Sleeping in the dark

Sleeping in the dark
When I was in pre-school, I was scared of sleeping in the dark. That’s why my parents had installed a lampshade beside my bed. When I entered high school, I seemed to have overcome my fear of the dark. I would sleep with the lights out although my transistor radio was beside my ear, playing soft music to lull me to sleep. And when I married, I again developed the habit of sleeping with the lights on. At my age, I couldn’t sleep in the dark. So what is the problem with darkness? Is it because of its unknown factor that we do not know what’s there in the dark? I really cannot answer that question because maybe it’s the conditioning of the mind that dictates whether you can sleep in the dark or not.


As a child I didn't like sleeping in the dark, but out house was haunted too. These days I prefer it dark and I am okay with it, in fact any small amount of light creeping in is annoying. I think you need to feel comfortable in your surroundings, and maybe once you are it won't matter if it is dark or light. Maybe something happened in childhood that made the OP afraid and it is repressed?
Posted by Alexa on 07-14-2017
I prefer to sleep in the dark than in a room filled with light, when I sleep in rooms with light I tend to wake up at the middle of the night or may not even sleep again because the light has made my sense to think that it's morning already and finally I will be weak when I wake up in the morning but the case is reverse when there is no light because you will feel comfortable while sleeping.
Posted by ElectorAlexander on 10-24-2018
I never seemed to have an issue with the dark, even when I was quite young. Even now, I like to have my room pitch dark with blackout curtains and I wear a sleep mask. However, I do sleep with the radio on for about 30 or 40 minutes and the noise actually helps me get to sleep.
Posted by Lizzyib on 07-14-2017
I don't know how you do that but it seem impossible for me to sleep with the radio on, I may just lay there for more than five hours without sleeping or will just keep imagining thing till morning, at that time the sleep will start coming back with full speed.
Posted by ElectorAlexander on 10-25-2018
I can sleep in a pitch dark room because I don't like sleeping in a room with light on, maybe my high school days have really contributed to this, I was a boarder and we usually observe light out from 9pm still morning so I became used to it,now I sleep with all my light totally off.
Posted by Frank on 12-18-2018
Everyone has some fear of the dark. It was a psychological mechanism that protected our eldest ancestors who lived in the pre-civilization era. Most of the worst things that can get you are nocturnal. Especially when you're talking about critters like large cats, you don't even know you're being hunted until they spring out of the brush at you. Fear of the dark kept us in our homes, around the fire and ostensibly safe(ish) from night prowling predators. Many odd human behaviors are hold overs from primordial times that made sense in that context, but no longer do. Just because the world changed around us doesn't mean our bodies and minds have necessarily caught up. So there's no cause for shame here, but there is a need for mastery. You have the right to own your fear and direct it. Your house is not the wild, the only predators who are going to spring at you are the house cats from behind the couch. Start turning the lights off at night and remember, you can handle this. You're allowed to be scared if that's how you feel, but you can handle it. In time that fear will retreat if you are persistent. I used to be like that too, now I walk around my house in the pitch black at night when I get up.
Posted by JaiGuru on 07-14-2017
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I'm not afraid of the dark. I'm afraid to be alone in the dark. I'm used to sleep with lights off when I was a child but I have someone besides me when I'm sleeping. Now I'm sleeping with the lights on, specially when I'm alone at our house or someones house. I feel like I'm not alone in my room when its pitch black.
Posted by rose thornes on 07-14-2017
I have this too when I am with someone in the dark, it really wouldn't scare me I know I am with someone and I can even talk to them when I get scared to keep my mind off of the scary things. But when I am alone, I don't have a way to distract myself and all I would think of is that there could be something creeping in the dark then I would get scared.
Posted by airfightermax on 07-15-2017
When I was a child, I never had issues to sleep alone and in the dark, until one thing happened. One night there was a tremble and I woke up in the middle of the thing really scared. After this bad experience, I started to have troubles to sleep with lights off and alone. It was terrible the process to fall asleep every night, worried that this would happen again. Eventually, I got over this and since then I don't have an issue to sleep in the dark, actually, the darker the room, the better I sleep.
Posted by reginafalange on 07-14-2017
I never had problem with the dark, not even as a younger. I had problems with the light! I couldn't sleep if there were even a little spark of light in the room... I don't know why most people are afraid of the dark, but my best guess is that the dark is the unknown.. we don't know what there is inside the dark, and our subconscious tries to warn us.
Posted by Xilkozuf on 07-15-2017
I can never sleep with the lights on. I don't know how people do that. It would be as if I have a long pole bearing down straight into my eyes. With regards to fear of darkness, there are a number of ways to overcome this. You can speak to a therapist or a counsellor. It is not a good sign for an adult to be afraid of the dark. You can also try to meditate or practice yoga. If you believe in those things. It is said it helps you overcome your fears.
Posted by joegirl on 07-15-2017
On the contrary, I am not really afraid of the dark and in fact I used to sleep with the lights off when I was still single. It is just my husband who introduced me to sleeping with the lights on because he reads to sleep and he is not comfortable with the lamp shade light. When we acquired dogs and they started sleeping in our bedroom the lights have to be turned on to avoid injury to our dogs.
Posted by Corzhens on 10-22-2018
I don't have a specific answer for this. It seems that we humans are afraid of darkness, maybe because we are afraid of unknown. When there is darkness we know that there can exist anything, it may be good or bad but is unknown for us. Probably our defensive mechanism works and we need to feel secure and choose a light to open near us!
Posted by wallet on 07-15-2017
Was really scared of the dark when I was young. Now I'm not scared of it but there are times where I still get scared especially after watching a horror movie or something I wouldn't be able to sleep after that. My mind just keeps thinking of these scary things that even if I know that these things are not real, I would still be scared.
Posted by airfightermax on 07-15-2017
Those who are suffering from depression needs to have more sunlight on their body in the morning. So I guess that would contribute to the lack of Vitamin D. Sleeping in the dark at night is fine. But during the day, we should let some sunlight level inside the room. That way our biological clock also may not get affected. I have seen that working on many people. So this one issue to consider.
Posted by overcast on 07-15-2017
Fear of the dark is usually psychological.The mere fact that we do not know what might be lurking in the dark forces our brains to create perceptions based on your impressions of what my be hiding in the darkness. The best way to overcome fear of the dark is to take time and notice all that is around you and tell yourself that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Posted by Jameson on 07-15-2017
When I was a kid, I too used to be afraid of sleeping in the dark. I don't know if it's just me or maybe my personality, but I've grown somewhat attached to the darkness. I prefer my room dark now, with my laptop being the only light source. Every time I go to sleep, I have my lights out because it bothers me when the light is on. I do however, prefer dim lit lights like those in hotels, I think they give a more cozy feeling compared to just plain darkness and full bright lights.
Posted by arachnophobik on 07-15-2017
Sleeping in the dark attracts a lot of risk as you can't see anything in darkness. You never can tell what comes up while sleeping and that's why you need putting on light before going to bed. If you remain in the dark while sleeping, some dangerous animals like scorpions, snakes, or other reptiles may sneak in from unknown places taking advantage of the darkness and hurt you in a bad way. For both the above stated and unstated reasons, you must make sure you don't sleep in the dark.
Posted by pioneerauthor on 07-15-2017
I could never sleep with the lights on it would be too distracting for me. When I go to bed I want complete darkness and complete silence. It is the only way to sleep. Even as a child I never slept with the lights on. Our house was in the middle of nowhere and it was dark and quiet at nights so that is what I got use to. I have never been afraid of the dark.
Posted by Sue on 07-15-2017
I think that pitch dark frightens people because they feel unaware of their surroundings, and this makes them feel at a loss and insecure. Personally I am the other way round, as I need the room to be really dark to sleep because even a little light affects me negatively. I just cannot go to sleep if there is light.
Posted by sspi on 07-15-2017
Most times, the condition of the mind plays a significant part on in determining our preference in sleeping in the dark or with lights on. Take for example, while growing up, i never liked anything that has to with darkness. Sometimes, in the middle of the night, waking up to go and use the rest room is a big task when the light is not on.

Another reason could be attributed to the kind of movies we watch during the day. As kids, when you watch horror movies for instance, your brain records the whole scene, and when its down, your fears from the movie watched earlier on begins to play some tricks on you. Not only kids, some adults find watching some movies scary. This is mainly because, darkness has always been attributed to evil.

However, i have seen people who find it difficult to sleep when the lights are on. They would turn from one side of the bed to the other. They either switch off the lights or wear a face mask that will create a dark environment. Others, sleep well with lights on. I myself, i can sleep very well like a baby, with or without light. So, i feel its a thing of the mind (our mindset in connection to the brain) and could also be an individual thing. That's why we are different as humans but unique in our own way.
Posted by Dparagon on 07-15-2017
There is nothing wrong with having a little light sleeping. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to sleep. I did used to prefer a night light, but now I prefer lights out and even black out curtains too so I do not see the sunlight in the morning to wake up my sleep.
Posted by simplym on 07-15-2017
I believe sleeping with light on or off depends on an individual. Some people like it on or off but if one really need no distractions whatever when sleeping then I believe putting off the light should suffice.
Posted by Frank on 12-18-2018
I don't know the reason of it, but guessing some might be scared by someone about darkness when they were young or they just feel insecure in the dark. I think I have used to turn off the light when I was young, and I prefer to sleep in a complete dark room as I feel it's more comfortable to fall asleep. I am not really brave, and I do sometimes imagine there might be someone or something in the dark, but I am still fine to walk in the dark in my own house and I want to turn off all the lights and even have the curtain to block out the light from the street.
Posted by kaka135 on 07-16-2017
You might want to make some adjustments to welcome sleeping in darkness as it may compromise your health if you continue to avoid it. According to professors at the New York University School of Medicine, your brain produces melatonin which is a hormone which promotes sleep. This process is disrupted by the presence of light when you are asleep. Your body is naturally programmed to sleep when it's dark. Even if you sleep with the lights on, lights can be detected through your eye lids and this prevents the production of melatonin and further prevents you from getting that deep well needed sleep that your body requires to reboot and enhance overall health and body fitness.
Posted by Joteque on 07-16-2017
Personally, I never had issues with sleeping in the darkness.On the contrary, I feel discomfort in sleeping with lights on. It`s very disturbing to me. I guess there is a certain psychological barrier which hinders you to sleep in the darkness. Subconsciously You might feel scared or alarmed with lights off. Before having a sleep I suggest you think of something good and positive. Try to picture in details the object or situation You would like to have. This trick will help you to relax, concentrate on your pleasant dream, driving away all the unnecessary fears.
Posted by RosieCheeks on 07-17-2017
It is understandable that some people are afraid of the dark and prefer to sleep with the lights on, but for some reason I'd rather sleep in the dark. Right now I sleep with my younger brother who always wants to sleep with the lights on, but I used to sleep in the dark when I was alone and I find it so peaceful and quiet. I was able think about my life and evaluate on my past actions but of course it is unavoidable that I remember sad memories. There are some exceptions back then when I do not turn off the lights at night and one of it is that I just recently watched a horror movie or I have been creeped out by some stories that I have read in the internet.
Posted by giovanniiiii on 07-17-2017
I think that people, especially children have major issues sleeping in the dark because of their imagination. As children, our imagination can be at a peak point - for most individual imagination levels drop as they start growing. You stop imagining ''what can be under the bed'' ''what can be behind the door'' and you don't even think in that way. So, not being afraid of sleeping in the dark usually comes with age. However, if you ever had any actual bad experiences with it, it can be traumatic and can haunt and follow you your whole life.

I was really scared as a child and I always slept with my night lamp on that I had near my bed on my nightstand. After growing up a bit, we switched to using one of those bulbs that you can plug in and is less bright... and eventually, I just grew out of it. Now I love sleeping in a pitch dark! I couldn't sleep with a light on anymore.
Posted by Mehano on 07-17-2017
It was since I was a kid that I want the room to be dark when I go to sleep. Though, since my sibling and I share one big bedroom with two double decks and one single bed for our youngest, they want a bit of light because of their of being scared of their imagined spooky things, we have a lamp shade. Since I like it dark, I just cover my eyes with my small pillow, because anyway I sleep on my sides. Now, that I am bigger I always wear a night mask since hubby has the habit of waking up at night and would switch on the lamp shade on his side of the bed. Once I see a light, I surely will have a hard time sleeping again.
Posted by SimplyD on 07-18-2017
I never afraid sleeping in dark, in fact, i find myself hard to sleep when theirs a light I can sense. My mom and dad keep scaring about the boogeyman but it's not affecting me at all. They keep turning on the lampshade beside but I keep turning it off when they leave my room. It is normal for me until now to sleep in the dark. It's like my comfort zone where in it act as my lullaby so I can easily fall asleep.
Posted by mcbryan080990 on 07-20-2017
I think we all have some kinds of fear. I am afraid of sleeping in the dark too. I have always been afraid of darkness and abstain from going out at night. I have even stopped watching horror movies as they usually makes me feel so scared and I tend to remember those scary scenes at night. I remember when I was a kid I was refusing to sleep in my room because I was afraid of darkness and my dad bought a lamp just to encourage me to sleep in my room. I still use a lamp nowadays as I have not been able to get rid of this fear. However, if I am not sleeping alone then the darkness just doesn't seem to bother me that much.
Posted by Pixie on 07-21-2017
For me as a child, I didn't like to sleep in the dark, also I don't like to turn the lights on (In general) so the only choice I had to do was to turn on the TV before sleeping, so there's a small light comes to me, but after a few released I did realize that it is find to sleep in the darkness.
Posted by Moaz on 07-21-2017
As a child I was scared to sleep in the dark, however I shared room with a sibling so that helped. We both had bedside lamps, but where not allowed to turn them on (lights of) when bedtime. It was a comfort to have that light next to the bed though, because if I woke up from any nightmare or so I would just turn it on until I calmed down and went to sleep again.
Posted by Inqogn1to on 07-23-2017
I have to say that has never been a problem for me. I think that it is because I recall my mother sleeping with me when I was very little and was afraid of the dark. When I grew up I had zero problems sleeping in the dark. Up to these days, I can only sleep well in absolute darkness. Otherwise, I will wake up during the night and my overall sleep quality won't be so good.
Posted by Marvadaum on 07-24-2017
I slept in the dark until I got married, however, after marriage I am sleeping with lights on. My wife was afraid of dark and she has a habit of sleeping with lights on. I did not want to offend her, so I also began sleeping with lights on. Slowly, I began reducing the amount of light in the room and one day my wife was able to sleep in the dark. These days, when I have to wake up in the middle of night, I sleep with lights on.
Posted by vinaya on 08-24-2017
Wow, you are really a genius in handling such matters, I can't imagine myself sleeping with the lights on because of my wife but you did a great job by slowly making her adapt to sleeping in the dark.

I think you endured enough but it really paid off.
Posted by ElectorAlexander on 10-25-2018
I'm afraid and scared with the darkness, but I really can't sleep if the lights are still turned on my room or if its really bright supposedly I sleep at day time. I don't know maybe I really feel more comfortable to sleep at the day or night in the dark as it helps me get to sleep more faster and really deep. The worst thing about me also is I'm always the last guy to turn to sleep, I can't feel more comfortable or my mind has kind keep floating around if there's someone whose not asleep yet, like talking with others or still doing something.
Posted by narutos3nn1n on 09-07-2017
I sleep in the dark as in I don't have any lights turned off. However, the streetlights outside my house are very harsh and the light reaches my room. It's never really dark even if I have my blinds closed. Maybe it would be darker if I had the plastic or metal blinds that fully cover your windows and I don't know how I would sleep if it was completely dark in my room.
Posted by felabruno on 09-10-2017
I can sleep in the dark as long as it is not totally black because I can't breathe normally if I cant see my surroundings. It somewhat easier to sleep that all lights are turned on than total darkness inside my room.
Posted by rogel on 09-16-2017
Personally, I can't sleep in anything other than complete penumbra. It's much better to fall asleep and also our bodies produce more melatonin in that state which helps us to sleep better. As long as I fell safe I'm ok with darkness
Posted by Marvadaum on 09-16-2017
Even up till this age, I am someone that enjoys sleeping with light, not because of being scared, but as a result of the fact that sleeping with light brings peace of mind to me and makes me enjoy my sleep like a small baby. I have developed that habit and it is one that I am not ready to change in no time as well.
Posted by Barida on 09-27-2017
I have enough problems trying to get to sleep as it is. If I could get the room pitch black I think I would probably sleep better. Because it seems like something in my brain registers “light” as an indicator that I'm NOT supposed to be asleep! Even if it is 3 o'clock in the morning! It's been that way with me for years now. I prefer to sleep with the room as dark as possible. My husband insists on having some light. He can't sleep in a dark room. It affects his dreams. But the more light there is, the harder it is for me to sleep. So he tries to keep the room as dim as possible, with enough light so that it doesn't affect his dream process.
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 01-08-2018
I've read something about that. I think that intense light at night is not good for those who want to sleep, because the brain understands that it is still day, which delays the production of melatonin, the sleep hormone. This happens when we are in front of the computer screen, because the light of the screen is very close to the eyes.
Posted by hermessantos on 02-02-2018
I think I have also read about that where the subconscious is dictated by the light. So when the bedroom is amply lighted, the brain is not going to sleep yet. And when the bedroom is dark, that is trying to convince the mind that it is time to sleep. However, it doesn’t work all the time as attested by those who have insomnia. And when you sleep in a lighted bedroom for a month or more then you will get used to it and maybe you cannot sleep comfortably in the dark.
Posted by Corzhens on 02-14-2018
I prefer sleeping in the dark because it helps s me to easily sleep easily when my conscious nature is affected by nerves that allows me to fall asleep when it becomes dark unlike when it is bright.
Posted by babyright on 03-01-2018
I love the picture by the way. 100% for effort. I think that they are many people who have a problem with light when they sleep. Its something with the way your brain processes it. I can sleep in the dark, however I also need some kind of distraction to focus my brain to sleep. E.g I need deep waves or rain sounds to sleep. I get this from Youtube videos. I think that this is some kind of insomnia. I would not take this as a problem. It is what it is and you have found a solution. You can also get a radio with lights this helps alot.
Posted by jaymish on 10-02-2018
I remember being a bit scared of the dark when I was younger but not really to the point of not being able to sleep in a dark room. I more was afraid of particular places and rooms so it didn't matter much whether they were dark or not. I think when we are younger we are still getting used to things because it's all new to us so it's understandable to be afraid of the dark, and also that's a natural impulse for humans because we were meant to be more alert during darkness just in case predators are around.
Posted by Wubwub on 10-24-2018
I learned the habit of sleeping without light from my high school and I'm so used to it now. I sleep with my light off all night and I feel very comfortable doing that. It has really been convenient for me than with light.
Posted by Frank on 12-18-2018