Sexual harassment issues against men

Sexual harassment issues against men
With the so called gender equality, I find sexual harassment cases to the disadvantage of the male gender. In one informal survey, 99% of sexual harassment cases have men for respondents which means that issue is almost exclusively for men. And what could men do when they are accuses of such especially if the incident had happened a long time ago? Truly they are being persecuted. I am a woman and I understand the pain that a woman or a girl undergoes when sexually harassed. But my point is the equality of the sexes that men are by nature attracted to the opposite sex and has that inborn mischief of getting one over the weaker sex. And although I am not condoning such lascivious acts, I still find some or maybe most of the accusations as outrageous and obviously untrue. So what do you think, are the accusations against men more than 50% true?

Comments

vinaya
If you are a man and you touch a woman without her consent, it will be considered sexual harassment. However, if you are a woman and you touch a man without asking for his consent, no one will consider it a sexual harassment. If a woman approaches a man, it is usually not a case of harassment, however, if a man advances, it will always be a case of harassment.
Posted by vinaya on 01-29-2018
Corzhens
That is a good statement you had said which shows the inequality of gender in our society. It is true that when a man touches a woman without consent, he is subject to a sexual harassment case while on the opposite side, a woman will not be accused of such a case even if the man complains. And why is that so? One newspaper columnist said that women are just trying to dominate the world that they claim to have equality of gender but they want men to be gentlemen who should assist them, help them, and be courteous to them all the time.
Posted by Corzhens on 04-22-2018
vivalavanda
That's the reality in society. People are rallying and shouting about gender inequality. However, there are still superior and inferior regarding in gender. Men should not cry, women should not do hard works like in constructions. Men should not wear pink and women should only wear dresses. Regarding sexual harassment, I notice that most of the abusers are men, but aren't we just going to ignore the men who are receiving harassment, because they are men and they can defend themselves? That's bullshit.
Posted by vivalavanda on 01-31-2018
jaymish
I don't think this is unfair at all. I think what has been happening to women is slowly been revealed. I live in a country where it is hard to get a job without sleeping with your boss. Men always feel that it is their right to force their attentions on women,especially those who don't want them. Men have to learn to behave! Very rarely do women touch a man sexually. Very rarely do women go after a man who does not want them or harass them. I'm sorry men just need to change the way they think and behave and not sexualize everything! And for goodness sake don't sleep with your juniors because they never know whether you are using your power to harass them. They are plenty of girls outside the office !
Posted by jaymish on 01-31-2018
Barida
What I always try to stand for is the truth and nothing but the truth no matter who is involved in an issue whether it is a man or a woman. Sexual harassment cases have been a disturbing trend that is happening these few months and more disturbing is the fact that it is not targeting male popular figures which is somewhat interesting. I can't say if those stories are true or false, but my stand has always been that whoever is involved in taking advantage of the other person in a sexual way should be brought to book. There is no need for sacred cows on matters such as this.
Posted by Barida on 02-03-2018
ballyhara
This is more a society issue than equality issues. It's socially accepted for a man to be there praying women, even fathers teach little boys to go there and kiss a little girl, or to go have many girlfriends, but on the other hand also society considers this behavior wrong for a woman, so she can't show and express her sexuality same way as the man. Maybe if we stop this, we shouldn't have to see abuse or harassment accusations. Because everyone will mark their limits, and no one will have to become abused. I've seen abuse from both genders, and women can be very tricky and intense when they do it, so both genders deserve punishment for going over the line.
Posted by ballyhara on 02-04-2018
chatbox
They are definitely more than 50% true. Not many women will come out of anonymity to accuse a man of sexual harassment. I would say that there are more cases where women have chosen to be silent than speak out.

Likewise, there are certain differences between a woman and a man's anatomy that a man's contact on a woman's specific body part can be considered sexual harassment without necessarily having the same connotation when it's the woman who does so on a man. That has nothing to do with gender equality at all.

I find this statement insensible: "But my point is the equality of the sexes that men are by nature attracted to the opposite sex and has that inborn mischief of getting one over the weaker sex."
Posted by chatbox on 02-05-2018
Denis_P
I'm not one to spout off about gender inequality against men, because personally I feel that women still have it much harder in general (I'm a man, for those wondering). However I do have to agree that the persecution against men, in terms of sexual harassment charges, has truly gotten out of hand. Sexual harassment is an intensely serious matter that can have lasting repercussions on victims of it, however many women have been trivializing it by using false accusations as a weapon against the male gender. What's worse is that the legal system typically sides with these so-called "victims." Not to mention the societal perspective on it, which goes something along the lines of "men can't be raped/harassed like women can." Quite frankly, it's disgusting.
Posted by Denis_P on 02-05-2018
kgord
I think that it is time that this comes out in the open. These sort of things have happened throughout the centuries and it happens both ways. It hapens to be one of the ways that people express themselves and it is not always correct. It needs to be stopped sexual harassment is not good for anybody.
Posted by kgord on 02-15-2018
treecko142
It still helps to check the facts before siding on either side when there is an accusation. The reason allegations vs men are more believed and more common is because of the years of inequality between men and women.
Posted by treecko142 on 02-21-2018
VintageRose
I don't consider myself the "weaker sex", for starters, so I don't really like being described as such. That said, there is not a single day I walk out in the streets without being catcalled, harassed or simply constantly bothered into talking with someone I already expressed I have no interest to talk to. And no, it isn't because of the way I dress, because it happens both when I wear skirts and when I wear jeans and a t-shirt.

I won't say this doesn't happen to men because of course it happens, but it doesn't happen as often and it's not as widespread. My own brother expresses consternation at what I go through everyday. People might say it's no big deal, but when it happens everyday, whenever you go out, you get annoyed. I wish more men understood that catcalling is NOT something most women appreciate or look forward to, and politeness isn't equal to interest, either.

I just want to get to college.
Posted by VintageRose on 02-22-2018
Wubwub
I think this does happen to men and boys more than we think but I guess most of the time I it is done by other older men. I'm just guessing though as that's just most of what I hear about and usually when it's a story of an older woman doing this to a younger man, rarely is the man really that hesitant and even if it were the case it's not like they are that much in danger as a young woman would be considering the physical strength of older men and women are different. In most cases when an older woman is caught doing this it's usually just the law and the media that condemns them but the actual victim seems to be fine with it.
Posted by Wubwub on 02-22-2018
jyy
I'd just avoid certain women and certain areas. I mean, some women hate guys and in other cases certain populations hate other ones - like say, how radical Muslims would hate Jews. Also, to top it off, I'd try to be civil and get along with people as much as possible - without compromising beliefs. In that case, better to get out of dodge, LOL.
Posted by jyy on 04-10-2018
cmoneyspinner
Everybody understands that the word “sexual” means something that's related to SEX! Everybody understands when they are being HARASSED! When you are being harassed and there is an added layer to it, as in for the purpose of having a sexual encounter AND YOU, the person – MALE or FEMALE – do not want that kind of relationship … you are being sexually harassed.

I don't want to hear this crap like “Uumm … he touched me on my shoulder … uuhh ... you know what I mean?” or “She asked me if I could work late … uuhhh ... you know what I mean?”

Look! You're AT WORK! What are you supposed to be doing at work? WORKING!! Do you know what I mean?

If the person at work has something else in mind but you're not sure, make sure that you behave in such a way that they understand to BACK OFF!! If you have to tell them in plain language then do it. Make sure they know what you mean!

If it's going to cause you to lose your job, I hope you can get a lawyer. Work is work. Sex is sex. Do you get a paycheck? What's the paycheck for? For work or for sex?
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 08-30-2018
jpk0007
I would respectfully disagree with the views expressed in this post. First of all, I don't think that there is anything wrong for a victim of sexual misconduct come out with her allegations at any time during her life. It takes a lot of time to heal the trauma and gather the courage to come out with the truth. I don't think that women are the weaker sex, in fact, women are much stronger mentally than men. If however there are some innocent men who are targeted in this process then they must fight it legally and prove there innocence. I think it is a healthy trend that women are spoeaking about the injustice done to them and this process will certainly be good for the society in the long run.
Posted by jpk0007 on 10-31-2018
jetselle
Not particularly, sexual harassment whether or not within the form of verbal or physical abuse, had a terrible impact on activity satisfaction and mental well-being. Nevertheless, being lively in feminist causes can also assist defend towards the terrible outcomes of this form of harassment due to the fact it could make men experience empowered about their primary rights.
Posted by jetselle on 11-05-2018
emiaj55
There is a general tendency to look at men as though they are already guilty of such. I do not support sexual harassment in any form or any level, but there are times that women are as guilty as the accused men. An example was actually aired in some show. The boy was actually led on by a girl. I am saying a boy and a girl because they were both too young. But when their experimenting went a little too far, and girls teases too much and one led to another, they made the act of sex. Later having found out that she was pregnant, her parents filed for sexual charges. So what I am saying is that, there are those who just use this system on their favor and usually the gender equality is actually a lost cause for men.
Posted by emiaj55 on 11-18-2018