but sometimes you'll just think the what ifs of life, what if I'm the only child? Maybe it'll be more peaceful without any unnecessary fights and bickering here and there. Also I'll get to enjoy all the food inside the fridge just for me-self.
Posted by Vastor122 on 08-22-2017
AlexJPro

More everything for you.

I am the only child in my family and you get more privacy and more space than having siblings. Also the family has more money to spend on vacantiond and stuff because you just buy less food and clothes. I just enjoy being the only child in my family.
Posted by AlexJPro on 08-23-2017

79%

Having brothers and sisters

Having brothers and sisters
Having brothers and sisters for me is much better because you can play with them, and they can help you with your problems, They will be on your bests and your worst. I see wonderful to have a big family with brothers and sisters.

Pros
  • They are early exposed to socialization.
  • They help each other
  • They can play together
  • Develop or empathy
  • Learn to share
  • They have better the social skills
  • They wouldn't feel lonely

Cons
  • They might have fights
  • They will compete for each other for the attention of their parents -They would have less privacy
  • Is Economically harder to maintain a big family
  • They have to share things

Supporters

centurion

Having brothers and sisters

There have no charm on the family if you do not have brothers or sisters. I have 2 sisters and I have been enjoying from the small childhood. I love my sisters.

Thanks Centurion

Posted by centurion on 08-22-2017
kingcool52

I have a sister and she's the best

I have a sister who is ten years younger but I still enjoy her company. Being a lone child can be boring like it was for me when I was younger. And like you stated, lone children can sometimes grow up being extremely selfish and spoilt because they haven't had to grow up sharing.
Posted by kingcool52 on 08-22-2017
Mehano

More the better!

I am the only child and I remember that throughout my childhood I wanted a brother or a sister. I begged my parents all the time but they didn't want more children. I was so jealous because most of my friends all had siblings and I wanted one as well.

It is just much better, especially if there isn't too big of an age gap. They can socialize with each other. They can be best friends. They can help each other out. They can play together and more. It is just far better because if you have a sibling you can never be lonely as a child.

Posted by Mehano on 08-22-2017
BigDreamer

Siblings!

I loved growing up with my siblings and always having someone there to do stuff with. I can't imagine if I would have had to grow up alone.
Posted by BigDreamer on 08-22-2017
peachpurple

More siblings

My parents gave birth to me and my brother. Both our relationship turned sour after I was married. Before that, our relationship was strong.

If I had more siblings, maybe an older sister, it would be better to consult her with female problems, marriage communication and share with each other secrets. If I had an older brother, I could seek help from him since my younger brother is not in good term with me.

Too many siblings ( 8 or more) isn't good either. Too many jealousy , family politics involved and family money concerned. 3 or 4 siblings are good enough to care for each other.

Posted by peachpurple on 08-22-2017
overcast

Bigger the Better Family

I have found that having bigger family definitely helps. You'd be able to raise kids the better way. You can see that better family is something you'd have to be lucky to find. Not a lot of people can have that. And for this reason being only child is not a good option. You should go for the bigger family if possible. That's a good experience overall.
Posted by overcast on 08-22-2017
Gina145

Only is Lonely

As an only child myself, I always longed for a sibling, even as a small child. And as I've grown older my wish that I'd had a brother or sister has grown even stronger.

The fact that I've never married or had children makes it even worse because it means that the family stops with me. I know it doesn't matter to everyone but to me continuity has always seemed important and I feel as if I've let my family down.

I don't see normal fighting with siblings as a negative, but as a way to learn to cope with the problems you're going to encounter outside the family unit. And I wish I'd been forced to share when I was a little girl.

Posted by Gina145 on 08-22-2017
wallet

Having brothers and sisters

I am rich...I have three brothers and three sisters and I am glad to have such a big family. Is so wonderful when we celebrate a special day and we all get together and have fun and spend some special moments. We help each other in good or bad moments, we support one on each other as a good family!
Posted by wallet on 08-22-2017
Gina145
I love your answer because you're looking beyond the obvious definition of being rich as having a lot of money. Being surrounded by people you love is far more important than having a lot of money but being alone.
Marvadaum

Necessary

As much as I don't like having a brother it's a necessary evil. It's good for the kid to learn to deal with another person in the house and it's very important to help them to learn to coexist. Still, the parents must be fair and treat both children equally.
Posted by Marvadaum on 08-22-2017
giovanniiiii

Lively

I grew up as the eldest son of our family and I have a younger brother and sister. It might not be the same for every family as not all siblings have good relationships with each other as they tend to fight most of the time but when the worst comes, I know that I can trust them. It's actually to see your siblings grow up properly. It might get noisy when they are around as they always converse about nonsense and silly stuff but I realize how lonely it is without them. They're still young and have a lot to learn but being able to serve as their guide while growing up is satisfying and is a great honor.
Posted by giovanniiiii on 08-22-2017
pizzalover

Brothers and Sister

I think having brothers and sister It is a blessed. I have a twin sister and we are so close that you could ever imagine. Mostly all of the time we think the same thing it is incredible. We have each other the 24 hours of the day and the 7 days of the week. You will always have someone to talk to no matter what. My Sister and Have an unbreakable bond. I thank god for that.
Posted by pizzalover on 08-24-2017
Pink_Turtle

I'm an only child

Well since I'm a only child and know the other side of this story I'll say I would have love having some siblings! I remember I never had kids around to play because my cousins lived to far away from my place. It would have been nice to have someone to play and fight with. It's great having friends but I guess It can't be compare with having a real sibling...
Posted by Pink_Turtle on 08-22-2017
wiseagent

One more, please.

I think being an only child has some advantages, but there are even more advantages when you have brothers / sisters.

It's clear that these advantages have their own perspective in the view of each person (after all, each of them has a particular world within their minds).

Having a big family is always the best option.

Posted by wiseagent on 08-22-2017
yishak1412

I have brothers

I dont wanna be an only child. I dont want to imagine a life where my brothers aren't in it. I think i will feel so lonely.
Posted by yishak1412 on 08-23-2017
zheh

I love having brothers and sisters

I was born 9th in the family, i have 5 brothers and 3 sisters and i love everyday i'm with them. I'm thankful of having a large family. Though many says it's hard to have a big family specially because of financial. I can say that even if we're having a hard time on financial matters we're able to get through all of it together. Atleast we have each other to turn on to. We can help each other either financially emotionally and all the problems we might encounter.
Posted by zheh on 08-23-2017
this_free_spirit

Siblings, for better or worse

I grew up in the middle of a large mix of siblings of lots of different ages. My parents had a rather large age difference (32 years) which meant that 3 of my half-siblings were old enough to be my parent. I had one full brother that we grew up together, then a younger half-brother that grew up more like my own baby. It was definitely it's ups and downs with my brother that I mostly grew up. Sometimes we played together and always had a friend, since we were only a couple years apart. Other times we fought like crazy. Even when we were fighting or picking on each other, we always stood up for each other at school. It was okay for us to pick on each other, but no one else could. It was the built in friend and protector that we were for each other that made growing up with a sibling worth it.
Posted by this_free_spirit on 08-22-2017
manmad

Fun.

As an only child, I'd have to say that there are definitely pluses to being alone, however it would be really fun, to have someone around your age that's really close, to whom you can share anything and do anything with. Having a brother/sister depending if he/she is bigger or smaller, can be awesome, because you could always learn new things from each other, or at least do stupid things together, which comes with it lessons. Of course there are benefits to being alone, such as having your own privacy and learning how to cope with a lot of stuff by yourself.
Posted by manmad on 08-22-2017
Dkaraly

Siblings FTW

It's true that if you have siblings you're going to fight a lot, but that's only while growing up. My sister and I haven't have a real fight or serious argument in many years. Also, we are very good friends. When I was little, there was nothing more funny or entertaining than a family outing to visit different places with my sister and cousins.
Posted by Dkaraly on 08-22-2017
Rebelssis

Having brothers is awesome.

For me, having brothers and sisters is like a training for life. Also, you earn lifetime friends. Of course, there might be fights or you might feel jealous sometimes, but your siblings will always be there for you. Plus, you learn to interact with real people out of your own bubble, so when you are grown up, relations with others won't be that difficult.
Posted by Rebelssis on 08-22-2017
tmccoy

Siblings!

I'm the youngest out of four, and I love my siblings to the end! Being the youngest my siblings and I wasn't always on good terms, but we were kids, what brothers and sisters don't bicker with each other. They are my protectors, advisers, and my best friends. It's that type of internal bond that siblings have that single child doesn't get a chance to experience.
Posted by tmccoy on 08-24-2017
blank629

We are the cavalry

Being the only child is lonely. Even though some kids are spoiled, they always find the love of having a brother or sister. Having a brother or sister or both is a great thing. You can have somebody to lean on in case of emergency. You have always partner in crime. And maybe you can make one team to play basketball. It so awesome but at the same time you have rivalries around you. It is the funny thing on having a brother and sister.
Posted by blank629 on 09-21-2017
yaorice

Helps with personal development

I do wholeheartedly believe that being around other peers helps children develop. I don't like to make generalizations, but I'd bet that there are cooperation and empathy lessons that siblings learn from each other that may be lessons missed by only children. I think being around other children from early ages can help drastically with personal development, and may even lead to faster maturity in the younger siblings because they have the older one to learn from.
Posted by yaorice on 08-22-2017
Istine

A whirlwind of Fun!

Having a huge family is really fun. It is like watching a variety show on TV. Different dramas, constant competition among siblings. It is an experience that you cannot exchange for something or anything! My brothers and sisters are my backbone they are my instant enemy, rival to parents attention but they are my best friend of all time. They are the best support group that I ever had. They tell you the truth even if it hurts and they comfort you land give you the best advice.
Posted by Istine on 08-24-2017

Comments

AlexHarris
This actually really depends on the person. I'd much rather be a single child, but I only say that because I have a sister and we don't often get along. A single child may want a sibling because they're lonely or just always wanted one so I don't know. My current circumstances kind of decided for me but I don't think I would actually think the same way if I never had a little sister.
Posted by AlexHarris on 08-22-2017
Wubwub
I have siblings and we all get along fine, but I've always wondered if I would possibly be happier or more comfortable if I were an only child or if any one of my siblings were to just have been born alone, because being in a bigger family always meant scarcity and hardship for me. Not that we were that poor, but resources were definitely always limited and I could always tell my parents were having a hard time handling multiple children. I think ultimately both sides have equal benefits and disadvantages, since I do have perspective from people who don't have siblings and according to them it can get very lonely at certain points, so in a way that has made me thankful for having brothers and sisters, albeit requiring a bit more sacrifice.
Posted by Wubwub on 08-22-2017
ahpkind
Both have their own type of benefits. But my point of view is it is great to have brothers and sisters. I think that it all depends on how the parents raise their children. I have seen many one child families having problems with the child including the problems u mentioned. And I have seen some big families with more than one child and all of them behaving well. So, I think it's better for the child to have brother and sister at least 1, so they can be attached and help each other. The main job is for the parent to teach them how to behave.
Posted by ahpkind on 08-22-2017
Corzhens
I am the youngest in the brood of 12 so maybe it's too difficult to imagine to be an only child. But being selfish, I know that people would prefer to be an only child. It would be frustrating to be alone that you cannot seek help because you have no siblings. All right, you have the full attention of your parents but what happens when they get sick? You will be alone huh.
Posted by Corzhens on 08-22-2017
kgord
I think that both have their advantages and disadvantages. I only have one sister myself, but she means the world to me, so I am really glad I have her. She was a great playmate when we were growing up. My son is an only child and I am sure he would have preferred having brothers or sisters, but it is what it is. Having brothers and sisters can be good, and even a blessing, but you do get a great deal of parental attention as an only child and that can be helpful too.
Posted by kgord on 08-22-2017
lovely
I love all my siblings,I don't think I would have been happy as the only child.Life can be very boring for an only child.No playmates,nobody tio relate with.You're alone most times especially at home.You rely on other children from school or neighbourhood for company.It really not my kind of life.
Posted by lovely on 08-22-2017
Authord
Well, as an introvert I would prefer being alone, but the importance of having siblings can not be overemphasized, although we don't chose we are, or what happens to us. Nature does that for us
Posted by Authord on 08-22-2017
gata montes
I'm not so sure that its even possible to say which would be preferable - as to be honest - apart from the fact that - given the right parents - there really shouldn't be any difference between being an only child or one of many - there are many different scenarios to take into consideration here - for example - its not at all unusual for a child with other siblings to feel just as isolated and lonely as one that doesn't have any and vice versa - and then there are those who are overly smothered as they're an only child or the favorite of a larger number of children.

Which has me thinking that - perhaps the issue here is not a matter of choosing between being a single child or one of many but more one of - a choice of the type of parents we would like to have - especially as - children born to parents who are capable of dividing their love and attention to all their off spring equally - generally have a greater family bond - regardless of whether they just one or one of 2, 6 or more.
Posted by gata montes on 08-22-2017
felabruno
I remember that when I was a little kid I got angry when I found out that I was going to have a sister. I liked being the only child, I really wasn't happy about sharing my parents with another kid. I'm okay with the idea of having siblings, we have a good relationships but we are really different in terms or personality so we don't have much in common. We rarely have arguments because we get along well even thought we don't seem to be the greatest friends ever.
Posted by felabruno on 08-22-2017
amitkokiladitya
It is an old myth that a single child is a spoiled child. But, I don't think so. It all depends on the upbringing and values inculcated by the parents.

I have brothers and sisters. Though I love them a lot the hard fact is that my childhood was a compromised one. I had to make a lot of adjustments and sacrifices.

On the contrary, a single child will solely avail all the comforts offered by his parents. From good education to all the amenities, a single child will get the best of everything.
Posted by amitkokiladitya on 08-23-2017
Denis_P
I'm a bit torn on this debate because I was an only child, and I never really found myself longing for a brother or a sister. In fact, even as a child, when my parents asked me if I would like a sibling they said my answer was basically "Nah, I'm alright." However, I can see the benefits of having someone to grow up with who is around your age. I can imagine having a trusted sibling is great when you're in trouble and need someone to open up to, or even just have someone to play games with. Parents are great and all, but growing up they're more of an authoritative figure than anything else.
Posted by Denis_P on 08-23-2017
JaiGuru
Having a sibling is a bizarre experience. They are at once your best friend and your worst enemy. You will never be more proud, or more jealous of another person in your life. They are a wild enemy when you are young, and a trusted comrade as you age. There is certainly plenty to be said for being part of that type of family. Likewise, there are benefits to being an only child. You get more since your parents have more disposable income to spend on you. They will have more time to dedicate to you specifically. Your personal space is truly your own where as many families have to share personal space. No one way is correct.
Posted by JaiGuru on 08-23-2017
Zyni
I always wanted a sister, but I had just one sibling, a brother. We are close in age. We fought a lot as children, but I'm glad I have him. It was him that I turned to when my dad died. My mom tried to be there for me, but they'd had their issues and were divorced. I felt like my brother could relate better, since he was going through the same thing.

I don't think I would have liked being an only child. I think most who are an only child grow up too spoiled anyway.
Posted by Zyni on 08-24-2017
rogel
I really don't like be the only child as I want a brother or sister to take good care of ne when our parents is not around. You have a sibling where you can share your problem or serve as your bestfriend. Because a child with no sibling is seem so boring.
Posted by rogel on 08-27-2017
tophew
For my opinion having only child is not that good because it will be a boring for one child he or she will not have a playmate and force to have fun with friends that may influence him badly. its better to let him/ her have a siblings to play with grow with and share some memories and secrets with and when the parents is gone he or she can have a sister or brother to look for and bond with.
Posted by tophew on 08-28-2017
babyright
Having brothers and sisters is still better than being an only child in the family. If you are the only child of your family, your parents will over pamper you because there is no one to challenge you. With brothers and sisters , you have the chance to compete with each other both mentally, socially and academically.
Posted by babyright on 08-28-2017
narutos3nn1n
I think I prefer being an only child although I had two brothers and 1 sister already, quite selfish am I? Most of the times we quarrel a lot and almost fight for small things that the other one has. Although that's all on our childhood, as the first born I realized quite early that I need to support our family, help them so that in time I needed their help, they will be there for me too. I can honestly say we set aside those past experience and looking forward to each of our future. My brother the second on our family was now on Dubai working, my sister which is third is now having her first child, I'd become an instant uncle already with me not having a son first. My other brother which is the youngest now is pursuing his studies so that he can also help my parents.
Posted by narutos3nn1n on 08-29-2017
vinaya
My mother was the single child. She has a weak personality. She is too depended on her hubband and children. However, I have three siblings and I have a strong bonding with my siblings. When I am in problem my siblings are always with me. I see a great benefit in having brothers and sisters. I have a child and I don't want another child because raising two children will be very expensive. However, I also worry about my child who will be alone if he does not have a sibling.
Posted by vinaya on 08-30-2017