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Confess your feelings to your crush

Confess your feelings to your crush
As human, there are multiple factors we can't control. We could try, but in the end they will win over us with nothing to be done. For example, we met a guy, or a girl, and we start developing a friendship with them, but that friendship slowly evolves on something more... sadly, just on our part as far as we know. Or either we see a person and we immediately develop that feeling, that somewhat love or attraction that defines a crush! Everyone had already a crush in their life, and some of use even have one now... Every minute of every day we think about that specific person, we look at our phone to see if they're texting us and we think about some excuses to meet or talk to them. But then, it hits you: what if they feels the way? Maybe not, maybe yes... Maybe you should act, maybe you should go to your crush and say straight to their face what you feel about them. The afterwards is unknown. Maybe they'll like you too, surprise! Very good for you, it might be the start of a new life. Maybe they won't... they will act surprised, because inside they alreaady knew it, and at this point you might end up as just friends or you might lose them completely because they don't want make you suffer, because they feel it would be too weird or any other reason. It's not easy, and can be painful, but afterwards you'll be free for a while, you won't have any more doubt... it might be a negative thing, but knowing the results might make moving forward easier. If there is no hope, and you know it 100%, why insist? You can't control it, sure, but at least you can try... And like I said, if your crush end up liking you back and wanting to try something more, well.. you did the right move.

Pros
  • What if your crush like you back?
  • You'll be more "free" after
  • Expressing your feelings is often pretty healthy

Cons
  • You might get refused
  • Confessing your feeling might make your crush want to keep some distance
  • It's not easy to find the right moment and way to tell

Supporters

Mahshiemonalisa

honesty

I think its always best to be honest. I had some crushes in college and I wish that I would have been bold and mature enough to tell them how I felt. Instead, I was awkward around them and always left to wonder what they thought of me. If I had initiated a conversation about how I felt towards them, I could have saved myself a lot of time and heartache. Honesty is best! However, if the crush happens to be in a relationship I don't think it's appropriate to share how you feel.
Posted by Mahshiemonalisa on 02-25-2018
limberg

You'll never know unless you tell

It's better to confess your feelings to your crush rather than keeping it to yourself. Yes, there's always a risk involved when you're going to confess your feelings, mainly, you could get rejected which would be very awkward. But that should be a risk that you're willing to take.

You can't be with your crush of you don't find out what he or she feels for you. And the best way to know that is to confess.

Timing is the key though. You don't just barge in and confess your feelings. You should wait for the right time, the right moment when you're going to tell how you feel.

Posted by limberg on 03-31-2018
Mehano

Confess

I always confessed my feelings to the crush. I don't think that I ever hid my feelings for more than a week or two. It can be unhealthy for you to hide how you truly feel and maybe you even miss an opportunity.

Don't be afraid to tell her/him how you truly feel. The worst thing is you will get hurt but time heals those wounds.

Posted by Mehano on 04-14-2018
cubo

Confess!!!

I must say it's false that you can't choose the person you like, to be attracted to a person might be involuntary but you can choose if you want to pay attention to that feeling or not. For example, if that someone is married or engaged, the best thing to do is ignore that feeling until it disappears. Now, I would recommend, to be honest, or, at least, we should show our feelings to that person we like, if that someone is not an asshole. If that person is an asshole or an immature, well, we accept our mistake and go on with our life because there are a lot of fishes in the sea.
Posted by cubo on 03-26-2018
JB Fernandez

The answer will always be a no if you don't ask!

There's no point of hiding your feelings toward your Crush. Life is too short to wonder, you should start acting in reality to bring your fantasy into life. Don't be scared of rejection, it is part of our life. We get rejected sometimes, but it doesn't mean that we are not worth it.
Posted by JB Fernandez on 04-01-2018
gavinci13

Move to next of you fail.

Be expressive, specially when you are young. If you want someone just express it. You are give just one life don't waste it. Don't regret in the future saying what if I try it. at lease you will know upfront if she feel the same way too, if not just move on and find your next target. Enjoy your life, enjoy your youthfulness. Time is the most valuable thing we have in life. Go get as many girls you can, but just do it one at the time.
Posted by gavinci13 on 02-26-2018
mitan143

It is always better to confess.

For me, I don't care whether I got hurt, rejected or not as long as I confess my true feelings to someone. I believe if you will just keep it forever, you are just letting your self get hurt every time. Unlike if you will be going to confess to your crush, if she or he will reject you instantly then you'll just be broken once and by that you can move on now. I know getting rejected is most people don't want to feel but be brave because I believe it is always better to confess than hiding it forever and you never know maybe he or she likes you too.
Posted by mitan143 on 04-13-2018
Drean2002

Go And Confess

Nothing will happen if you will just sit there and stare. Even if your a girl or boy or whatever your gender is. Don't be ashamed. He or she may have someone else but you better tell it or you will just keep hurting yourself. Just don't fall to hard because you might get hurt.
Posted by Drean2002 on 07-17-2018
allyn2017

confess

Whether you get rejected or not, it is important to reveal your real feelings to the person, because it will give you peace and someday if you think about it, you will regret not telling the person your feelings.
Posted by allyn2017 on 11-08-2018

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Hide your feelings from your crush

Hide your feelings from your crush
So you have a crush on that cute girl that live next door, or with that gorgeous guy that work the shift just after yours. Should you tell them? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Why would you? I mean, read the cons on the other side of this versus and look how heavy and terrible they are: you really want to risk to experience something like that? Sure, there is a minimal chance your crush like you back... but you would already knew at this point, won't you? No no, the better way for action might actually be to hide your feeling to your crush! This way you can keep being just friends, maybe, seeing each other often without nothing more. You'll always have that wish, that desire of sharing, and all the powerful feelings of a crush, but at least you'll always be sure to have the other person! Other people might notice you acting weird when in their company, but be careful: you never know who to trust! Never confess to anyone, keep everything inside you... until it explodes. Oh, it will eventually happen. It seems so nice and easy to have your feelings hidden, but have you ever actually tried? Life might become hell itself - no more sleep, no more eating (or too much, it depends from person to person) and only one thought during the whole day that might distract you from other things... and even other people. Your crush will always have the priority for some reason, and hiding the feeling will eventually transform them in a obsession probably. But at least they'll never know! They'll always be your friends, and your family (and other friends of course) won't ever know anything. One day maybe, with patience, something might happen... but you will want it to happen just naturally, maybe it's in your fate. Maybe not. But the simple thought of going to your crush and confess everything is just too much for you.

Pros
  • There is literally nothing to do
  • You can keep your crush as friends as long as they won't suspect anything
  • Eventually something might happen naturally, in the future... maybe.

Cons
  • Can be pretty painful
  • The crush might end up being a obsession
  • Your friends and family might notice something weird

Supporters

kgord

I have done this

Honestly, the last time I confessed my feelings to a crush I was sorry I did. It was pretty clear he didn't like me,,and I felt stupid for telling him I had feelings for him. I wouldn't do it again to be honest. After all I am not in HS.
Posted by kgord on 02-25-2018
overcast

My Way

My crush was materialistic and she married for money. So me confessing was useless as it is. So it is some of the time better. I have found out that crush has their own place. And we just have to go through this phase. It means in long term it has no value.
Posted by overcast on 03-23-2018
foxchannel

Hide Your Feelings

When I had a crush on someone, it was usually on somebody who didn't even know that I was alive and I knew enough to know that revealing my feelings to them would not get me anywhere. Also … sometimes, if I waited long enough, my feelings died or I eventually saw their “character flaws” and realized that we would not have made a happy couple anyway.

Yeah. If it's a crush … you should definitely keep it to yourself. If it's true love … no worries. True love is way stronger than a crush and you will know. The question about keeping your feelings won't even be a part of the equation. Secret love? Why keep it a secret?

P.S. I'm not complicating this by considering What If scenarios like ~ supposed they're married … blah blah blah. I'm just talking plain old U and Me without all the added “sour notes”.

Posted by foxchannel on 03-22-2018
superlicca

Better option

As a girl, Hiding your feelings from your crush is a better option. I don't think it is great to confess your feelings to someone special. If I do this then I won't be able to face him on the next day. Hiding my feelings makes me more comfortable to be with him. Sometimes, a boy will take advantage if they know that someone has a crush on him.
Posted by superlicca on 10-18-2018
jeffreyjose48

Hide your feelings from your crush

I vote for hide your feelings from your crush. Its embarrassing for me to show my feelings. I feel ashamed to do it.l
Posted by jeffreyjose48 on 10-18-2018
antonToledo

Hide my feelings

I would rather hide my feelings for my crush. Because I know what I feel is only temporary. I may be admiring someone only because I saw the highlights features of that person's personality. Instead of confessing right away, I will give some time of getting to know and let myself enjoy happy feelings towards that person without him knowing my feelings.
Posted by antonToledo on 12-18-2018

Comments

Barida
The thing that we have to understand in life is the need to value ourselves and do not let anyone be the point of what happens in our lives. This is simply the reason I shouldn't be letting my crush know that I've got feelings for her no matter the circumstances. All I will try to do is to be that better man that every lady would want to spend the rest of her days with while the rest will now be left to God. Getting better every minute of the day and working towards becoming a better man and if all these doesn't make her want to have me, then it's her fault and not mine.
Posted by Barida on 02-24-2018
Corzhens
I guess it depends on the situation where your crush will get to know your feelings. But I understand that if you think your crush will never like you and may even insult you about your feelings then I guess it is only wise to be discreet about it. There is the thing called secret love that most remain secret until they die because they didn’t have the confidence to let it be known by the person they admire.
Posted by Corzhens on 12-13-2018
ion
I'm going to hide it but I will make sure that she will feel how I love her, I will confuse her until she ask me. It's hard to just say to someone that you have crush on them, they will just feel uncomfortable with your presence. Much better to hide you feelings and in return she always talk to you, and getting closer to your crush, and let the feelings decide.
Posted by ion on 02-24-2018
ion
I'm going to hide it but I will make sure that she will feel how I love her, I will confuse her until she ask me. It's hard to just say to someone that you have crush on them, they will just feel uncomfortable with your presence. Much better to hide you feelings and in return she always talk to you, and getting closer to your crush, and let the feelings decide.
Posted by ion on 02-24-2018
Corzhens
This topic reminds me of my high school days when I was studying in an all-girls school. Crushes are common during that age and me and my classmates were telling the names of our crushes. But it’s unfortunate that we were not able to personally meet with proper introduction to our crushes because boys were prohibited from entering our school campus. And during that time, parties were not common so all we did was to sigh and stare at the photo of our crushes.
Posted by Corzhens on 02-24-2018
VintageRose
I think it all depends on how outgoing you are, and how young you are in life.

Back in my middle school days I was a really shy girl and I was easily embarrassed, so I chose to hide my feelings for the guy I liked, even when the chance of being liked back was high. I just couldn't stop thinking about the risks, you know? For the 12-year-old me, the risk of being rejected was far too scary to attempt anything.

However, now that I'm older and wiser I realize that... It's not such a big deal! Rejection is a part of life, and it's better to be upfront with your feelings while they're still growing, instead of keeping them hidden until they turn into something more serious and uncontrollable. Romance is a gamble, but if you don't even play the game, you'll never win.
Posted by VintageRose on 02-24-2018
vinaya
I think it is better to confess your feelings to your crush. If you don't tell him/her, how would he/she know about your feelings. If you have a crush on someone, you should be bold enough to tell the person. Liking someone is not a crime. Expressing your feelings is also not a crime either.
Posted by vinaya on 02-24-2018
chatbox
I've had crushes in my younger days but I'm a girl and our norms dictate that we should not be very vocal about our admiration for a guy. There are good reasons for keeping our crush a secret and that is not just to protect ourselves from being hurt if the other person doesn't feel the same way. We also need to protect ourselves from being taken advantage of if the crush turn out to be a not so good person after all. Crushes are mostly based on physical looks and we all know that looks can be deceiving so it's best to know the person first for some time and to establish a good foundation of friendship.
Posted by chatbox on 02-25-2018
vinaya
You have hit the nail hard. yes crushes are based on physical looks. It is more of a sexual attraction. Crush has nothing to do with love. However, crushes might easily develop into love and lasting relationship. In fact most of the relationship starts with a crush.
Posted by vinaya on 02-26-2018
Pixie
I think that it is better to confess your feelings to your crush. When I was still at school I had a crush on a guy from another grade. I was really shy at that time and so I never confessed my feeling to him. Then one day I learned that he was going out with another girl from my class. I felt so sad and heartbroken at that time. There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings to someone. At least this way even if that person rejects you you won't have any regrets later on as you know that you have tried to express your feelings.
Posted by Pixie on 02-25-2018
Anonymous
Sometimes its hard to confess our feelings to who we are crushing with. We fear rejection and the change of behavior/ your relation with your crush. We're scared that they might not feel the same way. Fear of rejection, that's what takes over. But really, we should say how we feel because a lot of times hearts are broken with words left unspoken.
Posted by Anonymous on 02-27-2018
cess_08
Sometimes its hard to confess our feelings to who we are crushing with. We fear rejection and the change of behavior/ your relation with your crush. We're scared that they might not feel the same way. Fear of rejection, that's what takes over. But really, we should say how we feel because a lot of times hearts are broken with words left unspoken.
Posted by cess_08 on 02-27-2018
vivalavanda
I'd rather confess my feelings and get hurt than hide it and asking myself every day because of what if's scenarios in my head that won't let me sleep. Most us consider the negative sides when we ask some questions that might hurt us the truth, but isn't it much better than to be comforted with a lie? There's nothing really wrong to confess your feelings to someone because you should know that not all the time, the things that you give will be reciprocated, that's not how the world works. You are one step decision before you change your life.
Posted by vivalavanda on 03-03-2018
jaymish
If you're a man confess, if you're a woman hide our feeling at all costs. Lol! But seriously I tend to think that realtionships work best when one party loves the other more. It is better for the man to love the woman more. When the woman loves the man more, the man tends to take advantage of the relationship. I may be biased but once a woman knows that the man loves her, she nurtures the relationship and treats the man with a lot of tender love and care.
Posted by jaymish on 03-14-2018
JoeMilford
Well, I think that this is a matter of timing, and, overall, this is a terribly complicated decision to make. I guess that if you can discern that the other person is interested in you as well, then, yes, maybe you should go for it. However, if it is obvious that the interest is NOT shared, then I guess one should just hold back, if possible, and then deal with those feelings in private as best as possible. Rejection is horrible, but you might also run off a good friend by expressing feelings you might get over soon enough anyway, right?
Posted by JoeMilford on 03-18-2018
overcast
I think we in young days are more desperate about the life. And we are desperate to tell the crush or the potential person about our feelings. For them it means nothing. Often it's just routine for them. You have to understand that crush changes as life goes ahead. So we should learn from our experience. And we should avoid wasting our feelings.
Posted by overcast on 03-23-2018
Steve5
I think it's fine to keep your feelings to yourself. After all, we all have the right to our own privacy. Confessing our feelings is an act of declaration of love. It's something that carries weight and meaning. So you should only do so if the time is right. One can tell that it's time when the moment feels right. When the person is at their best and will be honest with their answer. Rejection isn't as harsh as it seems. It's better to know the truth than to live in a lie.
Posted by Steve5 on 04-11-2018
lovely
No need dying in silence when we can.be out with feeling to the person.concerned and done with, it makes more sense that way and will spare the agony, torture and psychological effect of just storing it in ones mind, which can be damaging.

I do tell my crush back then.in the day and it ends all form of torture so it up to my crush to either accept or we both forget about it.
Posted by lovely on 04-22-2018
RhealaineS
I'd rather take a risk and confess my feelings. I believe in YOLO. You only live once. That's why we have to live our life with no regrets. You won't lose anything if you will confess your feelings. If your crush don't like you the way you like him/her, then it's okay. At least you let him/her know how you feel. On the other hand, what if your crush likes you too? Take a risk. You'll never know.
Posted by RhealaineS on 07-09-2018
ion
Well, for me, much better to hide it and don't talk about the feelings, but I will surely do my best for her to feel that I have a crush on her. I will surely make her notice that, and wait for her to ask me, or she's the one who initiate the question. Much better to show your feelings rather than to talk about it, and for a man of course, we need to be still safe. LOL.
Posted by ion on 07-24-2018
Anonymous
We only live once! I think it's better to confess your feelings rather than to hide it. Take the risk. Who knows? The person may be in love with you as well. Maybe he/she is just waiting for your confession.
Posted by Anonymous on 08-08-2018
mitan143
Well, of course no matter how shy you are you should try to confess to him because I believe hiding it brings no good to you as well. You never know maybe he/she also has a secret admiration to you and he/she's just also why to tell to you personally. Some people are scared to confess because of the rejection that may be thrown right away, but if you get rejected then don't just give up easily. Try to persuade your crush more that you are worthy for her love as well.
Posted by mitan143 on 09-19-2018
nekonieden
Actually I don't know. Maybe if its your close friend or what , I just force myself to be quite as I don't want us to feel awkward after the confession. I have tried this just this year. I tried to confess my feelings to someone, someone who is close to my family and I am deeply in pain with the result as I just got rejected and he told me that there's still someone else who is better than him and until now I regret it.
Posted by nekonieden on 10-09-2018
jeffreyjose48
I choose to hide my feelings for my crush. Its not easy to confess your feelings. I am ashamed to do it.
Posted by jeffreyjose48 on 10-18-2018
mdayrit
I prefer to just keep it to myself. My understanding of crush is someone that you just admire for seeing something special in them. There is no need to say it straight to them. I believe that it will just make things feel weird and awkward after. No need to admit anything to admire a person and make them feel special.
Posted by mdayrit on 11-01-2018
allyn2017
I am a fan of romance so for me it is better to tell how you feel, to let it out and see if you have a chance. Also, if you get rejected it's ok at least you know where to start moving on.
Posted by allyn2017 on 11-08-2018
Carrascoshiela
Better spill the beans rather than keeping it to yourself. Feelings are meant to be expressed not to be kept. If you keep on hiding it will explode eventually. You will never know what happens next. You just have to be brave enough to handle the aftermath.
Posted by Carrascoshiela on 12-16-2018