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Live with roommates

Live with roommates
Sooner or later, there comes a time when you have to leave your home and start your own journey. Maybe you have to study far away, maybe you found a new job, maybe just wanted a bit of indipendency... Whatever the case is, you have a few options on how to manage your life from now on, the first one being not living alone, but sharing a flat, or a apartment, with some other roommates.

You and your friends, or unknown strangers that you just met, will live under the same roof, sharing a bedroom and all the common parts of your probably small house. You'll have your bathroom, a little kitchen, and all the basic needs. Most likely the house won't be that big, and you might have some space issues. But at least you can be a team: you'll have to pay a little less than living completely alone, since the monthly fee to pay will be not that high, and you can share most expense. Besides, it will be easier to keep it cleaned if you do a proper teamwork: sure, every once in a while you can meet that dirty roomate that never saw a broomstick in his whole life, but what if that roomate is you? Speaking of this, cleaning and stuff like that aren't the only problem you might have with roomates.. You will most likely live with people you never saw before, strangers, and how can you know that you like them and they aren't terrible people? It's a jump into darkness, into the unknown. Besides, even if they are nice people you might have different workings hours, and if you finish early and they finish late they will enter pretty late at night when you are already sleeping, and even the quieter person will most likely make a little bit of noise.

In any case, sharing a flat with other roomates is a experience that have to be, well, experienced, to truly understand what it means. You might not like it, but you might also find new lifelong friends.

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Pros
  • You could meet new friends
  • You'll never feel lonely
  • Not so expensive
  • You can share works and expenses

Cons
  • You'll also have to share the bathroom and other common areas
  • Terrible roomates mean terrible life
  • Can be hard to sleep at night with noisy roomates

Supporters

Anonymous

No man is an island.

It is really great to live with some of your friends and cherish each day you have with them than living alone and being lonely.
Posted by Anonymous on 02-12-2018
Mahshiemonalisa

lonely

I get lonely easily. I'm a bit introverted, but I still like being with people. I don't think I would enjoy living alone. I am married with a family now, but if I were not, I would prefer to have a roommate. I have, in fact, never lived by myself and it's not appealing to me at all. The only way I might enjoy living by myself is if I lived in an apartment building with neighbors who were close friends. That way, I could enjoy my own space, but still have the companionship of people on a regular basis.
Posted by Mahshiemonalisa on 02-11-2018
TheArticulate

Living with Roommate

I like be able to have interactions with other people, even if it's just in the morning before or work or for a little bit after work. Not to mention living on your own can be expensive, so it's nice to have someone to share the cost of living with.

I have a roommate now, and I think I may just be really lucky that the two of us get along very well. We don't have any arguments or quarrels, and we share common interests so we have a good time when are together.

Posted by TheArticulate on 02-13-2018
Kakashi2020

Friends

It's fun living with friends, it's like a never ending party and besides it's safer and more economical. Being alone can be quite lonely sometimes with no friends around, home life would be boring.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 02-12-2018
JB Fernandez

More is happier!

A night with your friends on the same house is such a good idea to deal with. Just imagine the joy of hanging out with them a lot before settling for something grown ups stuffs.
Posted by JB Fernandez on 02-12-2018

71%

Live alone

Live alone
So, like I said before, the time has come: for any reason you might choose to, you decide to live alone. You look at the list of possible houses and all of them haved shared bedrooms or similar. But you say "NO!", absolutely no! You said that you want to live ALONE, and you meant it! The time of sharing your whole life with other people, be it family or friends, is over, and you are now ready to take off on your own. Well, good luck with that.

Living alone is surely wonderful, a magnificent experience that will give you a huge sense of freedom, but at the same time will give you a huge amount of problems. Do you remember all the issues your family had to face together when at home? Well, now it's all up to you, entirely. Problems with the house? You must manage them. It's time to clean because the apartment is gross and dirty? Time to work. Feeling lonely at home? Well... sorry. This might be a huge point for some people: feeling lonely is a terrible feeling, and living alone could mean that you experience it pretty often. But once again, being all on your own, completely on your own, is at the same time a wonderful feeling. You do whatever you want, you eat whatever you want, you go to sleep and wake up whenever you want.... of course all of those might have some limits related to work and health, but besides of that you are now the manager of your life. Speaking about managing, that part won't be easy since living alone is, sorry to say, really expensive: unless you get really lucky you will have to face a lot of stuff to pay for, from gas to electricty to the home itself, and eventually even some home-related problems. Managing money is possible, sure, but pretty hard and you never know when the next issue will be ready to bother you.

But like other things in life, all of those problems are just a small price to pay to have the complete freedom for yourself.

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Pros
  • Freedom!
  • A huge sense of independence
  • You can do whatever you want, whenever you want (almost)

Cons
  • Expensive
  • You might feel lonely
  • All the problems you'll have to face are on your own

Supporters

kingcool52

Depends

It depends on personal preference I guess. Some people prefer to live with others since it is much more entertaining. The biggest problem though with living with roommates is that if they are unclean or have some horrible habits then it's going to annoy you a lot and that's going to cause a lot of problems.
Posted by kingcool52 on 04-16-2018
limberg

I prefer living alone

I've tried living with a roommate and I also tried living Alone. And I can say that living alone is much more comfortable than living with a roommate. If you have a roommate, you'll have to get along with him or her. But this is easier said than done. There will be many times when you won't get along with each other. And believe me, that would be a LOT of misunderstandings and quarrels. There won't be such a thing when I would live alone. There would be times when you would feel lonely, but you could easily ask a friend to come over if that happens.
Posted by limberg on 02-13-2018
Mehano

Freedom

I have never liked the idea of living with a room mate because it is simply unpredictable. I have always either lived alone, with family or with my partner.

I am a bit of a loner by nature so I always value my personal space very highly.

Posted by Mehano on 02-11-2018
Denis_P

Solitude.

I have never liked the idea of living with roommates. It is one of the reasons I moved out of a big city, because I just couldn't stand the idea of having to live with a complete stranger. So much of your life depends on the behavior of this person. Yes, more often than not people are going to be normal, but I've read so many nightmare roommate stories where the roommate doesn't ever clean up after themselves, doesn't buy groceries but still uses them, has loud parties, etc. No way I'd ever live with someone else.
Posted by Denis_P on 02-13-2018
overcast

Freedom and Safety

I feel safe on my own. I don't want the room mate with me. Because there does not seem to be much value out of such type of the arrangement. Unless If I am interested in the sharing of the money. There is no chance I'd be spending the money and space with someone else.
Posted by overcast on 02-12-2018
JoeMilford

I Love My Privacy

Living with roomies is just fine; although, I could tell you some horror stories about it too. Personally, I would rather have my own place. I really enjoy my own privacy and not worrying about having to deal with the preferences or habits of others. I can compromise; that's not the issue. Also, when I am in a relationship, I have no issue respecting the other person's needs and wants--I actually become quite laid back in that situation. However, if I am NOT in a romantic relationship with someone, I would first choose to live alone so that I can just enjoy my own space.
Posted by JoeMilford on 02-11-2018
Scarlet

Live alone

I want to live lone than with a room mate because I can have my own rule in my house. I don't have to sacrifice some of my own preferences just to please my room mate. It's good to come home and relax without someone bothering me. Freedom is the purpose of living alone.
Posted by Scarlet on 02-12-2018
Wubwub

more freedom

I prefer to live alone if I could. I get that it will be more difficult since you only have yourself to depend on especially when it comes to paying the bills but overall I think the freedom you get for it makes the whole thing worth it since you could do much more with the space you have without having to think about or consult with another person. Living with a roommate entails needing to stick to rules and schedules and it just doesn't sound too pleasant to me.
Posted by Wubwub on 02-13-2018
Barida

Focused.

Living alone is a good way to remain focused as a person and in as much as it is going to be quite expensive, I have to take that option in the sense that one can also have a form of privacy and understanding myself in a way that no one can really understand. I know that I might feel lonely, but that is a way to remain focused all through.
Posted by Barida on 02-11-2018
NickJ

Living Alone

As someone whose done the roommate thing twice in my younger days with mixed results, I can tell you that nothing beats living alone. You make your own rules, don't have to deal with coming home to someone else's annoying friends after a long day at work, and don't have to have spats about your food, property, rent, etc.
Posted by NickJ on 02-11-2018
Jigz Alvarina Lim

Alone, of course

Not that I am not friendly or accommodating, or an introvert, - name it all, I just want freedom and most especially, privacy. Living with room mates can be good but it's so hard to trust them even if he or she is your best friend. I have a friend who is living with her room mate, and then one time, one of her jewelry was gone, and it didn't show up. Her room mate never admitted that she was the one who took it. But yeah, even though there were no proofs, it is still hard to live with someone you barely know. Instead of having a good sleep, you will still fix things that are not totally necessary. I still choose living alone as it is what I used to do.
Posted by Jigz Alvarina Lim on 02-13-2018
treecko142

Privacy

I don't want anyone invading my personal space, and there are just a lot of potential dangers of sharing your house and your life with other people who you don't initially know, so living alone is optimal for me.
Posted by treecko142 on 02-12-2018

Comments

kgord
I have a roommate really a renter for financial reasons. It does help a bit with companionship, but the guy who is living here notw is not very social and not all roomates are. He has his own bathroom and bedroom. I would not want to share my bedroom or bathroom with anyone else, unless I was married to them.
Posted by kgord on 02-11-2018
cess_08
Knowing myself, I'm the kind of person who wants a lot of my privacy and space. It's not that I'm not fond to mingle with people, it's just that I value my time a lot. Maybe I can consider having a housemate, but definitely not a roommate :)
Posted by cess_08 on 02-11-2018
muaaz.93
I think it depends on your age. If you're young, and I mean in your early twenties, go for the great house with the bad roommate! You can have great parties, and the roommate will provide fodder for good stories later on. It's not that great to live alone when you are young, and it'll teach you ways to be a great person to live with- important when you find a mate.
Posted by muaaz.93 on 02-11-2018
vinaya
That's true. When I was in the high school, I really liked living with roommates, however, when I was in the university, I disliked sharing the room. In was in the teens when I was in high school and I was in the late twenties when I was in the university.
Posted by vinaya on 02-13-2018
hermessantos
Living alone can be wonderful, after all, it must be great to have a house of your own, with all your things, without having to share anything with anyone. But not only is a lonely person living alone. I think that the freedom to be able to do what you want and at any time you want is without a doubt the best thing to live alone.
Posted by hermessantos on 02-11-2018
Corzhens
I can’t imagine to be living with a roommate because I am a conservative person who wants privacy all the time. Maybe if I was in a situation where I have to rent an apartment or room for boarding, I would endure the cost just to be with myself. I understand that it is lonely to be alone but for me, it’s great because I can do what I want to do. If I have a roommate then I’m sure that situation will be uncomfortable for me. My habit when taking a bath is to be naked in the bedroom for a while to let the skin dry. It’s not nice to do when I have a roommate.
Posted by Corzhens on 02-11-2018
lovely
I had a terrible experience with a roommate in my first year in high school since then I vowed never to have a roommate and that was my best decision,I enjoy my privacy living alone,nobody to intrude or get into my space,one has total freedom to do whatever it pleases one to do and no annoying person trying to drive one nut.Living alone is better for me.
Posted by lovely on 02-11-2018
overcast
I think each one of us have different way of doing things with the life. And some people are more social than the others. You can see that some of the time room mates can be a big problem with drinks and the other legal issues. And you have to be reasonable with the way things go around. I don't know how that works out. I think on that note I'd choose to have my own space.
Posted by overcast on 02-12-2018
JMS
It really is the best thing in life to have your own company. well, I do live with two dogs so I am not completely on my own. I found that when I live with people that I do actually get lonely and housework and problem dealing is normally down to me anyway. I find that frustrating to say the least so the very best thing for me in particular, is to live on my own with my pets. My pets make me feel that I am not alone. They get under my feet, want to be let out when there is something important I want to watch on TV, and only leave me a small space to sleep on my bed. But I am the happiest I have ever been. I can still watch what I want on telly, sleep when I want, go out when I want. The best thing is being able to spend my money on exactly what I want.

In relationships, I have always been a giver and that meant paying bills and making sure all was okay in the home before I spent anything on myself. My partners don't seem to think the same though. They go and spend their money on clothes and hair do's while I end up going without. At least living on my own means that no one can be selfish around me.
Posted by JMS on 02-12-2018
kaka135
It's hard for me to choose. I enjoy staying with others as it can be really fun and I might not be bored at all with friends or roommates around, but sometimes I prefer to stay alone so I can enjoy more quiet time and more freedom too. Moreover, it's really challenging to have some troublesome roommates or roommates whom we can't interact well. I have actually never stayed alone, and I always have roommates since I was young (as I was staying in the same room with my younger sister), sometimes I wish it might be nice to stay alone, perhaps just for a short period, as I always like to chat and interact with others.
Posted by kaka135 on 02-12-2018
vinaya
I have lived with roommates and also lived alone. Based on my experience, I can say living alone is better than living with roommates. First of all, if you have a roommate there will be no privacy. Secondly, there will be a lot of distractions. Thirdly, there is also a chance of your things being misused or being ,misplaced.
Posted by vinaya on 02-12-2018
vhinz
I'm not comfortable living with roommates. Living alone gives complete privacy and freedom for whatever I wanted to do. I can listen to kinds of music that I like and watch my favorite TV show and movies without being disturbed. I can have solitude to do things that I need to do in a peaceful and quiet environment like meditate, read, write and even sleeping.
Posted by vhinz on 02-13-2018
vinaya
When I was in the teens, I really liked living with roommates. One of the benefits of living with roommates is the reduction in the living cost. If your roommate is your best buddy, it can be a great experience. However, when we become adults, it is little difficult to live with people around you.
Posted by vinaya on 02-13-2018
ion
Live alone of course. I need privacy, and I'm not comfortable if there's someone walking around my place specially a roommates. If some of my friends ask to sleep in my apartment, it's alright. But just one or until three nights only, but living with me? big no! For me, my place is my sanctuary, it's really private.
Posted by ion on 02-13-2018
Alexa
I've done both and have enjoyed both, but it does depend on the roommates you have. I've had some great ones and others that I avoided when I could. Living alone costs more, but you have freedom and privacy. With roommates you do have company though and it can be fun to do things together and also you can find some good friends that way. I'm still friends will some former roommates.
Posted by Alexa on 02-15-2018
zelandrea
I have always enjoyed being alone since I don't like people meddling with what I do. It also lets me escape from the judging eyes of other people, or maybe I'm just scared of what they would think of me. Regardless, I would rather live alone and have my full privacy because I don't really enjoy having a lot of company in the first place.
Posted by zelandrea on 02-17-2018
vivalavanda
It depends on the person, being an ambivert, I will choose to live with roommates because they will help you to cope up with sadness. I can't live alone as it will just give messages in my head and will give me an anxiety attack. However, living with your roommates can be stressful at times, you need to have some responsibility to be clean all the time and stuff. However, when you are alone, you can do anything you want but it will also trigger your laziness as no one is watching you.
Posted by vivalavanda on 02-17-2018
VintageRose
There are too many things to consider, so I can't give a straight answer right away.

Do you have money? Are your roommates people you know or strangers? Have you ever lived with someone other than your parents? Do you get lonely easily? Do you have any disease or disability that makes it dangerous to live alone? No two people are the same, so the best option is always the one that matches their needs, personality and resources.
Posted by VintageRose on 02-18-2018
Pixie
It is very difficult for me to make a choice over here. It can be challenging to live with a stranger you cannot get along with. Moreover, nowadays it can also be dangerous to live with a stranger and we hear many shocking stories every day. If I have to share a room with someone I already know then I wouldn't mind it. I hate living alone and it will be great to have someone to talk to.
Posted by Pixie on 02-26-2018
chatbox
I'm willing to pay extra just to have my own place. It will be worth the privacy, comfort, and convenience that I'm sure will be compromised if I have to share a room with other people. I've experienced living on a dorm after college and that was just because I needed to save time and energy for my board exams review. It wasn't such a pleasant experience sharing a room with people I hardly know and who have different lifestyle or taste. I didn't have much choice back then because my dad was paying for everything and I didn't want to be such a financial burden.
Posted by chatbox on 03-02-2018
hermessantos
Living alone is the dream of anyone, especially young people, who thirst for independence. No wonder, imagine how much you can decorate your house the way you want it? Or be able to buy expensive shampoos without fear of your roommate wearing everything?

Apartment sharing can be a problem when the other person is messy, and living alone, you are free of that. But the biggest disadvantage is that you will be responsible for your own mess and consequently will not have anyone for you to blame or just help you.
Posted by hermessantos on 03-14-2018
Steve5
I prefer living alone. There's this indescribable joy to living your own life. You don't have to change how you think or behave because there's no one around you. Let's face it. We all have to act accordingly based on who's with us. But if you're all alone, you have the freedom to do whatever you want.
Posted by Steve5 on 04-19-2018
babyright
Though i am still living alone but i feel that if i finally get a wife to live with will help me to feel more better with someone to assist me and also help her also. Living with someone or sharing room with someone helps us to share each others burden and also reduce expenses to spend because you both will like to help one another.
Posted by babyright on 05-14-2018
fishbate
Socializing is very important but also privacy. One thing to do to have both is live with a roommate where you have separate rooms , this will definitely will allow you to have more privacy. Also having an agreement on things in the room will greatly improve your relationship.
Posted by fishbate on 07-01-2018