Poll

Who cheats more in relationship?

From what is happening in the world today and especially in relationships and even marriage, it's very obvious that infidelity and cheating has become a part and parcel of most relationships.

Now, the argument is who cheats more in relationship lately? Is it the men or the women? Maybe both of the parties are equally sharing in the cheating pattern?

Poll Options

  Men Vote
14.29% voted this
  Women Vote
7.14% voted this
  Both Vote
78.57% voted this
Total Votes: 28

Comments

Em14
Men are always the cheater in a relationship. They think it will add to their handsomeness if they have two or more women at their back. They think that they can always come back to their wives or girlfriend after cheating. Because a lot of women are soft-hearted that cheating men will deserve a second chance and forgiving.
Posted by Em14 on 12-14-2018
vinaya
You are generalizing by saying men are always the cheater in a relationship. Women are also cheater. However, the basic difference between men and women is men will never forgive a cheater woman but a woman is always willing to forgive a cheater man.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
iambeth
That seems to be what usually happens. The woman gives the man a second chance and even forgives for the second or third time. This shows how selfless and in love women can be.
Posted by iambeth on 12-14-2018
Frank
But come to think of it, why can't a man forgive a cheating woman or wife. A man doesn't mind sleeping with all shades of women and still goes back to the wife begging even for the tenth time but a woman can't do this for once and go Scot free.
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
ivandelrey
Man is USUALLY the cheater in a relationship, I barely hear stories about women cheating. It's always about a man cheating on a girl or having sex with different women while being in a relationship and they think it's normal for a guy to do that which I totally understand, that's just one of the many differences between a man and a woman. However, if you're in a relationship, y'all should stay faithful because when you're cheating... you're not hurting yourself, you're hurting someone else.
Posted by ivandelrey on 12-18-2018
Frank
Even as a man I will have to agree to this, I think men cheats more though women these days cheat alot too but we can't help but give it to men. They do more.
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
Frank
Even as a man I will have to agree to this, I think men cheats more though women these days cheat alot too but we can't help but give it to men. They do more.
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
overcast
Not true. If men cheat more why data shows women are the one who have child of another man? Paternity fraud is high in US, canada, swiss and many other countries have such data. That goes to show much world has collapsed. And things are pretty damaged in that context. I have noticed those things to be true in that context.
Posted by overcast on 12-15-2018
theresajane
I respect your opinion. You might be fed up with all of the experiences that the people around you have. But, not all men are cheaters. There may be a number of them, but you cannot generalize, same as with women who happen to cheat too.
Posted by theresajane on 12-15-2018
pencilneckgeek
Don't generalize all men. My ex-girlfriends cheated while we were in a relationship. Two of them! I think that is probably the reason why I am still single today, so that I don't have to go through with it again and avoid the drama altogether. Men and Women both have the capabilities to cheat and gender does not play a part on it. Its the type of person.
Posted by pencilneckgeek on 12-16-2018
GeorgeDr
I think it doen't really come down to man or woman (and the matter gets more complicated in queer relationships). I think it takes either a person that is pretty insecure to a point , is bored of the relationship and doesn't wan't to be the one to blow it or someone that is in a relationship but isn't really monogamous.
Posted by GeorgeDr on 12-14-2018
theresajane
You have a point. Sometimes, a partner finds something that you don't have. Thus, he/she resorts to cheating, this is not the fault of the one who lacks something. It's the fault of the one who cheated. Clearly, there is an absence of communication and understanding.
Posted by theresajane on 12-15-2018
kaushikangara
It is not a matter of gender here but the mind. Men and women both equally cheat. It is the person's mind that plays the evil role in this. You cannot blame a particular gender for this. Cheating on your partner would put serious remarks on your character and is likely to end the relationship forever.
Posted by kaushikangara on 12-14-2018
vinaya
I have to agree with your answer. men and women both are equal culprits when it comes to cheating n relationship. In my neighborhood, there area lot of men who cheated on their women and there are a lot of women who cheated on their husbands. Cheating is more related to nature and not to the gender.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
Frank
Wow, what a record people are just cheating up and down and no fear of STDs and stis. This is why people are dying so young lately. Sharing STDS everywhere and dying from some of them.
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
Frank
I always see a cheating as an individual thing, it has nothing to do with gender. Anyone can cheat irrespective of their gender. If singles can cheat which I still see it as a wrong thing to do, an individual shouldn't.
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
burgosmichael2407
Anyone has the tendency to cheat regardless of your gender, your age or your social status. For the women who have been cheated, they will say men cheat more while for the men who have been cheated, they will vote that it's the women. However, we have to understand that nobody deserves to be cheated. Nobody deserves that pain. Whatever they say, there is no valid reason for cheating. So, if you want to be in a relationship just to satisfy your own desire, then it's not love. Love is not self seeking. Never enter in a relationship without the intention of getting married.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 12-14-2018
vinaya
I think you have a point. The men who have been cheated by women will say more women are cheater and the women who have been cheated by men will say more men are cheater. Cheating is not actually restricted to gender. Interestingly, the cultural setup encourages men to cheat more because it is generally believed that men can get away even if he cheats.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
Denis_P
I originally thought that the answer was both, but before placing my vote I decided to do a bit of research.

According to a study I found, in general, men are more likely to cheat than women. In said study, 20% of men reported they’d had cheated on their spouse, while only 13% of women did. That being said, that is only the average, and the statistics seem to change with the age of the individuals. At its peak, 26% of men between the ages of 60-69 reported to have cheated. Meanwhile, only 16% of women at the same age reported to have cheated. Additionally, with women, the rate of infidelity takes a steep decline after the age of 60, dropping off at 6% at age 80+. However, the rate of infidelity remains at 24% even after the age of 80 for men.

So in general, men seem to be more likely to cheat on their partner than women.
Posted by Denis_P on 12-14-2018
vinaya
wow, that's interesting. However, we cannot totally believe in the statistics provided by this research. The results cannot reflect the behavior of men or women in general. The result is easily affected by the location of the participants. For instance, if the same research is carried in my place, the result will be different. I also believe that more men are likely to admit cheating and very few women will admit that she has cheated. However, based on the result we can at least get some reference.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
TheInsaneSakif
Both men and women can cheat in a relationship if there is a low level of trust and commitment between them. A man desires to find love and affection from women, and if he fails to get that then he may definitely cheat. The same is true for women.
Posted by TheInsaneSakif on 12-14-2018
iambeth
That is true. Trust is one that glues a couple together and if it is broken it is hard to forget. There is the possibility of forgiveness but to forget that the person you love cheated on you is more difficult.
Posted by iambeth on 12-14-2018
jpk0007
Cheating is prevalent in all kinds of relationships. People cheat their partners when they are in love, or when they are engaged or even after there marriage. I don't think there is any difference when it comes to cheating. Men and Women are equally guilty of cheating on their partners. I don't think that there is a big difference in the proportion of men and women cheating there partners.
Posted by jpk0007 on 12-14-2018
vinaya
men and women both cheat. However, in our society it appears that men cheat more. That's because a woman will rarely accept that she is cheating/has cheated because of taboo. However, men accepts that they have cheated on their partners.
Posted by vinaya on 12-14-2018
amelia88
Across people I personally know, two marriages have broken up because the woman cheated. I don’t think you can really attribute it to gender though. People cheat for all manner of reasons.
Posted by amelia88 on 12-14-2018
iambeth
I feel people tend to be swayed when there is no more nurturing in their current relationship or if there is no more love between them. Regardless of one's gender, people who are no longer happy with their partners will tend to look for someone else. I know that ending a relationship is difficult especially if you've been together with that person for years but it is better to go through a break up than to know that the person who you once loved is cheating.
Posted by iambeth on 12-14-2018
amelia88
I also think this is the case - it’s better to go through the short discomfort that a break up causes, rather to cheat and have someone confused and bringing that baggage into future relationships.
Posted by amelia88 on 12-15-2018
YoloBoy
Me I can't really say but when I see my friends in a relationship mostly it is the girl who does the cheating. Knowing that they are someone who you can't really tell at times it is easy for them to cheat and make up an excuse on why they are or why they are not cheating but yet again once you caught them in the act, they are done for.
Posted by YoloBoy on 12-14-2018
Adrian120501
Both for me. We can't say that the girls is the one that always cheats and also we can't say that the boys is the one who cheat always. No one can say until you experience that. And in a relationship that betrayal always happen if the couple doesn't have time for each other and that's where the cheating start's. I'm glad i'm single haha.
Posted by Adrian120501 on 12-14-2018
theresajane
Yes, that's right. We have make time for our partner or if not, he/she should understand why you can't at some point. But, your reason should always be valid. Cheting is never an answer to your partner's lack of time for you. You just need to have a proper communication.
Posted by theresajane on 12-14-2018
theresajane
Gender is not, definitely not, the issue here. It's the human nature if cheating. This is a never ending debate, though I have read a lot of complaints about the behavior of men on social media, you cannot deny that there are also women who cheat in their partners. Why can't they be contented with what they have?
Posted by theresajane on 12-14-2018
luv2xacosta
It depends, but mostly from what I hear men cheats more compared to women. This topic is very controversial and sure lots of here gives different opinions.
Posted by luv2xacosta on 12-15-2018
bee.rthooyah
It is much deadlier for the relationship if the woman cheats. Women cheats because they simply fall out of love with their partners and if that happens its the end of the relationship. While men cheats they don't love their partner anymore but simply because they just want to enjoy and experience new things but in the end they will still choose their partners.
Posted by bee.rthooyah on 12-15-2018
antonToledo
Who cheats more in a relationship? I think gender is not a basis for this both women and man have a tendency to cheat and there is no real data to say that one of this gender cheats more than the other. I am not sure may there is a study out there that one of this gender cheats more than the other. I am don't have any experience personally regarding this topic I have been in a relationship for 7 years and I never cheat.
Posted by antonToledo on 12-15-2018
Frank
I hate cheats especially the married couples why bring in a third party into our home to destroy it. No more regards for the sanctity of marriage. I don't think it about the gender that cheats most but how shameless some people can be
Posted by Frank on 12-15-2018
Alymae
There are really shameless people that cheat and the more shameless would be those people who enter relationships knowing that their partners are married or in a relationship. Those people are the real homewreckers and the ones with the most shameless attitude. I hate this type of people the most.
Posted by Alymae on 12-15-2018
knnon
I can't vote on this since anyone can cheat. It's not about genders at all. It's about the person's way of thinking and their feelings for the current relationship they're in. Whatever reasons they may have they know right from wrong.
Posted by knnon on 12-15-2018
overcast
In 2018, most of the cases of relationship are shown that women are the cheater. And they like men who cheat. We are not in 1997 anymore. We are 1 month short of 2019. And you can see that many women have shown interest in cheating. So it is changed world now. And women don't get punished for cheating but men get punished.
Posted by overcast on 12-15-2018
Alymae
I am sorry but I disagree with you. I believe that cheating is not because of gender. It is a problem of morality for that person. I don't see women as cheaters not because I am a woman but because cheating is a problem in a person's attitude. Also, here in my place, women that cheat are dealt harshly by the public. The woman's reputation would be damaged forever and she will carry it for the rest of her life.
Posted by Alymae on 12-15-2018
Alymae
I believe that both sides cheat because of a lot of reasons. It cannot be attributed to the gender of a person. Cheating is a problem of the personality and I believe, of morality. I've read from an article that people that remains faithful, are intelligent people.
Posted by Alymae on 12-15-2018
Caguioa747
In reality everyone cheats. The promotion that men cheat more has been going on for years and it’s so potent that society believes it’s true. But women cheat as well. See men rarely talk about being cheated on, so that makes it seem as though women don’t cheat.
Posted by Caguioa747 on 12-15-2018
amelia88
That’s true, women certainly seem to have more of that connection with friends where they openly talk about problems or issues in their life. Men don’t seem to open up in the same kind of way.
Posted by amelia88 on 12-15-2018
Osamah7
I have to go with both in order to be unbiased. This is because it depends on many factors such as age and personality. It would be unfair to pick one over the other without any further information.
Posted by Osamah7 on 12-15-2018
dimensionless
A study by the General Social Survey (I can send you the link via direct message) shows that men are indeed more likely to cheat than women. Interestingly, however, women in the 18-29 age group are slightly more likely to cheat than men in the same age group (11% for women vs 10% for men). The gender cheating gap gets bigger as people get older, eventually peaking at 24% for men above 80 and a measly 6% for women of the same age. Very interesting.
Posted by dimensionless on 12-15-2018
amelia88
Holy moly, over 80 year olds are still cheating? Good heavens! I don’t think I’d have the energy for that kind of thing at that age!!
Posted by amelia88 on 12-15-2018
mhingnhormz
Who cheats more in relationship?: For me it is equal, both men and women can do cheating the gender is not a basis to conclude who really cheat because every one can do if they want. Before I can say that most of the cheaters are men but now it aas been changed. I Know many women who cheat to their partner, At first I can't believe that it was really true until i found out the truth. It was really equal for me now.
Posted by mhingnhormz on 12-15-2018
mark86
So do I. Equal can do cheating. We are now in the modern day and what men can do women does also.
Posted by mark86 on 12-15-2018
emiaj55
Cheaters are not gender related, all genders, men and women alike, cheat if they think they have the reason and the chance to. Not everyone who gets into relationship is mature enough to be in one. Even those who would say that they didn't mean it. Sometimes it is that incident that makes them grow, but the damage is already done.
Posted by emiaj55 on 12-15-2018
vhinz
Both men and women can possibly cheat. But if the question is who cheats more, I believe in our country, men are still the dominant cheaters.
Posted by vhinz on 12-15-2018
Carrascoshiela
Both women and men cheat a lot these days. Cheating is a choice most of the time men are weak from temptations that is why they tend to cheat first. When cheating is initiated by men and women finds out its a whole new story. It is harder for women because society hasn't accepted the fact that women can do the cheating and they wont be forgiven by the society no matter how time passes. They will be judge from that mistake and society will define them according to the cheating they did, no matter how much they regretted it. Women cheat because they are looking for the affection that were not given to them and sometimes to get even. But in my point of view women regretted cheating more than men. It doesnt matter who cheated more if people respected each other more they will not end up doing it.
Posted by Carrascoshiela on 12-15-2018
NerdIndeed
I voted for both so that I won't be stoned to death by females. But kidding aside, I'm sure there's no scientific research which gender outdo the other. Everything is fair in love and war.
Posted by NerdIndeed on 12-15-2018
cmoneyspinner
Men cheat more. Our society and culture, the whole world allows men to cheat. It was acceptable for men to have a wife and a mistress. In some countries and religions, men can have more than one wife. That way it's “technically” not considered cheating. It hasn't really changed much over the years. Women cheat less because financially they have more to lose. They might also lose rights to their children also. When most women compare CHEATING versus CHILDREN? They picked the kids. The cheating is not worth it! That's the way it is.
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 12-15-2018
mark86
Both because they have the capability to cheat. I knew some women did it very well. We cant blame the cheating in men only but also in women. What men does, women do.
Posted by mark86 on 12-15-2018
Corzhens
It is a fact according to the studies of psychologists that men have the nature of cheating on their partner. But that is not applicable to all men. The basis is just statistics and we really cannot blame all men for that. I know of some women who have cheated on their lovers but I couldn’t blame them because it was their lover who cheated first. Maybe if the woman is forgiving and understanding then the man will not cheat.
Posted by Corzhens on 12-15-2018
chatbox
Both can cheat but I do believe that men are more prone to cheat in their relationships. Women tend to have a harder time than men to get into relationships with no emotions involved. Also, it takes longer for most women to get sexually excited. Many men think that there's essentially nothing wrong with cheating once in a while as they can easily walk away from a one-night stand. Women are somehow restrained by both physical and societal considerations. Women can get pregnant with one mistake and carry the consequence throughout life. Women also tend to be more family-oriented and may stay in the relationship even when the odds are against it.
Posted by chatbox on 12-15-2018
Klint
Both men and women have the tendency to cheat in a relationship. It's not a matter of gender, it's a matter of loyalty. If either of the man or woman has shit for loyalty, their relationship is bound to end sooner rather than later.
Posted by Klint on 12-16-2018
burgosmichael2407
I agree with you Klint. That was my reason last time around. both men and women have that tendency of cheating their partners. Though there are some people who have been in a relationship for several times, we cannot judge them. They are the only one who knows their reason. Everyone deserves to be happy. I think seriously including God in your relationship and putting Him as the center of your relationship will make your bond stronger than before.
Posted by burgosmichael2407 on 12-16-2018
davedaot
Actually both, depends on the type of person you're dating, for me it's just luck, because these people come to your life randomly without us knowing their background and if we already found their background then we don't care because we love them so much so it really depends if you're lucky enough to have a partner that's faithful and does loves you unconditionally no matter what.
Posted by davedaot on 12-16-2018
pencilneckgeek
Yes, I agree with you. It depends on the type of person you are with and luck definitely plays a part on finding a faithful partner. What is important though is to remember that though cheating is bad and causes emotional distress, it does not necessarily mean that the person who is cheating is a bad person. They made a bad decision but if they just do it again and again then it is already chronic and there is something wrong with them psychologically.
Posted by pencilneckgeek on 12-17-2018
NikSuks
I think that both men and women cheat a lot. I do not why people do that. I mean, if someone is not satisfied with their partners, they should tell them straightforward what do they think is wrong in their relationship. If partners get bored of each other, it is fine to break up. Better to break up than to cheat on someone. But both women and men seem not to have courage to break up with their partners so they choose to cheat when they are not satisfied by their relationship.
Posted by NikSuks on 12-18-2018
Yumyan
It is not whether they are men or women or other that they cheat. But it is about the individual themselves and their intentions. I have had my fair share of listening to cheating stories from parents, siblings, friends and whatnot. This experience somewhat made me avoid love in such a way. Honestly, there are various reasons why a person cheats; found someone better? lack of love from present lover? Unintentionally? Boredom? Freedom? ... You see, there is no gender in that. It is all up to the individual to respect the relationship that they have. It's always a choice and that choice will, of course, have grave consequences. I know that.
Posted by Yumyan on 12-18-2018