Do you think marriage and love is overrated?

Do you think marriage and love is overrated?
The concept of marriage and love is something taken very seriously by the religious section of the world because it's a union set aside by God to untie man and women to become one and bear the authority to procreate.

But with the recent trend going on in the world, it's like marriage doesn't hold any value any more because the rate of divorce going on is very worrying and there are so many single parents growing.

Does this mean that people have lost hope in marriage, thereby seeing it as an overrated phenomenon?

Agree

overcast

Yes

Women in 2018 marry for money. And men marry for family experience. And that is changing. And with feminism rising, the families will be destroyed soon. I have seen that love has gone temporary. And people have started to move away from marriage. This is expected considering how the world has gone in changes with feminism attacking men.
Posted by overcast on 12-15-2018
NerdIndeed

Marriage is just an event

I don't see the point of marrying someone. Love? You can still love her yet not be married to her. See, only females push this concept to their boyfriend's minds. Haha!
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-15-2018
GeorgeDr

Marriage Yes , but not love

I think marriage is a standard that is truly outdated and points to a time when women couldn't make money on their one an a household was needed. Nowdays it is a non needed pressure upon couples. Love on the other hand is not overrated and humans always had the need for love.
Posted by GeorgeDr on 12-14-2018
alyopsis@mail.com

There’s a big difference between love and ma

Marriage is a weird concept. It used to be about concentrating economic resources and security.

Which is practical but not very romantic.

Then with the rise of the middle class after the Industrial Revolution, the concept of love and romance entered the idea of marriage.

Love is a very powerful force whereas marriage is just an artificial construct

Posted by alyopsis@mail.com on 12-15-2018

Disagree

cmoneyspinner

HOPE and Happiness both begin with the letter H

Overrated. I think quite the opposite. I think love and marriage is underrated. Underrated. Disrespected. Disregarded. It's a holy union, made in heaven. But people don't consider a sacred bond at all. But it's clear that people still view it as a "gold standard" or an "ideal" for happiness in this life. Otherwise why would people keep getting married? It's because they have HOPE! Hope for happiness. Some getting married several times. They really have HOPE!
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 12-15-2018
kaka135
I agree with you, I think love and marriage are underrated nowadays. It's not as holy or respected as it's used to be. I still see friends around me have trust in love and marriage, and many of them are working together to hold the relationship well. Though I know there are people who might have lost hope in marriage, I always believe once they have found THE ONE, they will have hope and fall in love again. I like these two words that begin with H!
Alymae

No it is not!

I believe that love and marriage is a wonderful thing and cannot be disregarded. Marriage fails due to different reasons, not because of marriage itself. There are lots of failed marriages but there are also marriages that last for a lifetime. I have seen them around me, they may have encountered difficulties but they shouldered on. They learn to forgive and to forget.
Posted by Alymae on 12-15-2018
bee.rthooyah

uplift the status of marriage

Most couples these days marry for the wrong reason that is why when hardships and temptations comes. They easily gives up on marriage. That is why I think that couples who are thinking of marrying each other must really think deeply before they finally decide to tie the knot.
Posted by bee.rthooyah on 12-17-2018
theresajane

No

Marriage and love for me will never be overrated. With the divorce issue, it's just that people have their grave issues and getting back together is hard. But, for me, marriage and love are sacred, it's never overrated.
Posted by theresajane on 12-14-2018
emiaj55

People who says so, says something about themselve

Marriage is a union that sadly a few could understand today. And why is this so? Because the recent generations have been lost to the meaning of real union or marriage? And why not? they treat marriage like a contract that if all does not end well, well there are plenty of way out. Let's annul and say to the world that nothing really happened. There was no marriage in the beginning whatsoever. If we were not cut for that, okay then let's divorce. And laws of man permitted it. Thus the moral implications that leads to these. The thinking that it is okay to rush on to marriage because if we don't want it anymore, we could just throw it away. The thinking that marriage is fun, so let us consummate it beforehand. In our culture, Marriage and everything is sacred. It embodies everything that could be considered the prime of life. But now, there are only a few who gets to experience this. It is one of this society's sickness that may never ever be healed anymore.
Posted by emiaj55 on 12-15-2018
burgosmichael2407

I begged to disagree.

I believe the problem here lies not in the marriage but lies more in the people's relationship with God. God is love and He wants us to go and multiply under the sacred sacrament of marriage. God institute's the first marriage in the Garden of Eden. God's plan for mankind is perfect until Satan show up in the scene.

Most people have a failed marriage because they don't have a strong foundation in their relationship and that must include God. People who failed their marriage for various reasons. They get married but they are not ready yet. They get married because the girl becomes pregnant. They get married only for the pleasures of sex. They get married because they are lonely or because they don't want to be an old maid. There's a lot of reasons why marriage fails and all that reasons are wrong.

In conclusion, people have failed marriages because they marry for the wrong reason, wrong person, wrong timing and wrong foundation.

Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 12-14-2018
YoloBoy

Not at all

It is not overrated. It truly depends on how the people see it and how they would react to it. But as long as the two couples do not believe it is overrated then it certainly is not overrated.
Posted by YoloBoy on 12-14-2018
pencilneckgeek

Disagreeing on love but agreeing on marriage being

I disagree that love is overrated. Love makes the world go round, its cliche but its true and it is definitely not overrated. Marriage on the other hand is a concept I am iffy on. I have seen unhappy marriages all round me that it is hard to have hope on having a successful marriage.
Posted by pencilneckgeek on 12-16-2018
davedaot

No

Marriage and Love is not overrated at all, when you look at it this are the most important things that a person can experience or have, because without love, without marriage then life would be miserable, life would be a mess, life will have less meaning and without marriage, you being with your other half doesn't really mean at all it's like at any point the other can leave in a heartbeat.
Posted by davedaot on 12-17-2018
antonToledo

No!

Do I agree marriage and love is overrated? I strongly disagree with this. Why would you say love is overrated? love would never be overrated! Love is the most amazing in this world and without love, we would leave entirely in hell. And when two person loves each other it is their right to vow there love with each other in the form of marriage.
Posted by antonToledo on 12-15-2018
Klint

Love is not overrated

Love is what keeps people going in this world. Love bring out all the beautiful twists and turns of our lives. Love is a sweet thing longed by almost everybody. Love is definitely not overrated.
Posted by Klint on 12-17-2018
NikSuks

It is not overrated.

I do not think that marriage and love are overrated things. It is important for most of the people to have someone to love, someone to share things, stories with. People need love because love is the fuel that makes this world run. Marriage is fine, also. Commitment and loyalty are beautiful things and most valuable in one human being. Along with love, of course :)
Posted by NikSuks on 12-16-2018
purpletaco

Absolutely not!

First of all, I would not necessarily equate marriage and love.

It is true that a lot of people use marriage to achieve some specific goal - be it monetary gain or perhaps immigration status, or simply someone to assist in child rearing.

Ultimately, marriage is an age old tradition, and we built a society based on traditions. I think today a lot of people have lost faith in this institutions, but when you find a partner whose values align with yours, and you both value marriage, I think it's a beautiful celebration of love.

Love, meanwhile, comes in so many shapes and forms. And I don't think it's overrated, I think it's just evolved to encompass more than the strict societal rules allowed it to be in the past. To write about all things love is would require a book, but at the end of the day, it's by no means overrated to feel needed and cared for.

Posted by purpletaco on 12-18-2018

Comments

Denis_P
I don’t know if I’d say that it’s overrated, but I’d definitely say that the emphasis on marriage and pressure to get married is overwhelmingly, unreasonably prevalent in society. I’m a single 26-year-old, and my older family members and neighbors are constantly pestering me about when I’m going to find a girlfriend and get married. I don’t want to tell them the truth so as to avoid an argument, but I honestly intend on staying single for the rest of my life.

They insist that I’m going to be sad and lonely if I don’t find someone, but the truth is that I’m happy being alone. At this point, it would honestly make me unhappy to have to deal with a romantic relationship. It’s one thing if someone happens to walk into your life and you fall in love, and it’s another to just pick someone up, get hitched and then spend your life being miserable just because the people around you bullied you into doing so.
Posted by Denis_P on 12-14-2018
kaushikangara
I am on the same boat brother. There is a constant pressure from your relatives and friends to get married soon. I think I should be financially stable before I can even think of marriage. I am tired of answering their questions and to avoid them, I have started to skip attending family functions. You need to get settled in life before you can think of marriage.
Posted by kaushikangara on 12-14-2018
Martin
There is a certain age(late twenties) when almost every topic is directed at you and it is always about when you are going to be like your friends and get a spouse. while it may be right or wrong, the decision should be made by an individual.
Posted by Martin on 12-14-2018
amelia88
There’s a lot of truth here. I’m married but have seen many people I know simply “settle” for someone simply because it was society’s expectation that they should be married at a certain point. True love is hard to find and once you’re married it can be a giant pain to try and get out of that marriage if it’s not working out.
Posted by amelia88 on 12-14-2018
Martin
Yeeah there are numerous people out there who did not want to dissapoint their family and friends hence had to do the "right" thing and marry someone who they may or may not have loved fully.
Posted by Martin on 12-14-2018
Martin
Hahahaha. I think that they will be devastated (especially the parents) when they hear such a trhing as people expect all of us to be in the same norm.
Posted by Martin on 12-14-2018
vinaya
The reason why religion, almost all religions in the world, emphasize on marriage is simple: God wants men and women to be committed to single partner, remain loyal and faithful and have children. Religion forbids promiscuity. The rate of divorce has increased over the years, that's not because marriage is not working, it is because men and women are not ready to apply what it needs for marriage to last.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
pencilneckgeek
Yes, you don't just pick a person and then marry them because of societal pressure. They say that you don't find love, it just happens. The same thing happens to me, older people would always ask and probe about my current love life then would make a remark that I should be settling down at my age when I tell them that I am single. It is not a race against time, if it happens then it happens. I could definitely do without the continuous pestering of society of one's private life.
Posted by pencilneckgeek on 12-16-2018
jpk0007
Well, although I agree to the fact that we are seeing an increase in the number of divorces taking place these days, but that doesn't mean that Marriage as an institution is losing its relevance. I think that individuals have become more aware of the fact that it is better to end a marriage which is not working or which has failed. In the past, people used to stay together with each other in spite of getting emotionally getting separated from each other due to societal pressures. Today men and women are more independent financially and they can easily take the decision of a divorce if they find that their marriage is not working
Posted by jpk0007 on 12-14-2018
Martin
which means that then in the future there is a possibility for numerous relationships to be organic and natural without any people forcing themselves into marriages just to fulfill the responsibility bestowed upon them by those around them and not their own choosing.
Posted by Martin on 12-14-2018
vinaya
Those who are getting divorced are the same people who also rushed to get married. The rate of divorce is rising, however, you should a,so compare with the rate of remarriage. A lot of people who gets divorced also get remarried.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
pencilneckgeek
Yes, more couples want to separate ways and be happy without each other than to be miserable together and that I think is the best thing to do in situations like that. Why waste your life away being unhappy when you can both be free and have a shot again at happiness? Marriage will always be one of the numerous ways to show someone your love them but when it stops working then you should also have a way out of it, not be trapped inside an imaginary wall of your marriage.
Posted by pencilneckgeek on 12-16-2018
Martin
Marriage ought to be a choice that is made only when one is ready and due to increased awareness and people getting awakened to what is right for them. It will not lose relevance although more and more people will remain single for longer but when they get married it will be an organic relationship.
Posted by Martin on 12-14-2018
iambeth
Emotional and psychological readiness is important when one is going to dive into marriage. It happens when both parties are in love and are ready to take the next step. No amount of coaxing should force anyone to marry.
Posted by iambeth on 12-15-2018
NerdIndeed
Yep, marriage is totally overrated because you don’t have to get married if you don’t want to it is simply your choice and your choice alone?.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-15-2018
theresajane
I don't know. I think they are not overrated. They are very sacred for me and one should never okay with their partners about it. If they plan to get married with the assurance that they can file a divorce afterwards, then they are kids. It's just sad that there are people like them.
Posted by theresajane on 12-14-2018
ivandelrey
My cousins are all married now, they all have children and they want me to jump on the same boat. I'm tired of hearing them say the same things like "when are you going to get married?", "are you still single?" like that is all they care about! Why can't they ask things about my career or the things that I've done... you know, things that actually matter, because I've got a lot to say. My parents know I don't like people asking me those questions so they never bring me to family reunions because I told them I might lose it.
Posted by ivandelrey on 12-15-2018
nekonieden
Same boat here! I just can't stand all the people around me as they keep on saying when am I going to get married. They keep me asking the same question again and again. It is still acceptable if they're gonna ask me "When are you going to have a boyfriend?" but it's not. I just find it funny why are they like that.
Posted by nekonieden on 12-15-2018
theresajane
Well, that's really annoying. I am lucky that my cousins are not in that state yet, though some of them have their own families now. If that would happen to me, I would really be annoyed. Haha
Posted by theresajane on 12-15-2018
luv2xacosta
Some people marry for money and fame while others marry for love. As of this era, marriage is the same with changing with clothes. When your partner is tired or both of the couples do not understand or there are rifts already to will annul or get a divorce and then marry another person whom they are in love with again.
Posted by luv2xacosta on 12-15-2018
NerdIndeed
You see, love has an expiration date. When you're married, that's what business trips are for, after some time you come back to the same old reality living with a hag. Haha!
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-15-2018
overcast
I think with rise of feminism, marriage system is slowly collapsing. And it can go even worst as the families are going to collapse. Men are a bit emasculated and are acting like pet to the mothers. So that tends to affect in the marriage too. So people need to find out how to work ahead with the marriage from there onwards.
Posted by overcast on 12-15-2018
nekonieden
For me marriage is very important and sacred that's why it can't be easy as it is. You can't marry someone you just met since it needs bonds and understanding loving each other. If you r'e not sure about someones feelings then don't take marriage easily.
Posted by nekonieden on 12-15-2018
theresajane
I agree with you. Also, if you are faced with challenges in your married life, giving up is not the option. You have to build a stronger communication and understanding with each other, or else, the marriage that you worked hard on would really fall.
Posted by theresajane on 12-15-2018
dimensionless
I believe love can exist without marriage, while marriage can't exist without love. The incentive of marrying seems little when you consider the fact that a huge amount of marriages end in divorce. Of course, you can say that it depends on the couple, but I think everyone who got a divorce thought that they were marrying the right person. Marriage is overrated.
Posted by dimensionless on 12-15-2018
iambeth
I agree with you. I do not think people get married and say their vows thinking that they might break up in the future and file for divorce. They're thinking this is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.
Posted by iambeth on 12-15-2018
Carrascoshiela
Marriages and love fail. We all know that, but it doesnt mean that it is overrated. Love is timeless. We fall in love, we get hurt but in the end we still choose to love regardless of how scary it is to get hurt again. That is the magic of marriage. It is surrounded and built with love and strenghtened with trust and test of time. People who are saying it is overrated are the ones who are the victims of love. I am very certain that deep insode their hearts they still yearn to be loved and dreams of getting married someday.
Posted by Carrascoshiela on 12-15-2018
NerdIndeed
Man, marriage and kids aren't even on my mind. I'm thinking about how I can get to where I need to be. Marriage and kids are shackles on ankles. I don't have time for that now.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-15-2018
Corzhens
I am saddened by the trend that marriage is being ignored now. When I was young marriage was sacred and a big deal not only to the bride and groom but also to their parents. But now I have been seeing posts in social media about pictures of the ultrasound to declare that the unmarried woman is pregnant. It is like being proud of the situation instead of being ashamed that she is pregnant out of wedlock.
Posted by Corzhens on 12-15-2018
gutzman
It 's not that marriage doesn't hold any value any more nowadays. The truth is we are now being open on probabilities and freely making choices on our own with the communities' acceptance. Some say this is not acceptable but reality wise people think this way. Why would they stay on a relationship which is toxic? Then the option to divorce is present.
Posted by gutzman on 12-16-2018
Caguioa747
No, love is the best of life, not only the love of people but the love of anything. If repulsive, start saving up for surgeries to fix if possible. You're young enough to where you can change everything within a few years, mostly. If not a purely physical thing there's always therapy
Posted by Caguioa747 on 12-16-2018
davedaot
I definitely disagree that love and marriage are overrated, because for me these are essentials to have a meaningful life and for me marriage is sacred, it kind of legitimize both of you and to promise to each other that they'll never leave each other until the day they die.
Posted by davedaot on 12-17-2018