Parents should buy dolls for their sons.

Parents should buy dolls for their sons.
A friend makes it a point to tell me whenever she has the chance, basically everyday, that when she has kids, she will buy them toys irrespective of gender stipulations. Her sons will get dolls among their toys and her daughters will get fire trucks, gunslingers etc among theirs. She says kids should be brought up without gender programming so when they grow up, they can choose who they want to be. I never know how to respond to her. Maybe reading your thoughts will help me form some idea.

Agree

Wubwub

buy them what they want

I don't think buying boys dolls will ruin their lives forever and I think if they want it and they are forced to like something else then that can be more damaging. I do think that forcing diversity on them just for the sake of it can also be a bit unhealthy so as long as they are asked and observed properly prior to making the decision then I think it will be okay.
Posted by Wubwub on 11-24-2018
Wenkx03
I agree with. Let the kids choose whatever they want. Nevertheless you are there to guide them whatever he choose. Let him grow up in his way with your guidance.
Barida

Nothing wrong.

The thing is that parents should understand that the number of toys that they get for the kids will always assist them to enjoy a better life. So, it is imperative that they keep getting the toys that will help their thinking process and this is where baby dolls are good as well.
Posted by Barida on 11-25-2018
GeorgeDr

Yeah

I would buy a doll to my son if he asked for it. On top of that I think that buying a gift to someone is about what THEY like not what I would like on their position. If a boy wants a doll let him have it. If a girl wants to dress as a soldier let them do it. They are going to find a way anyway to do what their minds tell them to so it's pointless to ban certain toys because you think "My son is going to become gay if he plays with dolls". Yeah well, why is that wrong anyway ?
Posted by GeorgeDr on 11-29-2018
iambeth

more nurturing boys

I believe that if boys are given dolls as toys they will be more nurturing. They can take care of the dolls rather than make action figures fight each other. Not all dolls are feminine, there are dolls that are neutral looking.
Posted by iambeth on 11-25-2018
astraherondale

Absolutely.

I firmly believe that there is absolutely no reason why parents can't buy dolls for their sons. It is 2018, we should already move on past the conservative views of the olden days. Those better stay with the older, backwards generation. Gender stereotypes do not exist anymore - we should allow our children to naturally develop their preferences instead of limiting their options to what is "socially acceptable" for their gender.
Posted by astraherondale on 11-24-2018
antonToledo

100% YES!!!!!

If I had a son and would want me to buy him a doll? I would definitely let him have a doll. I can't see how that would be harmful to a kid its just an innocent doll and there are a lot of dolls out there that can be given either to a boy or a girl. Don't put gender stereotyping on kids let them be their selves.
Posted by antonToledo on 12-07-2018

Disagree

cmoneyspinner

Not If Those Boys Are Like My Brothers

I had 7 brothers and 1 sister. My mother bought dolls for me and my sister. My brothers beat 'em up! So … based on my childhood experience, I'm going to have to say NO! NO! Parents should not buy dolls for boys. Not if those boys are like my brothers.
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 11-24-2018
overcast

Feminism is BAD

Feminists are emasculating the men. In order to gain control over the society for women. And in an attempt they are making men behave like women. And that approach of buying the doll and making them act like woman is really bad. Not worth doing harassment to the sons.
Posted by overcast on 11-25-2018
NickJ

DISAGREE

If I had a son and he asked or a doll, I MIGHT would consider buying it for him. But if he never did ask, I sure as heck would never volunteer to get him one.
Posted by NickJ on 11-24-2018
Martinsx

Hell No!!!!

Parents are allowed to buy toys for their sons but not dolls in my opinion because it may have negative impact on their personality and thinking.

Some gay boys started out with loving dolls, so it's not ideal for boys but it's more appropriate for girls.

Posted by Martinsx on 11-27-2018
Kakashi2020

Plain Stupidity

Why would someone buy dolls for their boys? Such action can only be undertaken by psychologically troubled people. If a guy or even a woman gifts my son a doll on purpose then I'll probably force the guy to eat the doll. If it's a woman well then I was taught to never hit a woman. I'll just have to talk to her and see if I could put some logic into her head. If not then I'll be creative.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 11-25-2018
superlicca

Not a good idea

I don't see the point of giving dolls to sons. Dolls were created for girls and boys have their own toys. The problem that might occur of giving dolls to boys is the identify confusion. Kids should identify which toys are for them.
Posted by superlicca on 11-24-2018
theresajane
I agree with you. No matter how people push equality, there will always be an effect to the child in the future. It's best to let him have the type of toy that he wants.
theresajane
I agree with you. No matter how people push equality, there will always be an effect to the child in the future. It's best to let him have the type of toy that he wants.
ajahcuizon

No

I don't think it is a good idea to give dolls to their sons. It is not that we are against of what their gender preference would be but it would be better if it would come out naturally and not just because we gave him a doll. Also, they could get bullied by the other kids because it is not normal to see a boy playing with a doll.
Posted by ajahcuizon on 11-24-2018
rlpzbeermoney

Boy = Boy Toy

I'm all for letting your kids be what they want when they grow up (sexuality wise) but I think at a very young age, boys shouldn't be given toys for the other sex. Kids are easily influenced because they aren't aware of what's going on in their environment. If you're the parent, it's like controlling your kid's sexuality choice for the future if you give him a doll. Give him a boy's toy since he was born a boy. Let him decide what he wants in the future.
Posted by rlpzbeermoney on 11-30-2018
stbrians

I Disagree Vehemently

Let men be men and ladies be ladies. The present society has doomed our male children. We have made sissies out of them. No dolls for my sons.
Posted by stbrians on 11-29-2018
NerdIndeed

Boys should have balls

I think that giving a boy a doll toy is messed up. He might grow a little feminine by doing so and be teased by other kids when they saw he is playing with one. I highly disagree.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 11-26-2018
theresajane

No

I'm sorry, when I read the title, it gave me a weird feeling. I know we're stereotyping, but there are a lot of toys that are mostly appropriate for you son. You don't want to confuse them with their sexuality at such a young age right? I'm sorry, but this is weird.
Posted by theresajane on 11-24-2018
Focusedwriter10
You should not apologize, because that's the truth. Once the son gets confused with their sexuality, it is easier for them to get into gayism once they are grown.
emiaj55

Really?

First and foremost I would like to make clear that I am not posting to offend anyone with any gender preferences. But that to me, this is taking it a bit too far. It is like, being a man when you are born a boy is something that might be wrong about. But why?? I may be one of those that still has not accepted that sex and gender are two different things but I do respect if others believe in that concept (or fact as those who believe them would say). But I think that plan of your friend is a bit stretched. If buying them sex appropriated is programming them into gender preferences, buying them gender inappropriate toys is a sure program for identity crisis. And a younger age at that! Just think about the trauma a child could go through if they would not figure it out HEALTHILY. Furthermore, you may be not be giving him/her freedom, instead you may be tempting and pushing them into certain gender, when in reality, they may be man and woman after all. This would only blur gender concept at a very young age. Don't you think you are still programming them that way?

I have nothing against people with other gender preference. But for me, you do not have to go as far as buy them sex inappropriate toys. Instead, if you just want to be fair between genders, give them freedom to choose their gender and all, let them choose their toys in the store. But do not decide for them.

Posted by emiaj55 on 11-25-2018
burgosmichael2407

Unconventional

I respect everyone's opinion. I also respect their free will. However, In my own opinion it's unconventional to buy dolls for your sons. When they go to school, they will have a hard time to distinguish the things for the guys and for the girls.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 11-24-2018
Focusedwriter10

Not Good

For a boy to grow as a man, then you need to start training him as a man while still young. Buying dolls for sons is not bad, but it might affect you at some point in life.
Posted by Focusedwriter10 on 12-08-2018
YoloBoy

NEVER

No parent should buy their son a doll. It absolutely does not make sense unless he has ideas of becoming gay. Not saying that dolls are for girls only but you should not give a doll that is RECOMMENDED for girls. Some dolls that people consider are action figures such as WWE Toys, Power rangers, etc. These are the different kinds of genres of toys.
Posted by YoloBoy on 11-26-2018
kaushikangara

Do not want to take a risk

In today's world, you would not want to do such kind of things in my opinion. Not to be judgemental but I would not encourage buying dolls for sons. They should be given something which normal boys would love and eventually they would be able to mould into it and develop a liking for boy's things. As someone here mentioned, it would be a hard time in school if a boy is grown up playing with girl's things and it would have an impact on his young mind.
Posted by kaushikangara on 11-25-2018
knnon

Not gonna buy

I won't be buying dolls for my sons but if they wanna play with their sister's dolls then I don't mind. It will help them develop a sense of empathy and care towards something that's weaker than them. But not going to the point of buying one for them.
Posted by knnon on 12-08-2018
rubeth1726

Much Disagree

Why would you buy your son a girl toy? A doll is a girl toy in general and it is intended for girls and definitely not for boys.

A boy normally would like to play boy's stuff like toy gun, robots and cars. As a parent we should encourage our son to play stuff that are intended for boys.

I think buying doll for your son will may have negative effect or may influence your son to be confused to his identity. And that we didn't want to happen, right? That's why I disagree with the argument of buying a doll for our sons.

Posted by rubeth1726 on 12-03-2018

Comments

amelia88
I don’t think it’s a problem but I don’t know I’d go out of my way to do it. I try not to buy my children too many toys anyway - we prefer to try and spend money on fun experiences like visiting museums rather than buying more material items.
Posted by amelia88 on 11-24-2018
Martin
Wow so fun. I would love to go back and be reborn as your child. Seems they might be enjoying their childhood too much.
Posted by Martin on 11-25-2018
jaymish
I agree with your friends. Dolls are normally designed and bought for little girls.Little girls take care of their dolls and treat them as their babies. This in my opinion is the first step of assigning gender roles. This is the first step of teaching the little girl her role is to take care of her children, the little boy should also be taught the same. When I had a doll as a little girl I used to bathe her, and make sure her clothes were clean. In my opinion that's why we have such a big problem with men neglecting their children and wives because they are not taught to nature from a young age.
Posted by jaymish on 11-24-2018
Martin
Hahaha. I do not think there is anything wrong with boys being prepared to take up roles as the breadwinners in a family which is why Lego games are fun for them and dolls are just too dumbing in a sense for boys.
Posted by Martin on 11-25-2018
csk81
I think all kids should play with whatever toy they want to because they are kids.These gender roles are merely a construct which need to stop as it limits the tolerance and creativity among children
Posted by csk81 on 11-24-2018
Martin
It is the society that has established such and by default they set the gender roles for children and the thing sticks in their minds as they grow.
Posted by Martin on 11-25-2018
Marako0406
Yes uh definitely! Every child has the right to play a toy of their choice because that's what a child supposed to do, have fun and play. I really depends on the choices of toys they want as long as it is safe to play with and a real toy for their age. Personally, It doesn't matter what gender the doll would be because they will learn that everyone has freedom and no to racism of course, parents should always teach them well and bring the beauty they posses inside.
Posted by Marako0406 on 11-24-2018
Martin
Hahaha I only agree with this in the sense that girls should also be allowed to play with robots and Legos as it enhances their creativity. Any more than that might be a stretch.
Posted by Martin on 11-25-2018
thejoyrevolution
If their child wanted a doll why would they hinder it? The world today is changing. We should not be in prisoned by gender norms. If a boy wanting to play with a doll doesn’t mean he is homosexual. Maybe he just want to play with it. Being homosexual doesn’t mean it is bad too. Let make a wold for our children accepting. Let them have choices and let them find who they are. Let us all be open.
Posted by thejoyrevolution on 11-24-2018
NerdIndeed
The point is that he is still a kid and most kids learn the things that are presented to them. He might be exposed to the wrong stuff and might cause gender issues in the future because of this. I do not hate gay people, but it might play a role for the kid when he grows up.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 11-26-2018
theresajane
I'm sorry if it's stereotyping, but I will not let my son have a doll. I don't want to confuse him at such a young age.
Posted by theresajane on 11-24-2018
Martin
Hehe. I also agree with you my friend. It might set up some confusion that they will grow up with and maybe even have limitations when they need to choose their gender.
Posted by Martin on 11-25-2018
NerdIndeed
Neither do I. I don't want him to have the idea that it's okay for a guy to play with dolls. I'm not saying it's feminine, but I'd instead instill to him at a young age what boys should be doing and what men should be doing.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 11-26-2018
nekonieden
If I have a daughter in the future, I would love to give her gifts and I will give her dolls but there's a consequences to be able to get the prize. I would let her study first and should be excellent in school or let her help in doing some light household chores just to make her more discipline as I don't want to spoil her. I want her to be independent so I will teach her some skills that will benefit her to be a responsible daughter. Giving toys such as dolls is just a prize but not necessarily give her all the toys she wants.
Posted by nekonieden on 11-24-2018
iambeth
There are dolls which are not gender specific wherein all of the features of the doll are neutral. It does not have a face nor clothes. It looks the same with the wooden human figurine with joints but it's like a stuffed toy. I think that is more suitable for boys if you really want to prevent gender programming .
Posted by iambeth on 11-24-2018
agbuyarashel
It depends on the child. Parents should not buy toys without asking their child, what if the child does not like the toy, they just put their money to waste.

Ask your child first to know what ge likes and to give freedom of whatever he/she wants. Children have different interests.
Posted by agbuyarashel on 11-25-2018
NerdIndeed
The thing is that they are kids, and most of the time they still don't know what they like until they see it on TV or from a friend. You can't precisely say what his interests are until he gets exposed to them. That is why parents send kids to all these lessons to know what he will be good at in the future.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 11-26-2018
iambeth
I agree that we should respect what toy the child chooses. As kids they are not aware that the society has this rigid gender roles. So if a child chooses a toy that does not conform with the stereotype should we say, "Hey, you are not supposed to be playing with that." That will not teach the kid the notion of equality and inclusivity.
Posted by iambeth on 11-26-2018
overcast
Feminism seems to be attacking the society and in an attempt to reverse the gender roles. They are attacking little boys and men in general. So that seems to be affecting many people in society. When feminists are making such suggestion one should be really mindful. You have to avoid taking suggestions on how kids should be raised from feminists.
Posted by overcast on 11-25-2018
gutzman
I think it would be better if you let the child decide which toy he/she likes. If you would give a doll to a boy or a truck to girl even though they don't like, it means you are just forcing them to like what you think is the best for them. It's like programming their mind to be like that. I am not saying that a boy should not play dolls but it is better to let them what they really are. Give them freedom to choose instead of feeding them of what do you think they are.
Posted by gutzman on 11-25-2018
theresajane
I agree with you on that sense. We must not force them into something that they don't like. Someday, it will surely have an effect on them.
Posted by theresajane on 11-25-2018
chatbox
I think it's crazy and unnatural. Let the kids choose the toys they wanna play with. There will be girls who will choose to play with toy guns, trucks, and cars and there will be girls who will naturally gravitate towards dolls and plush toys. Both boys and girls display individual differences at an early age and it has little to do with 'gender programming'. Like it or not, boys are different from girls in so many aspects. That is not to say that one gender is inferior to the other but recognizing the difference early on is vital if we want to train them to maximize their strengths and manage their weaknesses.
Posted by chatbox on 11-26-2018
vivalavanda
I'm ashamed that the majority is no, we are in the generation that freedom should apply to all. We are not in the generation that there would still be stereotypes that dolls are for girls and guns are for boys. Let the children have the toys that they want if that will make them happy.
Posted by vivalavanda on 11-27-2018
jetselle
There's nothing wrong to play with dolls or vans, it’s all about the mind-set created through the toy entrepreneurs and our gender mind. Toys are essential for the development of kids mind, because it promotes creativitt and kid's imagination.
Posted by jetselle on 11-27-2018
lovely
You are totally right nothing wrong with getting a toy for a child whether boy or girl.Toys is a play thing that manipulate the minda and it will help a child to explore and really imagine things. So there's nothing wrong with getting toys for a boy child.
Posted by lovely on 12-03-2018
Jhey2018
Although some people believes that dolls are intended for girl, I will still buy my son a doll if he wants to.I will let him choose which toy he wants just like buying our little girls a play gun,or a truck or a car.Let’s not be unfair.Theres nothing wrong with it.Let us give them a freedom to choose.We just have to be open minded and let kid decides.It’s up for the parents to guide them.
Posted by Jhey2018 on 11-28-2018
mosesoscar
I think I can equally ask if it is appropriate for parents to buy earings for their male child. I believe there are distinctive differences in being boy or girl; and in as much as I can't argue that the difference of one I greater than that of the other, I also cannot agree that these differences should be neglected. Dolls are girls' things, fire trucks, the military officer, and the toy amoured tank is for the boys; it's better to leave things that way
Posted by mosesoscar on 11-29-2018
Anonymous
Honestly, I may sound crazy, but I don't want to follow the society standards. When I was a kid, and I used to play with my friends, we played we had families, and boys sometimes had to carry our dolls to pretend they were their kids, give them food, and change diapers, and we are regular adults right now, with no psycho issues about it. So, problems are not in the kind of toys you buy, it's on the modern bad parenting you are doing right now.
Posted by Anonymous on 11-29-2018
vhinz
Nope not for me. I don't say that buying a doll for my son is not a good thing but for me, I chose to give my son the usual toys that a boy play.
Posted by vhinz on 11-29-2018
Focusedwriter10
I am on your side. Dolls are a big no for my son. I want to raise a man and not a person who does not know his sexuality and its responsibility.
Posted by Focusedwriter10 on 12-08-2018
burgosmichael2407
I respect others opinion about this matter. I honor their stand and their freedom of expression but I was the parent, it's a no for me.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 11-30-2018
mhingnhormz
Parents should buy dolls for their sons: Dolls are made for the girls toys. Boys usually prefer to play with their balls such as basketballs, riding bikes and so many others. Dolls is used for the girls to practice on how to put make up and make a hair-do. Parents usually train their sons for their business as they grow up. To makee their sons ready for business nature.
Posted by mhingnhormz on 11-30-2018
Corzhens
Pardon me for this comment if you are a member of the LGBT because it is silly to let your child choose the toys that he wants to play with. I have no quarrel if the boy wanted a doll but it is wrong if the parents would give the boy a doll as if urging him to be effeminate. I hope those kind of parents will see the reality of the society that even if homosexuality is accepted it is still not good to encourage the child to be gay.
Posted by Corzhens on 11-30-2018
Kakashi2020
Only a Gay Dude or Lesbo Mom would buy a doll for their son as a means to propagate gender equality or to make a statement that gender is a choice, whichever is stupider.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 12-04-2018
burgosmichael2407
Though I respect the members of LGBTQ community and I love them as a person but I don't like the idea of growing up your children without gender programming. I think you can only do that if your children were born without any reproductive organs. However, I don't see any problems if a boy plays a doll or a girl plays a toy gun or a truck if they want to but I don't like the idea that parents "should" buy doll for their son.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 12-04-2018