We all need a shoulder to cry on. Whose shoulder will that be?

We all need a shoulder to cry on. Whose shoulder will that be?
We all need to open up when we have challenges to face. We get respite when we pour it all out. But one has to be discreet while looking for that shoulder that would give that relief All cannot do it Some have no character and would prefer not to be that shoulder.

My shoulder is Reiki. Reiki is a source that helps me face whatever challenge I have . It is kind of a spiritual healing. There are Reiki Masters that pass on that technique during 'atonement' There are several levels and I have mastered the first two that are sufficient for me to take care of myself and even help others in distress both mentally and physically. Reiki helps us to look for strength within us that makes us independent not having to rely on any shoulder to cry on. There is a promise that we have to make every single day that talks of us not getting angry, being honest, living in the attitude of gratitude, not being lazy and respecting those around us These five principles embody what is needed to live in peace, with a spring in our step.

We can also impart that peace to others by praying on them. There are symb ols that we need to master that are required to practice Reiki on ourselves or on others. I have full faith in Reiki and I have mastered this art since many years. Reiki originated in Japan and it has now spread far and wide. Tapping our inner sources is the best way to equip ourselves to face challenges in our day to day life.

Do you need outside support to face your challenges? . How do you go about coping with life when things do not go well with you? Do you believe in spiritual healing


When I am feeling extremely stressed I need my alone space. To get that I go north and spend time with nature. I will take a long hike or go to my favorite space to just get refocused. There is just something about spending time with nature that helps me so deal with the many struggles in life that I havr faced.
Posted by Sue on 11-04-2017
Nature cleans itself. Nature can be a very good shoulder to cry on. You can talk to animals, plants and water. Stones can listen to you. Nature is the best.
Posted by stbrians on 11-06-2018
I'm not a cryer person so, I don't need any shoulder but when I'm feeling stressed, sad or angry I use to take a time to meditate alone, I use to find a lonely place where no one can bother me so, I can meditate quietly and think clearly what is happening to me and how can solve the problem that is annoying me. Also, sometimes, I use to talk with closest friends finding a solution to my problem or an advice.
Posted by cubo on 11-04-2017
I always look up to God in time of crisis and tribulations. I don't think there is any problem that is bigger than the God that I serve and in most of those cases, he has shown that he is a faithful God and one dependable maker. I try to work hard on a daily basis to have the best of lives and I don't think there will come a time when I will turn back on him no matter how tough the going gets.
Posted by Barida on 11-04-2017
As a Christian I lean solely on GOD, I believe there's nothing he cannot do, so even in the well, I believe it well with me.God has never disappointed me, he has been my source of inspiration and peace.So whenever I'm going through any storm I hold onto him and he has been a dependable friend at all times.
Posted by lovely on 11-04-2017
I understand your devotion to your religion but the discussion is all about a person whom you can depend on in times of crisis. Of course, most of us are dependent on God for our faith but let us admit that God doesn’t talk to us. That’s why other religion are saying that Christians are fond of talking to the wall. Anyway, if you have friends in your church, I guess they can be of help when you need that kind of companionship.
Posted by Corzhens on 07-02-2018
As humans, it is quite normal for us to feel low at times. Normally, when I feel down I listen to meditating music. Meditation and yoga have always helped me and I will recommend everyone to try these. Nowadays there are many good meditating pieces of music available online for free.
Posted by Pixie on 11-04-2017
I also a catholic Christians and even I don’t go to mass every Sunday I see to it that I pray every day for guidance. Every time that I have big problems health, love, financial that I can’t hardly understand and don’t know what to do I will go to church and pray for guidance and peaceful mind so I can think the best way to do. When I’m really depressed I will just pray and cry in the church. I believe in Almighty God nothing is impossible to him and God is my shoulder to cry on.
Posted by honeybabe on 11-04-2017
I think in this fast life it's kind of hard to find the shoulder to cry. And it's even more harder to see how that can be something we need to check out on. You can see that many people are so focused on the life of others. They don't live their own in the process. And you have to understand that some of the time life is going to be complicated. And so we need some person around to understand us for that.
Posted by overcast on 11-05-2017
I'm an atheist so I won't rely on spiritual things or God when I need a shoulder to lean on. I've always been a fan of combat sports and when I'm feeling down I'll just practice a lot, it really makes me forget about all of the bad things. When I can't go to the gym, I listen to music or play video games, I need my alone space to feel better.
Posted by Tania997 on 11-05-2017
My shoulder is meditation. I read about meditation when I was a ninth grader. I was a 10th grader when I tried meditation for the first time. The experience was amazing. I am not meditating regularly these days, however, when ever I feel low, I sit to meditation. Meditation makes my mind calm.
Posted by vinaya on 11-05-2017
Praying and talking to someone can really help. I do not know any methods that can help someone forget bad experience because even if some of us can get a shoulder to cry on, some bad memories will still haunt us and it feels like we can never be free. I haven't tried Reiki before.
Posted by mildredtabitha on 11-06-2017
I've faced a lot of adversities in life and I've learned to turn to God for everything. Trusting Him and His will has helped calm me at the lowest points of my life. Sometimes, though, we just needed to have someone to talk to and vent out. I have my sister for that and she's the only person I can trust with my secrets. Reiki is an alternative healing method developed by a Japanese Buddhist and has its roots on Buddhist beliefs. It's been adopted by various cultures and made to fit with their beliefs, oftentimes taking out the origin of the technique.
Posted by chatbox on 11-06-2017
No matter how strong you may think you are, there will come a time where you need a shoulder to cry on. Personally, I think the best person to get support from is your family because they are the closest people to you and the ones that will support you no matter what. In a time of need, your family will always be there for you and will never give up on you which I why I think one of your closest family members is the best person to get help from.
Posted by kingcool52 on 11-08-2017
We all need to cry out once in a while. It is the most natural thing in the world but it always helps if you have somebody that you can rely on, a shoulder to cry on.

For me, that is always my amazing partner, my family and my close friends. I am extremely grateful for all of them because even if I am sad or feeling down, they got my back and I know that they are always there for me.
Posted by Mehano on 11-08-2017
I often turn to religion and meditation to help me get through the darker days of my life. Still, this is a very personal thing and there are no guaranteed methods for getting it right. Still, one thing is for sure. We all got to share our problems so others can help us address them
Posted by Marvadaum on 11-08-2017
I often talk to people when I feel low. They can make me feel better. I also talk to God sometimes although I am not very religious. My pet comforts me as well. I am not that great at dealing with negative emotions though. It is one of the things in life that I struggle with. It makes me feel down, as it does to all.
Posted by kgord on 11-13-2017
Personally when I am at a loss with how to solve a problem or situation I usually turn to shooting hoops or going for a long walk or train ride. It doesn't work all of the time but 8 times out of 10 is a good percentage imo.
Posted by NickJ on 11-17-2017
I don't really do this but if I needed to, I have some friends I know I can rely on. Most of the time, I am the one people are crying on, probably because I never really felt like being on the other side so people think I have it together a little more, which to be honest probably isn't really all that true at all. I'm glad I do have people I can rely on if I really needed it though.
Posted by Wubwub on 12-02-2017
I am the shoulder that people cry on, look to for advice - it's not that my advice is the greatest, nor am I an expert, I just don't judge people. I do not have that person for myself although I often wish I did, I think God is probably sick of hearing all my problems. The reason for this is when I am really upset there is no-one I know strong enough to even try deal with the problems, in addition why would I want to upset someone else. I also do not believe that there would be a way to help anyway, otherwise I would have thought of it - so why bother trying.
Posted by Rhombus on 12-15-2017
The outside support that I turn to is right at home with me! The love and care that my dogs give me are unparalleled. If ever I am miserable for whatever reason, they are there for me. They give me a group hug and wag their little butts. They never fail to put a smile back on my face. I wouldn't be without them, not for all the money in the world. In fact, if I had all the money in the world, I'd have every dog in the world live beside me.
Posted by JMS on 01-11-2018
My faith in my religion is always my refuge. In the recent years when I had big problems in the office such that my functions were tapered and my staff were lessened, it was like dying or should I say the dying of my career. Some of my colleagues have resigned when they had the same experience because it is a big embarrassment. But I stayed on by clinging to my faith that God has greater plans for me. And when the storm was over, I was glad that I was able to overcome the challenges. Of course, there’s also my husband who never tire in giving me positive advices.
Posted by Corzhens on 01-11-2018
You need a shoulder to cry on. This shoulder is never other people. If you have problems go to God and learn to soothe yourself. In the words of Wayne Dyer the answer is you. Only you have the answer and solution to your problems. Everyone is equipped to deal with anything life throws them. We all have the answers inside us. No one else can give you the answer that is best for you. No one has the solution to your problem but you.My advise learn to comfort yourself my friends! You are never alone. You have God!
Posted by jaymish on 02-05-2018
As comforting as it seems, I don't have any person I can cry on. I prefer to cry alone and talk to myself about the problems I have, I think it's because I just got used to it. And I am more used to listening to people rather than sharing my problems. Afterall, I have God who I can talk to if I don't have anyone and I rest assured that the world in front of me will be better tomorrow.
Posted by vivalavanda on 03-12-2018
The shoulder that i always cry upon when in need or for physical and spiritual need is the Son of God that is Jesus Christ the savior of the world. He is the master key that opens all closed doors of good health, prosperity and righteousness.
Posted by babyright on 04-21-2018
My shoulder to cry on is Jirah, she is my best friend and I love her so much. She understands me and always ready to give advice if I am confused and I do the same to him.
Posted by nrnlss on 10-24-2018
Is Reiki a type of meditation? With me it is God that offers me a shoulder to lean on. I pray, read the bible and sing praises to God. I soon relax and become alright.
Posted by stbrians on 11-06-2018
Well i dont have a shoulder to cry on and i honestly dont need one. Life is full of ups and downs and one has to learn to deal with adversities on our own. There is no use in searching for a shoulder when each and everyone has his or her own set of problems and sorrows to deal with. Afterall even if you get a shoulder to cry on for some time, eventually you will have to come to terms with the problem on your own.
Posted by jpk0007 on 12-07-2018