Nevertheless To Avoid Fornication ...

Nevertheless To Avoid Fornication ...
There are some who profess to be true believers and yet they do not follow the teachings of The One they claim as their Lord and Savior. There are others who are non-believers who are just curious about these peculiar people who seem to be willing to give up on all the joys of this world without really having any confirmation that there is a next world where the inhabitants dwell in peace and righteousness.

RE: Divorce, cohabiting and remarriage, I would like to make 3 points which I hope and pray will clarify any misunderstanding for the non-believer. The believer should already know this.

  • Point 1: Jesus Christ doesn't FORCE anybody to become His disciple.

  • Point 2: If you're going to be a follower or disciple, then BE ONE!
    Conversion to Christianity is not “cafeteria-style”. You can't pick this plate, this dish, that drink and then say “Oh no! I don't want to eat that! I don't care what Jesus said! I disagree with His teachings but I still want to be His follower.” That's not how it works.
In a nutshell.

  • Jesus came to earth, accomplished His mission, left the gospel message in earthen vessels (His believers), His message has not been revised nor does anyone on earth have the Authority to change His Word. That includes the pope. When He returns, He will judge the faithful.
So! You either talk the talk AND walk the walk AND be Christ-like OR don't say that you're a Christian and don't follow the teachings of Jesus Christ.

WHY? Because …

  • Point 3: WOES were pronounced on HYPOCRITES!
With regards to the teachings on sex, love, and marriage, what Jesus taught was simple, albeit hard for many to accept. Sexual desires are strong but they are not uncontrollable.

Jesus taught His disciples:

  • Do not fornicate. Get married and have sex with your own mate.
  • If one of the members of the marriage union commits an act of adultery, divorce and remarriage are allowed, for the faithful party who was wronged. The party who was wronged may also forgive their mate for the infidelity and stayed married!
  • If for reasons other than adultery, the marital union is dissolved, neither of the partners are allowed to remarry, unless one of them dies.
  • If a mate dies, adultery or no adultery, the living spouse (the widow or widower) can remarry.
If you say are a Christian, you don't get to rewrite Jesus teachings if you don't agree because, you think they're unreasonable for modern times, or they're inconvenient for the way you want to live your life or _____ (fill in the blank).

This bears repeating.

  • Point 1: Jesus Christ doesn't FORCE anybody to become His disciple.
However, if you decided to put on Christ of your own free will, then you also decided that you would OBEY HIS COMMANDS.

You can't be a faithful follower and an unfaithful follower simultaneously.

The teachings of Jesus on fornication, marriage, divorce, and remarriage are PLAIN. If you're a Christian, you will obey them. If you don't choose to be a faithful disciple, then you'll do whatever you want to do.

As for how your service to the King will be judged on Judgment Day? Take your chances. Wait and see. CAUTION: If you were wrong, it will be too late to backtrack and fix things. The judgment is final.

Repeating this statement one more time for the sake of emphasis.

  • Point 1: Jesus Christ doesn't FORCE anybody to become His disciple.
I'm a believer. If you don't believe any of this, that's your choice. But I can't really think of anything else to say regarding this matter to clear up anyone's confusion other than read and learn the teachings of Christ for yourself.

Related Discussion:

Divorced, cohabiting and remarried should not receive communion


During our Lord's time people who commits adultery were actually stoned to death. I know it's harsh but that was the norm. I didn't know that there was divorce in those times. What I read in the Bible is if a Married Man dies, his unmarried brother will be the one to marry his wife. Fornication back then means having an adulterous relationship and having premarital sex. Gay Men and Lesbians who are caught engaging in fornication where also stoned to death. Im just curious was there any teachings against paying the services of a prostitute or harlot?
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 03-08-2018
@Kakashi2020 I like your spin on fornication, it's very convenient!Is this deliberate mis-interpretation or selective amnesia? I understand fornication in the bible to mean having sex before your married. Does this teaching even apply anymore? As rightly pointed out in the bible people were stoned for adultery. I think Jesus comment 'let he who is without sin cast the first stone' put's this all in perspective for me. Everybody these days fornicates. The belief of most Christians is that your sin is forgiven automatically because Jesus died on the cross for you. However I do think avoiding fornication is for your own protection. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!
Posted by jaymish on 03-08-2018
you cannot be forced to commit fornication but you can control or resist it if you allow the spirit of Christ to control you.
Posted by babyright on 03-08-2018
JB Fernandez
Hi. I'm just a bit confused. Most of the people is you cannot actually resist it, what you really need to do is to turn it down and don't get yourself in a situation that you will be tempted. My question is, how will I allow the spirit of our God to control me?
Posted by JB Fernandez on 03-20-2018
This is a delicate matter that we should really look at from all angles of life. The thing with having sex outside marriage is that some do it not because that is the aim, but as a result of the fact that they can't resist this urge to have sex. Also, we need to see the need for the Holy Spirit to be in us in order to give us that power to be able to overcome premarital sex for that is something that we can't achieve as normal human beings. To be prayerful always is one key way that we can use to make that a possibility.
Posted by Barida on 03-08-2018
I totally support your views if we truly love someone we will heed to their command same here in Christiandom,we must abide by the law of God no formication and no adultery no matter what we feel is or are the reasons. We must obey God's injunction and flee from.them they way we will be able to o stand before God.
Posted by lovely on 03-08-2018
I support everything you had stated there. We both have same point of view. God gave us free will and will never force us to do what He want for us. He is just always their giving us a chance to live this life righteously. If you want to be bad then you may, but if you want to follow Jesus it will be more profitable for you.
Posted by MomoStarr16 on 03-09-2018
@jaymish I would like to point out one flaw or misconcepcion on the Christian teaching of all sins are forgiven since Jesus Christ died on the cross. If you would study and delve deeper you would find out that this pertains to the Original Sin. If a person commits a sin isn't it to convenient that all is forgiven without any repercussions? In my opinion based on my personal studies as a Catholic Christian when a person commits sin and asks forgiveness, he is forgiven but never absolved, he will face the consequences of his actions on judgement day. Plainly said it's like Karma or cause and effect, if you did something wrong then it will come back to you, unless if you repent and pay for your sins here on earth. So all those so called Christians who keep on committing sins and praying for forgiveness afterwards then committing the same sins again good luck your not of the hook yet.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 03-09-2018
I have a question with regards to fornication for those who are adept in the Christian Religion ...Having sexual relationships outside of marriage is considered as fornication. Having sexual relationships with the same sex is fornication and an abomination. Having consensual sex in and out of marriage is considered as fornication. How about paying for sex? Let me define it further, Is paying for the sexual services of a Prostitute or Harlot a sin or not? Im just asking this question because I dont really know the answer. I've read the Bible several times and I can't seem to find the answer. So if someone could help answer the question sighting some Bible verse then thanks.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 03-09-2018
My opinion on this matter would seem off but I'm still going to give it. When it comes to fornication, a lot of people preach against it even the so called pastors and Rev. Fathers but they all still go behind and commit the sin of fornication. What does this teach? Our supposed role model still fall to the sin and come in front of us to preach and look holy. Fornication can never be stopped no matter the amount of preaching done on the subject, I would be bold enough to admit that I have done this and not ashamed of it. What I'm truly against is adultery. If you are married, please stick with your partner and don't go outside looking for sex with young opposite sex.
Posted by Emmaz on 03-09-2018
This discussion clearly means that pre-marital sex does not conform with the teachings of Christian religions which are based on the Bible. In the olden days, marriage was one of the most sacred until society had changed to be permissive with the gender that gays surfaced and later marriage seemed to have lost its popularity. Where before it was a mortal sin for a single girl to be pregnant, now it is even an honor because I have seen their posts in Facebook that they are pregnant and soon to be a single mother.
Posted by Corzhens on 03-09-2018
Whether you are a believer or an atheist, you must believe that fornication is unethical. I am a Hindu and I will explain this according to Hindu principles. In Hinduism, fornication is strictly banned for women as well as men. The men and women who are not loyal to their spouses are sinners and they will go to hell. Hinduism emphasize on loyalty to the spouse.
Posted by vinaya on 03-11-2018
I believe that everyone is entitled to their own views and have a right to practice them so long as they do no harm to others. That being said, my views towards the topic of fornication are contrary to that of conservative Christian views. I'm a Buddhist, and we abide by Five Precepts, the third of which is to not engage in sexual misconduct. While it is a topic of debate, most Buddhists agree that sexual misconduct encompasses any behavior that causes direct or indirect harm through sexuality. If two partners have safe, consensual sex despite not being married, then I honestly don't understand how any harm is being done. I don't see how cohabiting does harm either. Adultery is out of the question though, as the harm done there is clear as day.
Posted by Denis_P on 03-12-2018
I think the only major relationship sin is cheating or adultery. If you're feeling like you want to step outside of a relationship for some reason, then you should end it before you do.
Posted by NickJ on 03-13-2018
There are still cultures that value chastity before marriage and there are still parents who teach their children not to engage in premarital sex or any forms of fornication. And yes, I believe that if you are a Christian, you should adhere to the teachings of Jesus Christ, even if that means going against the dictates of society. Our body, being made in the likeness of God, is a sacred temple. It should never be abused or disrespected. The teachings against fornication, as all other laws laid down by God, are for man's benefits. Just think of how many diseases, problems, and even premature deaths could have been averted if people simply adhered to the teachings against fornication.
Posted by chatbox on 03-17-2018