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Marrying for wealth

Marrying for wealth
Marrying for wealth has always been a great issue for a lot of people, especially for women looking for men with a better financial stability and often ignoring men who they really love for men that have more money and can provide a better overall life from a financial point of view.

I agree that for both men and women financial stability is an important aspect, especially when it comes to marriage. Everyone one of us strives for better life and I can understand the aspects of such a decision.

I personally think that you should choose with your heart first and foremost but don't overlook the money issue. If both of you are broke sure you can work your way up the ladder but if you are a personal already used to high living conditions it is going to be pretty hard choosing a partner that has less money than you.

Pros
  • You will have a certain financial stability and chances are you won't need to struggle with money.
  • Certain people can actually make this kind of marriages work in the long run, getting to actually love the people they married within this process.
  • Some people may benefit from such a marriage getting out of trouble and putting their life on track. As far as they don't harm the person they get involved with this may turn out fine for both parties.

Cons
  • Such relationship is often doomed to fail at one point or another. If you are not marrying the person you love you may have huge regrets later on.
  • If only one of you love the other and love is not reciprocal the unloved person may figure out this at one point, that the only reason for the marriage was money and not love, this can also lead straight to divorce and misery.
  • From my point of view, there is no real fulfillment in a failed marriage, both parties will have a lot to suffer and will need to put their lives on track late on. Starting all over again with someone else may be too much for some people.

Supporters

optimistic

Wealth

What is the most important thing in life today? Money.

What is that one thing, people work day & night, to earn what? Money.

Let’s say, you’ve a girlfriend or boyfriend, to hang out with them, you need money, to settle down with them, you need money. Let’s assume at a point in life, if you don’t have money, your girlfriend may leave you for someone else, money is the most important thing in today’s world, there is something and it goes like this “No money, No honey”.

Marrying for love would be a bias thing to say, means your wife, she is your responsibility, of course if she’s a housewife, someday you will have children and until the time they’re able to earn for themselves, they’re also fully depended on you, not to mention how expensive college fees are today, I know from my own personal experiences, what my parents have been through to bare all my experiences.

Now, marrying for wealth, I would say, it depends how much? If you have money, means you’re wealthy, which means you can get anything you want in the world, in other words you can buy happiness for yourself. So, you can make more money with that money. In my opinion, if you’re marrying for wealth, then there is no cons.

Posted by optimistic on 04-04-2017

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Marrying for love

Marrying for love
Marrying for love is the way to go in my opinion. Even of both of you don't have any money I can assure you things will get better if you work on your relationship and your life goals.

My wife and I married for love and we don't regret it even though we were both broke with little or no financial foundation to speak off when we first started. But somehow we made it work and in time with hard work and dedication we achieved good things together and this is only the beginning, we want to start a family and have a children now.

Pros
  • Loving someone and being loved back is a great deal, you can get through hard periods more easily by sustaining each other.
  • Marrying for love will reduce the chances of getting a divorce later in life, as long as you still love each other I see no reason to break off the relationship.
  • Studies show the married people will live longer and will be happier compared with single or divorced people. If a couple is still going strong after 30-40 years of marriage those people most definitely love each other.
  • You won't have any regrets about past relationships if both of you work on making the best out of life. You definitely won't feel regrets about marrying someone who had a better financial position but you didn't love.

Cons
  • Sometimes love may not be enough, some people will have a lot of difficulties in maintaining harmony once they get married. People may change and the lack of financial stability over large portions of time will make love disappear.

Supporters

sspi

Definitely

Definitely marrying for love. Love is the foundation of every successful marriage. You cannot marry unless you truly love someone, because otherwise it will end up being a complete disaster in a short time. Imagine trying to live with someone whom you cannot stand, and you only married him because he is wealthy. Life may be easier from a financial point of view, but other than that, it will not be worth living. I believe that as long as you really love someone, you can manage to live even in difficult or poor conditions, because your love for one another will be enough to be content.
Posted by sspi on 12-30-2016
Jeshurun

Love

Marrying for love even though the role of money cannot be over emphasized, love is very important in everything we do so its important to seek love before marriage, some might be negligent of this fact but in reality a house without love is a complete cell, because all the money will be worth nothing.

Love can make the hardest of times seem easy and simple , those words of encouragement and care could be all that matters, love is very important in anything, I've seen people who get together for reasons other than love and I'll tell you the result most offen is devastating. Always marry for love not just because money.

Posted by Jeshurun on 01-06-2017
achi007

love of course..!

Today money is a key factor to happiness you can say, but it is not always true. Yes you need money to live, buy things you like, give your loved ones what they like etc. But really can you buy love for money? if you marry for wealth, that won't be a marriage at all.A marriage is like two people getting together to live the rest of their life. But if there is no love, there would be no marriage life.Maybe there would be a divorce soon, that would end all the dreams of becoming a rich man. But if you marry for live, maybe you and her could work togather with understanding and be rich, successful and happy too.....
Posted by achi007 on 04-08-2017
hermessantos

Love!

I certainly prefer to be married to love than to someone rich. I think a marriage with love can be long lasting and the couple's riches and dreams can be conquered together. Money is very important yes, but I think love should come first in any relationship.
Posted by hermessantos on 06-11-2017
cmoneyspinner

Ask Howard Hughes ~ Money Can't Buy Love!

Marry for love. True love IS wealth. Dead people cant talk. But! ... If Howard Hughes was alive, you could ask him. I'll bet he'd agree with me. During his last days on earth, he would probably given away all of his wealth just to have someone who loved him by his side. Instead the people who loved his money fought over it after he died. http://www.todayifound...howard-hughes-money-died/
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 06-12-2017
reginafalange

For love

I find it horrible when somebody marries a person just for their money. I think is the most selfish thing you can do. Pretend to love them just to get some benefits from them. You think that you will be happy but you won't find peace, no matter what you do. I believe in marrying the person you love, with the person that makes your life better and that no matter what will stay with you by your side, as the vows say in the good and the bad. To be able to build a strong long lasting relationship with the person you had chosen is an invaluable thing for me.
Posted by reginafalange on 07-21-2017

Comments

vinaya
Your relationship will never last if you married for money. For a long lasting relationship, there should be love between individuals. If there is no love, marriage does not last. Even though money is a necessary thing to make a relationship work (you need money to buy supplies, to pay utility bills, go an a vacation, have children), money should not be a primary motive of relationship or marriage.
Posted by vinaya on 09-07-2017
Corzhens
On the contrary, I know of a couple where the man is wealthy but old and the woman was young and poor. People have judged them that the marriage was simply for money. But it came to pass that the old man got sick and he had a lingering illness for more than a year before he died. The wife was always there for his comfort. They had a child and that remained a souvenir according to the wife who did not marry anymore when she got widowed.
Posted by Corzhens on 11-19-2018
Linen
I believe that both aspects should be taken into consideration as far as marriages go. Love and money are both important factors, and even though love is important, I think these days it's impossible to ignore the financial ramifications of marriage. Myself, I am personally uncomfortable living off of a lover's income because if all goes wrong, then I'll go straight back to zero in the worst-case scenario - and never mind what can happen if you're forced apart by one half leaving the mortal coil. I've grown up in a household like that, so I can't see myself getting married to anyone until I've got my own means of income. Perhaps what I'm forcing myself to is strict - especially since it means I'm essentially refusing to be a housewife for at least whatever interim. But sometimes life happens in a way you don't anticipate it will, and not always for good.
Posted by Linen on 12-09-2017
Wubwub
For me it's both because I find it difficult to be attracted to anyone who is not financially literate. If I had to choose one, though, I will just go with someone whom I love because I don't think I can stand being with someone I dislike just because I am being paid to be there. Maybe if the person was somewhat tolerable for me, but I'm just thinking of it as an extreme scenario in this case, and I don't think I would be able to withstand that for years if I had to even if I did get a lot of money for it.
Posted by Wubwub on 12-09-2017
lovely
it better one marry for love though wealth is important but love conquers all,any one that marries for love has all things because love is one wealth that we can't buy with money and it has eluded a lot of people. people with plenty of money are looking for love to no avail with all the money and wealth people are still lonely.
Posted by lovely on 12-15-2017
Corzhens
To be honest, I go for love in marriage. However, I have to admit that I am choosy for a person that I would love. Maybe for practical reasons, I couldn’t love a man who is very poor for what kind of life would he give me? But given a choice where the man I love is not that poor then I will choose love over wealth. However, the final decision would depend on the careful evaluation of data between the rich guy and the guy that I love.
Posted by Corzhens on 01-15-2018
nekonieden
I think marrying for love is not enough so marrying for love with wealth is better. The reason why I choose love with wealth because I had an experience about loving someone without anything and accept him. He flirted with other girl the reason I leave him. I regret that I gave him all he wanted.
Posted by nekonieden on 11-30-2018