What is your parenting style?

Many may not realize it, but the way you parent your children is a style. There are 4 basis styles of parenting: *Authoritarian Parenting- in this type of parenting, parents are thought of as disciplinarians. They will negotiate with their children very little and punishment is often used. Rules are used but rarely explained and most of the communication is done by the parent. Parents often expect a lot from their children and the bar is often is set very high.

*Permissive Parenting- With this type of parenting, parents let their children do whatever they please. There is very little guidance. Often there are no rules and children are expected to figure things out themselves. Parents are typically very nurturing and caring, however expectations are very minimal.

*Uninvolved Parenting- This parenting style has no distinct parenting style. There is very little nurturing offered and parents often will not communicate with their children. Very few if any expectations are set. Children basically able to do whatever they wish.

*Authoritative Parenting- These parents have very clear rules and everything is explained. Goals and expectations are high but communication is very good and children may have some input in the goals that parents have. Communication is set to where the children understand at their level.

While there are 4 styles, many do not fit into one mold. They may use a combination of these styles. What parenting style do you fit into most of the time?

Poll Options

  Authoritarian Parenting Vote
7.69% voted this
  Permissive Parenting Vote
15.38% voted this
  Uninvolved Parenting Vote
  Authoritative Parenting Vote
76.92% voted this
Total Votes: 13


As a person, I would like to be the type of parent that gives my kids the freedom to do most of the things they like when they are adults. The reason is simply that by doing what they like, they get to become better persons that can make and stand by the decision they make in life. I will only play that advisory role by always being there to guide and teach them the basics of life and how to do the things that will help me them grow.

It is never in my nature to be that parent that will bring a lot of control to my kids as regards the need to become better individuals in life. I always see the power in training a child in the way that he should go and not in guiding them even when they are old enough to make decisions.
Posted by Barida on 03-15-2018
You need to control your kids. Controlling kids does not mean you have to be very strict. There should be reasonable controlling. The kid wants to play a video game, however, he has not completed his home work. What will you do in this situation. I will exercise control with a reasonable degree. I will foce the kid to complete the home work and then allow to play the game.
Posted by vinaya on 03-21-2018
I am a conservative person but I always go for moderation. That means I am not too strict and I am not too lax. Take note of the word too that I used. Children look up to their parents as role models and there is a tinge of friendship in that relationship. That means you can cultivate that friendship and your child will be trying his best not to make you sad by doing the right thing. In other words, there is no need to remind the child from time to time on what to do because of his attitude to please you all the time.
Posted by Corzhens on 03-16-2018
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The disadvantage about that kind of approach is sometimes they tend to be over confident that you will not get mad. I guess you should really need to establish your authority and then after that you can be ease on them, but when the time arises that they violate your rules, don't hesitate to initiate discipline on them.
Posted by JB Fernandez on 03-20-2018
I'm not a parent for the time being, but I could imagine how I would raise my child, were I to have one. I think that I would most likely try to find a middle ground between Authoritative and Permissive. I believe that children definitely need guidance. There have to be certain rules in life set for the child's own good. Heck, I'm 26 and I still live by rules that I set for myself, because they improve my quality of life. But at the same time, you can't smother your child with rules and guidance or else they won't ever learn how to walk on their own two feet. Guide them, teach them, but also allow them to make their own mistakes, letting them know that their actions have consequences but that you'll be there to help them.
Posted by Denis_P on 03-17-2018
Authoritative is a middle ground between Authoritarian and Permissive. Authoritarian parenting means you exercise absolute control. Permissive parenting means you let the kid do what he wants to do. Authoritative means you have reasonable control over the kids.
Posted by vinaya on 03-21-2018
I'm not a parent yet, But if ever, I will become supportive to my kids, about their decisions and what ever they wanted to be in their life. They will always have the options to do what ever they want, I will give them some example like if they do this thing, this will be the outcome. and not let them decide, if they choose the wrong one, it's alright. But not going to become spoiled. If they did something wrong, I'm not going to help and will allowed them to solve their own problems.
Posted by ion on 03-18-2018
I am a parent and I am more experienced than you to tell what's good for the betterment of kids. Well, you need to support your kids. However, you cannot say yes to everything. You know what's better for your kid and support only when it helps them. Children are naive and they do not know exactly what to do. Sometimes you need to be hard on them. They will praise you later in their life.
Posted by vinaya on 04-12-2018
I was permissive with my son and didn't really try to enforce my will on him too much. However, because I was a single parent and worked most oft he time when he was growing up, I was tired at the end of the day and he really got away with more things than he should have.
Posted by kgord on 03-18-2018
I use Authoritarian Parenting because It was also the style of parenting used by my parents to discipline me and I turned out to be a very well disciplined kid. In this style of disciplining children, mistakes are reprimanded and correct actions are rewarded so kids are trained and are motivated to have good behavior. I believe that this would drill the kids in doing what is right and abstain from doing what is wrong.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 03-19-2018
Authoritarian parenting? You must be joking. Your parents used Authoritarian parenting style does not mean that was the best parenting style. Authoritarian parenting does not help you to bring a responsible child. In fact, it will create a rebel. Your children will dislike you for being too hard on them. Sometimes you can become hard on your children, however, you also need to become flexible.
Posted by vinaya on 03-21-2018
I chose authoritative parenting most of the time but flexible to change or use another parenting style to raise my children. So, I can tell that mixed parenting styles is the best strategy of raising our children to be successful. We are all different in a different generation as well. People change and how the environment and lifestyle may affect everyone including our children. One parenting style may be effective to other parents and their children, but to others may not. You have to consider and weight a lot of things. Actually, you cannot tell which one is the best until we, as a parent, figure it out as we go along. Even sisters and brothers have different personalities and every parenting style affects the child differently based on their needs and parent-child relationship.
Posted by rubeth1726 on 11-28-2018
There are successful cases of authoritarian parenting. But, everyone are unique, everyone's mind works differently, thus, others may become successful and others may become rebels of their parents.
Posted by theresajane on 11-10-2018
I am definitely an authoratative parent! I will not tolerate certain things from my child--as a matter of fact, whenever she gets "out of line", or when she wants to test the limits or the boundaries of what is considered acceptable behavior, she gets immediately repirmanded and sometimes even punished based upon her behavior. We usually punish her by taking away her priveleges or by making her stand in the corner for a set period of time (she is only 7). Although I do not believe in spanking, there are plenty of ways to discipline a child, and I think it is healthy for ALL children to experience this discipline so that they grow and mature decently and properly.
Posted by JoeMilford on 03-21-2018
Currently, I am a Permissive parent, however, I will be doing Authoritative Parenting in the future. I am Permissive because my baby is just 10 months and I do not want to make him cry by imposing rules. I will be a Authoritative parent because I believe this is the best parenting method.
Posted by vinaya on 03-21-2018
As a parent, I would be strict enough to make sure my kids know to follow some basic rules for their own safety, however I wouldn't never be violent against my own children, violence never solves anything and just leads to more violence, though you can be strict sometimes just to show your kids that they should listen to you and not try to do anything to silly.
Posted by manmad on 04-01-2018
If you control your children, yet allow them to do whatever they want at times, this is the best parenting method. You need to be hard as well as soft on children. You should never be violent towards children, however, when needed you also need to punish children.You have to give them freedom, and also make them realize their grounds.
Posted by vinaya on 04-13-2018
I talk to my kids as if they weren't kids. By that, I mean, I don't assume that they're any less intelligent or capable of understanding. I've learned not to underestimate children's potential for understanding. Too many have there been examples of lies, deceit, and "protecting kids from the truth" going wrong. We must give due credit children because they're smarter than they seem. Children see things from a pure perspective. They teach us valuable things in life as much as we do to them.
Posted by Steve5 on 04-03-2018
I remember my childhood days. My parents never treated us as kids, they treated as if we were adults. However, sometimes relatives came to our house and they used to treat us like kids. When ever they mentioned the word kid, it angered me. I did not like people calling me kid. I was kid, but I want to understand them as an individual. I am a new parent, when my baby grows up I will treat him like an individual.
Posted by vinaya on 04-13-2018
Could not take the poll. Didn't know what to vote for. I find it difficult to answer this question because most of my children are grown and on their own. Some of made good decisions and some have not made good decisions. Not sure if some of their decisions had anything to do with how they were raised or if they waited unti they left home to decide because they didn't need their parents' approval. All I can say is that I tried to be the best parent that I could be. If it was necessary for me to sacrifice something for them to have I was more than willing with no regrets. They were always my priority and any decisions made were with the welfare in mind. I probably made some parenting mistakes but I don't think any of them doubt that I love them.
Posted by foxchannel on 04-05-2018
Based on the above definitions, I can classify my style as authoritative parenting. I think this is the ideal style where the parents play a major role in molding the character of their children while allowing them to gradually take charge of their own actions and behavior. It gives the children the opportunity to express their opinion which, in turn, allows the parents to have a better insight on their children's thought processes and maturity level. It is the type of parenting that fosters leadership and confidence.
Posted by chatbox on 04-07-2018
I also think that authoritative parenting is the best parenting method because you allow controlled freedom to your child. You need to directly get involved in your child's affairs until he is too mature to understand everything. The worst parenting style is uninvolved parenting. If you do not take interest in what your kids are doing and let them have it all, you are spoiling your kids.
Posted by vinaya on 04-13-2018
I am not a parent and I don't know what are these choices but I have an answer. I don't want to be a parent who is strict or spoiling the child much. I want to balance these. Balance on being strict and spoiled. I don't want to do the thing like "You should have manners." but the parent themselves don't show that and the kids will just mind the advice and do what they are doing. I want to be a good role model to the child. If I ever did something bad I would open up to the child and make the child understand. If the child wants to have a sleepover or go on parties while I sit at home worried. I would let them be but I would also explain my side. I want to be more open and honest to the child like treating it my friend and my everything. And I want that child would adapt being open and honest to me.
Posted by Drean2002 on 07-07-2018
I guess I am into the authoritative parenting. I can be a friend to my kids. I play with them and make them laugh but when it is time to be a parent, I show them that they need to follow. I try to keep to our agreed schedule of everything but sometimes I am lenient when it comes to extending time of play especially when I see that they work hard for the week. When I discipline them, I let them cry for a while. When everything settles, I talk to them calmly on why I need to do that.
Posted by mdayrit on 07-08-2018
I honestly don't know. I try to communicate with my kids, but there are definite consequences for bad behavior. Part of me hates the idea of parenting styles - I think it's like trying to put people in a box that they don't necessarily fit into easily.
Posted by amelia88 on 07-22-2018
I have to admit that I am the authoritative parent- traditional style. I am the one who set rules and make sure that they are adhered to. Although I am a self confessed disciplinarian, I make sure that my son understand that I do it out of love. I still let him enjoy his childhood because I want to allow him to grow with a happy disposition but at the same time, resilient because I will not be there for him all the time. I believe that parents need to be tough at times for their own child's good but not to compromise the bond and love within the family.
Posted by Chinet23 on 08-03-2018
I would be authoritative parents I guess.. I am more of disciplinarian but friendly to them at the same time. As parents, you need to be like friendly to them so that they would become open to you just incase of their hard time.
Posted by mark86 on 08-18-2018
It is true that we are not conformed to one parenting style. We drift from one to the other. Yet am sure there are successful and unsuccessful children in each.
Posted by stbrians on 09-10-2018
My parents are very strict with their rules. Being a child of a pastor and teacher, it is hard but as I grew older I see the reason now why they are so strict. Now, I understand that the reason why they are strict is for my own safety .
Posted by Zelmontero on 09-11-2018
I am not a parent yet. but I would make sure that I'll I ever have a child, I'd be very strict but loving. I'll make sure that my child understands why I'm strict and that every decision that I make for her or him would be out of my unconditional love.
Posted by theresajane on 11-10-2018
I'm not a parent yet but I don't think I could be a good parent because I am not very patient. I am good with my nephews and nieces because I only have to be around them for a limited time and I can muster up enough patience for that amount but for anything much more than that I think I might not do very well and will just lose my temper a lot eventually. I think more people should consider their limitations when it comes to parenting because in the end it is the child that suffers when things like this go unchecked.
Posted by Wubwub on 11-10-2018
I am no parent yet, so I'll share what my parents did for us. They trained us to be self-sufficient but at the same time pursue what we love. They allowed us to be who we want to be but guided us along the way as what they think is best towards that goal. I am who I am today because of them, and I owe them everything I have.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 11-11-2018
Parents should be strict when raising their child. Being lenient does not always work. You should spread love but at the same time tell your children what to do and what not to do. There are certain things which should be taught in the beginning and discipline is at the forefront of those things. A child should be allowed to make his/her own decisions in his career but he/she can only do so when brought up with the right discipline. I owe it to my parents for what I am today.
Posted by kaushikangara on 11-21-2018
We've had these topic recently and I was also asked the same question. I always prefer authorative over anything simply because you are able to give you children rules for their own safety and moral learnings while maintaining a mutual relationship with them. You get to discipline them in a way that they do not feel too controlled and still enjoy their freedom. I grew up having parents who want to control me and I never want my children to feel the same things.
Posted by hstinscdln on 11-22-2018
When you say authoritative does that include corporal punishment to instill fear in the minds of your children? I guess it depends on the personality of the child because good children can be taught discipline without the fear and the air of authority. A simple friendly talk will do. But for some children who are stubborn and mischievous that friendly relation will not work because they become domineering.
Posted by Corzhens on 12-12-2018
Parents that treat their kids as if their opinions don't matter and that they aren't human beings. Rather than yell. Explain. Let them attempt to understand, that's how they learn. They're tiny things you created and you have to teach them EVERYTHING. If they mess up, its because you need to tell them the right way. Show them how to be an exemplary human being and they will learn. Don't expect them to be dumb and they won't be
Posted by Caguioa747 on 12-17-2018