There is nothing wrong with voluntary celibacy.

There is nothing wrong with voluntary celibacy.
Just recently, a family member and I had quite an “interesting” conversation. They consider themselves to be a practicing Christian, while I consider myself a practicing Buddhist, and out of our religious discussion arose the topic of celibacy and sexuality. I had mentioned that for spiritual purposes, I would be experimenting with celibacy for a period of time, and that depending on the progress/results I’d make (or lack thereof), I might consider taking a vow of celibacy for life. I took it into consideration after being inspired by Buddhist monks, who vow to abstain from any relationships so long as they are in their robes.

To my surprise, the family member was absolutely shocked that I’d consider something like that. They continued on with this whole spiel about how God intended for every man to be with a woman, “be fruitful and multiply” and all that, while I stood there feeling as if I had just committed some sort of heinous atrocity. As someone who has read the Bible, I understand where they’re coming from because the Bible places a huge emphasis on avoiding sexual immorality by finding oneself a husband/wife. That being said, just because one is unmarried doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re going to be inclined towards sexual immorality—or at least in the way that the Bible defines it.

I think that celibacy and self-control can help one grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, as sexuality itself is a form of inner energy which can be transmuted for greater use. Some of the greatest minds in all of history, including Nikola Tesla and Isaac Newton, were celibate.

What do you think? Is remaining celibate an act against God or does celibacy and abstinence from romantic relationships provide the opportunity for greater spiritual development? What's your perspective on it from your religion? Let’s talk about it!

Comments

jpk0007
I think that everyone has the right to choose the way he wants to lead his or her life. Some people are very religious and they believe in the existence of God according to there religion. Others , dont believe in the existence of God and religion. The act of Celibacy is something which is a matter of personal choice. I dont think that there is much of a relationship between being celibate and being spiritual. People who are married or in a relationship can also be very deeply spiritual and vice versa. I think if you are celibate then you dont have any duties and obligations towards your family. you get more time and freedom to concentrate on your goal of spiritual growth.
Posted by jpk0007 on 12-17-2018
Alymae
We are free people. We have the right to choose the path that we will walk. Voluntary celibacy should not be an issue. Religion doesn't have any say in this. I don't think God will see you less because you are celibate. I don't any connection between being a celibate and spiritual life.
Posted by Alymae on 12-17-2018
luv2xacosta
I also think of it. We are entitled of what we want for our self. But I think they want to celibate because they want to remain pure or focused on their spiritual aspect and away from any temptations.
Posted by luv2xacosta on 12-18-2018
amelia88
I don’t think it’s a problem. If it’s not hurting anyone it’s not my place to judge someone else’s life choices. If it’s what makes someone happy then I think they should go for it.
Posted by amelia88 on 12-17-2018
kaushikangara
We all have the right to choose the path we want to follow in our lives. All religions teach and preach only good. It depends on the individual how he takes it and applies it to his life. Being spiritual is a good thing and you will feel closer to the almighty. No harm in embracing celibacy.
Posted by kaushikangara on 12-17-2018
NikSuks
Really, there is nothing wrong with it. Everyone can do whatever they want to do with their own lives. I mean, if someone chooses celibacy, his/her decision must be respected. It is the way how they perceive life, same as others who choose something else do. Someone loves something, someone does not. People should not interfere with the decisions other people make. Let everyone lead their own life, you lead yours and everyone will be happy.
Posted by NikSuks on 12-17-2018
Anonymous
I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with voluntary celibacy as long as you are not engaging in any immoral activities. Actually the bible has no problem with being celibate but states that if one cannot refrain then let them get a partner to satisfy their pleasures. I think being celibate allows to really discover yourself, learn to keep your priorities first and above you avoid all these heart breaks people keep talking about. According to me voluntary celibacy is a good decision.
Posted by Anonymous on 12-17-2018
Kakashi2020
Beeing celibate or practicing celibacy is a choice and should be respected. As to if it's good or bad well, it's up to the one practicing it to determine.

As for my opinion, if you don't have a choice, like if you can't find a mate or no one wants to have a romantic relationship with you because you're butt ugly then just practice celibacy.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 12-17-2018
iambeth
Choosing to be celibate is not a sin. You are not harming anyone by doing so. It is a personal decision and I do not think God will punish anyone for believing that they will reach spiritual growth by being celibate.
Posted by iambeth on 12-17-2018
theresajane
That's right. There's nothing wrong with it. It's even better than being a person who didn't commit for a voluntary celibacy, but is committing to many sins intentionally and unintentionally.
Posted by theresajane on 12-17-2018
burgosmichael2407
I believe the Bible has the answer for this issue. In 1 Corinthians 7:1-10 states these words,

  1. Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.
  2. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
  3. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
  4. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
  5. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
  6. I say this as a concession, not as a command.
  7. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
  8. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
  9. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
  10. To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
Using these scriptures from the Bible, we can say that it is not a sin to marry and it is also not a sin if you chose not to marry.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 12-18-2018
Anonymous
I agree that this is entirely a personal choice. I know that people who are voluntarily celibate say that it is the best thing that they have done. It allows them to enter into relationships without the possibility or the lens of sex that is always seen to cloud you from seeing the person like they really are. I agree that a person should not be forced to practice celibacy. I see that the church insists that everyone practices celibacy.
Posted by Anonymous on 12-17-2018
jaymish
Celibacy should be a personal choice. I agree that it should not be upto other people how you live your life. People should live their lives how they want to live their lives, if they want to be celibate let them be celibate, but it should not be upto you to decide if they should live a celibate life or not. I know that religion tries to enforce a certain standard on all of us, the standard of celibacy.
Posted by jaymish on 12-17-2018
theresajane
Oh goodness, there's nothing wrong with doing the thing that you think that's right. As long as you don't hurt yourself and others, then, just go for what you want.
Posted by theresajane on 12-17-2018
cmoneyspinner
Celibacy is one thing. Virginity is another. A lot of people who choose celibacy are not necessarily virgins, i.e. people who have never had a sexual experience. Says who? Says Saint Augustine. Anyway, people don't harass people who choose to be celibate, near as much as they harass people who choose to keep their virginity until marriage. There is nothing WRONG with either one. So why make the virgin feel like the're STUPID for making the choice?
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 12-17-2018
NerdIndeed
Everyone has their own choice regarding how to live their life. If I may give an example, not everybody loves to play basketball, some love to play golf or tennis. We do things to make us happy and content. It's the same thing regarding celibacy.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-17-2018
Corzhens
Most celibates are members of religious groups like the Catholic priests and the Buddhist monks. But I know of some people who are celibate voluntarily. They are eligible to have a lover but they shun a relationship in the idea that it will interfere in their freedom and happiness because they enjoy doing things in their own way. But those celibates constitute a very small minority which means people love to be in a relationship.
Posted by Corzhens on 12-17-2018
antonToledo
In my own opinion, there is nothing wrong with voluntary celibacy you have all the right to choose what you want in to do in your and with your body. Don't let your families and relative dictate what you are and what you would be. And I do agree that in Christianity there are a lot of individuals who practice celibacy that includes priest and female priest.

Celibacy is not a sin and you have all the right in the world to practice it.
Posted by antonToledo on 12-17-2018
luv2xacosta
I think it's you choice if you want to celibate or not. There's nothing wrong with that if you want it that way after all it's your choice. I actually admire those who are in celibacy, they must be very true to their words and to their religion. Patience and perseverance and honesty is very few now a days.
Posted by luv2xacosta on 12-18-2018
axl2468
Nothing wrong with celibacy. After all, it's a basic human right to choose any path that will not harm anyone else.

So what if the Bible told you to be fruitful and multiply? That's in the Old Testament where there were less people then and God just wanted to have morw Hebrews. It's an outdated verse that should not be strictly followed in the modern days.
Posted by axl2468 on 12-18-2018
knnon
I think there's nothing wrong with it. If that's your personal choice then people should just support you on it. Honestly the people I see doing wrong are those being intimate before marriage and then having babies then having to pick abortion. I know it's a different matter but honestly there's nothing wrong with you having that choice. If it will make you happy and if you think it helps with your spiritual growth then do it for yourself.
Posted by knnon on 12-18-2018
jessie271
Yes, for me there’s nothing wrong with it. If you do not wish to get married, that is your choice. I think there’s nothing wrong with that. If you are happy with your life, then that’s fine. But if your motive is wrong like for example, you don’t want to get married so that you won’t commit to anybody and so you can practice an immoral life then that is what’s wrong.
Posted by jessie271 on 12-18-2018