Most people don't know a difference between who and whom and only use 'who' or even use them interchangeably.

Many point out that the who/whom grammar rule should be abandoned completely because it's a complicated subject for new language learners and people can still understand what you're saying even if you use 'who' instead of 'whom'.

  • English is easier and simpler if you don't need to use 'whom'.
  • It is less important which you use in informal spoken language than in informal written language.
  • In modern colloquial English, 'who' is always okay to use.
  • It just complifies the language, while people still can make out what you mean if you don't use 'whom' at all.
  • A very big portion of people don't know when to use which word.

  • It is still grammatically wrong if you use 'who' when you should use 'whom' instead.




As most people speaking English should know, English grammar and usage are dictated by the "educated" population speaking English at this point in time. That being said the word whom is falling out of favor with this generation and will probably soon because obsolete since it's not often used. I myself use the world who and seldom use the word whom unless I'm trying to be an asshole or facetious.
Posted by AlexHarris on 08-23-2017


Because it is easy to use. Below average in english grammar can use this word. Whom only pertains to ownership while who can also use in different purpose of sentence
Posted by Anonymous on 10-26-2017


I prefer using 'who'. Whom feels a bit old to me, and I rarely ever use it come to think of it.
Posted by sspi on 09-26-2017

Who is easier

I actually know the difference between "who" and "whom" because I have studied the English language and we have gone over these misuses and issues several times. However, I still just use "who" on the internet - I only use "whom" if I'm asked to or if I'm trying to appear smarter, haha.

I think that it's just far easier and you can use it without really giving it any thoughts. It doesn't bother or annoy me when people use who.

Posted by Mehano on 08-23-2017

WHOM is for Typos

English is my native tongue. But I confess that the WHO versus WHOM has always been a problem for me. However, I learned something accidentally when I Googled a popular search term. I made a typo and put “Dr. WHOM” in the search box. The search engine was baffled. Had no clue what I was searching for. Couldn't even provide me with “guessed at” search results. I was looking for “Dr. WHO”.
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 10-20-2017

Using who

I must admit that I am making this mistake sometimes, using who is much easier for me. English grammar is very difficult to understand and learn but with a bit of ambition, evrything can be done!
Posted by wallet on 08-23-2017

I don't know the rules so...

Since I don't know the rule on how to use who or whom I'll say "better stay with who" It's informal, easy and I don't have to bother in learning a new and boring grammatical rule... Also I wouldn't want to try to sound to refined and end up messing it up and saying it wrong.
Posted by Pink_Turtle on 08-23-2017

If you wanna sound a certain way.

Knowing the difference between the two is not something essential, but it's good to know it. It's not really necessary for people to use whom, just so sound a bit more articulate or classy and there isn't really that much need for it. On the other hand it is good to know how to use whom properly, because you can definitely sound a bit more professional in the right community.
Posted by manmad on 08-27-2017


Technically,Who seems to be easier to use and also modern,Using Whom sounds old and belongs to English of the old times.
Posted by yemzy on 09-03-2017


Easier to use especially for casual conversation. You can never go wrong in choosing this word because of familiarity.
Posted by Vastor122 on 08-25-2017

Who is simple to use.

Who is just a simple word and for casual english conversation you don't really need to use whom instead of who.Also whom is more confusing that who. I think that if you live in any english native country you should use whom but if not then who is the way to go.
Posted by AlexJPro on 08-24-2017

Using Who saves me lots of stress.

The Who vs The Whom challenge is one that has been there for decades now. In as much as native English speaking countries do not experience most of the difficulty other countries that use English as their official language with local languages used mainly in unofficial communications, I think the major problem is the difference in spoken and written English.

There are words that make more sense when written than spoken, but I care more about passing the right message when I speak or write and to avoid making big mistakes, I use 'Who' to avoid such mistakes. Although I understand that using the correct one at the right point in time is fine, I prefer the 'Who' to avoid the stress of checking where whom should be used rather.

Posted by Barida on 08-23-2017

English is not my Native Language

I was born and raised in a country where English is not our native language. Just look at my posts and you will see some grammar lapses ha ha ha! Needless to say, I find it easier to use Who instead. I'm not trying to become a grammar Nazi here so I think using Who is just fine. It would not make me a lesser person if I misuse Who and Whom. For me it's not about being able to use a certain language perfectly, what matters most is the ability to convey the message by expressing my thoughts and purpose in the most comfortable and natural way I know.
Posted by MushyPhilip1822 on 08-27-2017


I think it is easier to use who because we all know we use it in sentences. I learned English and I have never had problems when it came to "who".

Personally, I can't confuse who with whom because I can tell if a sentence makes sense or not.

Posted by mildredtabitha on 12-01-2017


Easier and no need to explain for it is the simplest form of it.
Posted by MomoStarr16 on 07-02-2018

I feel like it's used more

Who vs whom is an interesting debate, but I do think in speech these days, who is used a lot more. Despite whom often being the correct term, I feel like it sounds outdated and too formal - and honestly I don't know when is the right time to use it, even though I'm a native English speaker.
Posted by amelia88 on 10-29-2018

Why do you want to complicate matters?

Who did that? Who is this? Who are you? Its that simple. I mean we do not have to struggle with such simple terms.
Posted by Martin on 08-06-2018

easier to use

I prefer to use who since it is common and easier to use. I often use this compared to whom. Honestly, the usage of is confusing for me. I may understand if it is being used in a sentence but I won't be able to include this in a sentence.
Posted by superlicca on 09-21-2018


Who is a question a person should ask if he is asking or pertaining to a person. While whom is usually a possesive noun that should be used when asking the ownership of a certain thing. I prefer who because it is commonly used when asking about a person but it still depends on the sentence.
Posted by ajahcuizon on 10-08-2018

Who uses Whom in real life?

I've never used whom to converse with other people. It just sounds weird. The only place I used it though is on essays and articles. It begs me to ask the question. Who uses Whom in real life???
Posted by rlpzbeermoney on 09-27-2018


Whom are you looking for? In question form 'who' sounds more grammatically correct than Who. Am getting confused too. Tell me which is which?
Posted by stbrians on 08-19-2018


Why make your life complicated when you can make it easy? I prefer using WHO than WHOM because it is easy to use. You can avoid wrong grammars in your written or spoken english. Also, communication's main goal is to understand and to be understood. Always aim to be understood. Use simpler English words to achieve that.
Posted by anchoreztin on 09-18-2018


I choose who rather than whom. Its shorter by a single letter m. We often use this word. I also learned a title of a song who am I? Who is a question that can be answered by a person.
Posted by jeffreyjose48 on 09-14-2018

Yes vote for who but not too much problem with who

I agree that who is more used today by all and whom really does feel a little bit old. But I still use both words. Who much more than Whom.

Actually my first language is not English . Sometimes I find whom to be more suitable to be used in some sentences, especially when I translate the sentence in my own language. But nowadays we rarely see the word Whom used by anyone. I guess it was used more prominently in the past but nowadays it has almost lost its relevance.

Posted by jpk0007 on 10-10-2018


Though it is important to know the difference and the proper use of 'whom' and 'who', I'll still go with "WHO" for it is used widely and easily. Who is used almost everyday, while "WHOM" is used occasionally. I personally think that the word can be substituted in different ways, so it's fine if you don't want to use it.
Posted by theresajane on 10-09-2018


I normally use who in forming questions. I also use whom in sentences for example to whom it may belong. I am more comfortable using who than whom and it is generally accepted.
Posted by thejoyrevolution on 10-21-2018

More commonly used

It is now more widely used than whom as for my observation. Even I use who more frequently than whom. I rarely use whom and I just use it in asking ownership of something. Other than than, I use who almost everytime and had not any problems using it.
Posted by hstinscdln on 11-07-2018


I choose who than whom. It is shorter than whom. It is more commonly used word than whom.
Posted by menchuuy58 on 11-08-2018


Using "who" is ideal for me especially in a casual conversation. Using "whom" sounds too formal in my opinion.
Posted by knnon on 11-27-2018


Whom will most likely fall out of usage soon, so it's okay if you you use who, it's not a difference that would make you look ignorant either way. Whom is more of a literature vocabulary, don't think it's often used outside writing.
Posted by dullian on 12-17-2018

When to use 'whom' is considered to be quite a confusing grammar rule to learn. An easy to way to learn is to take it this way - 'who' and 'whom' are grammatically the same as 'he' and 'him' (easy and colorful resource to learn the difference:

But is learning when to use 'whom' even worth the time?

  • It will make you look professional if the correct word is used in written language.
  • The rule isn't actually very hard and can be learned in about 10 minutes.
  • It is grammatically correct.

  • Hard to learn.
  • People can still understand what you're trying to say if you don't use this word at all.



It's not that hard

In my opinion, it's not that hard to learn, and we shouldn't ditch it all just because it might be a bit confusing to some. You can learn to use the right word in less than a minute, actually.

If you are not sure which word to use, just answer your own question with the word 'he' or 'him'. If you answer with 'he', the word is 'who'. If you answer with 'him', the word is 'whom'.

EXAMPLES: "WHO/WHOM did that?" - "HE did that". He = "Who did that?"

"WHO/WHOM did you give the present?" - "I gave the present to him". Him = "Whom did you give the present?"

So really, it's not that hard. So you should just learn the difference, and while you're at it, learn to use your/you're.

Posted by TooDarkHere on 08-23-2017
I agree with you. Just learn it properly and you'll be able to recognize their differences and how the meaning different when you use them properly in conversations.


At this point in time, we evolve. The generation evolves, most of the new generation thinks language is not important anymore as long as you understand each other, but no. It does not go that way. You should be able to understand each other using the right grammar. To make it simple, here is an example. "who" and "whose", would you use "who" this way: "Who shoes is this?" No right? but instead, "Whose pair of shoes is this?" The first sentence needs to be rephrased as it is grammatically wrong and should go like this "Who owns this shoes?" Although it is quite complicated for others to learn the difference between this two, everyone, I think is obliged to learn it. Not because I say so, but to avoid the language barrier. Some things may be understood with the tiniest errors.
Posted by Anonymous on 11-01-2017

Just learn how to use it

I don't understand why people find this word hard to use or understand. It's not that hard actually and it's explained pretty simply right above me! English is not that hard if you just follow the rules!
Posted by BigDreamer on 08-23-2017

The proper way

As I am not native English speaker, we have to learn the grammar when we were in school, hence we were taught the difference between using WHO and WHOM. I don't know some people actually just use 'WHO' unless those who really didn't know the difference. I think if we know the proper or correct way, we should just go for it. It's the beauty of the language, and it makes others easier to understand us as well.
Posted by kaka135 on 12-11-2018

There Is Always Room For Improvement.

The English language is not difficult really. It flows and if it is your mother tongue then it should flow naturally. If mistakes are made it is forgivable but I think that we should at least make an effort to speak and write a language properly.

I don't see the reason to change a language just because some people can't speak it properly. That allows for laziness and we may as well go back to speaking 'UG UG.'

Posted by JMS on 01-29-2018
I agree with you. We are all not perfect, so mistakes happen everytime. But, isn't it good if we take up a notch in learning the words of English and use them properly in sentences?

Only when I became an English teacher

All my life, I was used to saying WHO but when I started teaching English, I had to train myself to say WHOM each and every place it's needed, like in the form of an object. It wasn't easy at first but I guess I am already used to it
Posted by toshina on 04-30-2018
I agree with you. Teachers are the number one role models of students. I also observe that whatever you say or do, the students will slowly adapt to it and they will be familiar with it.

The correct way

Whom is the grammatically correct word. It should be used in certain circumstances so I don't see why we should make a mistake and say "who" instead. So what it's a little bit difficult? If you learn English the right way you should know how to use "whom".
Posted by felabruno on 08-23-2017

Grammatically correct

We have to learn how to write well no matter what. Also, It's not difficult to understand.
Posted by cubo on 08-23-2017

It's not hard

In the end it's not hard, I'm a non native speaker and this is a rule which I don't even have to think about, it just comes natural. It is so easy to learn so I don't really understand why should you write grammatically incorrect sentences because of a simple rule.
Posted by Tania997 on 08-23-2017

It's there for a reason

I think can sympathize with the idea that as long as the message is conveyed then the syntax should not matter as much, but I think there is also value in learning the proper way of saying things. There are situations when I think these two could be interchangeable and won't make that much difference, but there are probably also some specific situations where using 'who' wouldn't sound right, and this is why I believe 'whom' should continue to exist and be used.
Posted by Wubwub on 09-18-2017

It's as easy as who's falling off the log

Let's face it. English is a living language. That means it changes over time, depending on the current usage. English, as used by, say, Shakespeare, is very different from English as we use it today.

Nevertheless, since "whom" is still in use, we shall learn to use it correctly.


Well, that has been answered by so many commentators before me. What I want to add is that, since we are using English, let's use it properly, as it is used now. Perhaps, someday in the future, "whom" may become an archaic expression. When that time comes, we will forget about learning how to use it. In the meantime, let's learn when and to whom we should use this term.

Posted by Aree on 12-02-2017

Whom is different from Who

We can use both, but in Formal Correspondence, Business letters, articles, school reports and government/court documents the word "whom" is still being used because it's grammatically correct.

What's the difference? Well "Whom" is an Objective Pronoun meaning its like "Him", "Her", "Them" , here's an example "Whom did you see?" Where "Whom" is not doing the seeing. While "Who" is a Subjective Pronoun like "He", "She", "They" a good example is "Who rescued the cat?" Well "Who" was the one who rescued the cat. I think that clears up everything.

Posted by Kakashi2020 on 02-01-2018

Yes, sometimes it is hard for me to use it.

I voted whom because I agree that it may look you professional as it is grammatically correct and if you are a writer then using whom is really required rather than choosing 'who' but it may also depends how important what you are about to publish. But for me, I'd prefer to use whom though sometimes I'm struggling to use it.
Posted by mitan143 on 04-08-2018

What's wrong is wrong. No excuses.

Learning the difference between 'who' and 'whom' shouldn't be ignored and ditched just because it's not easy or should I say 'fast' for everyone. As an individual, we must be patient when it comes to learning things because it will make us more knowledgeable instead of being 'mediocre' and 'stupid (sorry for the word)' to the eyes of other people. Learning the difference is actually not because you'll look professional, it should be part of our development as adults, to change the way we perceive things. Instead of letting the 'wrong' idea be accepted, why not make ourselves change the 'wrong' in to right. After all, no one can benefit on it but ourselves and hopefully the people around us as well for we can also share what we know to them.
Posted by jaybee19 on 05-18-2018

Oh, Come On

It is always better, and smarter, to give yourself options. If you know how to use the word "whom" correctly--which as others have mentioned is not hard--then you get to decide whether to do so or not. This allows you to decide how you want to present yourself to any given audience.
Posted by Russ on 06-27-2018

Grammatically Correct

A lot of our culture passed on to the next generation short-handed. It is the reasoning of "It is just a small matter" and it won' have much difference, that makes the transfer of culture and knowledge to the future less and less accurate. If this continues, it would not surprise me if our language would be like hieroglyphics.
Posted by emiaj55 on 10-29-2018


Millennials nowadays who posts in social media misuse the words "your and you're". This is a sign that through time people have forgotten literature and we shouldn't. Study the correct way to use words to be articulate.
Posted by DISTEFANO115 on 10-30-2018

Stick to the grammatically correct form.

It's not that hard to learn, and that's not a valid excuse anyway. Learning the when to properly use who and whom in a sentence makes a world of difference compared to just blindly interchanging who and whom, because they are not supposed to be interchangable in the first place.
Posted by astraherondale on 11-04-2018

Learn it

It's not so complicated when you actually try and learn the difference. Most people just don't think it's a big deal to learn it because, as you rightly say, they pass their message across just fine without it. Of course, it's more forgivable in informal situations. What happens when you find yourself in a setting where one slip like this could cost you an entire deal? My take is, just learn the difference and use it where need be.
Posted by Franzel2oo on 12-07-2018


I guess I might be one of you. I think its easier to use. I dont really get the difference cause most of the people is also using who.
Posted by Wenkx03 on 12-03-2018


If someone knows when to use whom, that is the time to use the pronoun, then the word can be used more than who. Whom and who can also be used to ask questions. I still prefer to use whom since i know the proper time to use it correctly inorder to ask questions.
Posted by babyright on 08-23-2017
I'm the first one who responded to this thread, to whom it may concern. I wouldn't choose one word over another, they deserve the same treatment.
Posted by joey98 on 08-23-2017
I see what you did there, there once was someone who I really hated because he would always mix the words up; I mean, whom would that?!
Posted by TooDarkHere on 08-23-2017
Is "whom would that?!" correct by the way ? If i'm looking at the rules.. i'm having doubts. Someone can confirm (or not) ?
Posted by Wyvh on 08-23-2017
It's completely correct, I mean whom'st'd've would use the wrong word on purpose? PS: Yes it's wrong. If you answer the question, would you say "he would do that" or "him would do that"? If the answer is 'he', then the word is 'who'. If the answer is 'him', then the word is 'whom'. For example: "Who/whom did we fight?" - "We fought him" - him = whom
Posted by TooDarkHere on 08-23-2017
I don't ever use whom and I am an American. I find who suffices for most situations. I am not an English teacher so using who works for me. Those who are sticklers for grammar might want to use whom. I don't know. It is just one of the things that you have to decide for yourself which form of the word you want to use. I never totally understood the difference between the two honestly.
Posted by kgord on 08-23-2017
We are not English speakers and we learned the use of “whom” from the excuse letter from our parents that we submit when we are absent from school. The salutation of the letter is a standard “to whom it may concern” and the rest is history. But now I seem not to see the pronoun whom anymore and who is the most commonly used. To be honest, I don’t really know exactly the use of who and whom.
Posted by Corzhens on 10-06-2018
I believe there is no choosing between the two. Both need to be used at the appropriated circumstances. So it's not a choice really but rather a necessity. Grammar should be observed at all times and not used when we feel like it.
Posted by Marvadaum on 08-23-2017
Well it's not a versus stuff, both of the two words have their own meaning and their own functionality and in some interviews and places, misusing them can land a thumbs in spoken or written English. Because Who” and “whom” are relativizers, words that either give extra information about a noun or categorize a noun. This blog already has a few lessons on relativizers. A lot of students find it especially hard to use the relativizers “who” and “whom” correctly. Recently, one of my students asked me if I could explain “who” and “whom” some time ago. Who/whom follow somewhat different rules when they are used in statements and when they appear in questions.
Posted by Authord on 08-23-2017
I think you're better off not using 'whom' at all if you're not sure how to use it properly. Some grammar police type will surely correct you, if you use it incorrectly.

I like the word, but I often have to look up the proper use before inserting it. I'm forgetful these days. It's easier to just say 'who.'
Posted by Zyni on 08-23-2017
English isn't complicated. And those two words aren't complicated either. In fact, through pronunciation, one can figure out quite quickly where one needs to use either one of the words. E.g. She did correct her grammar. Whom/ Who did that? between using whom and who through pronunciation, it's quite easier to figure out, who sounds more fitting in the sentence. its hard for most people as the common mistake that many make is writing a sentence or question without trying to pronounce it first. Because if one did, one would recognize correct and incorrect sentences, statements and even remarks.
Posted by evash19 on 08-23-2017
It's not that difficult to understand as long as English is your first language. I understand the difference between the two because English was my first language and it's just one of those things that I have always remembered for some weird reason. But of course, if it is not your first language and you are learning the language, it can be a tiny bit difficult to understand the rule. If you just practise, eventually you will be able to grasp the idea of the rule.
Posted by kingcool52 on 08-23-2017
I always have a hard time identifying which one to use on my sentence structure. I use who a lot. But if I find that whom sounds okay, I would use it too. I have this habit of choosing the words and terms based on how awkward they sound when you read or say them. Weird right? But it seems to be working for me from time time. If I am unsure though, I would always search the Internet for a proper one. Whom and who can really be quite tricky sometimes.
Posted by galegatling on 08-23-2017
As someone using English as a second langauge also a foreign language, I cannot distinguish between who and whom. Well I know these two words signifies different thing however, using these words is really complicated. I can do simple usages, but not the complicated ones. for exampe Who are you? Whom do you want to meet?
Posted by vinaya on 08-23-2017
English is our second language here in the Philippines. Thus, starting at our primary grades it was already taught on us even until College. Because of that, I find it easy when to use who and when to use whom. :) Who do you want? To whom did you give the money? :)
Posted by SimplyD on 08-24-2017
Jonathan Solomon
For this, I don't really see the point in voting. Mainly due to the fact that I use both regularly and correctly in my online articles. As well as in conversations and dialogues. If I had to guess, I'd say I use "who" more than "whom". But there's no particular preference whatsoever.
Posted by Jonathan Solomon on 08-24-2017
Jo-Anne Saribay
The easiest way to ALWAYS arrive at the correct usage of ‘who’ and ‘whom’ is to temporarily substitute the pronouns 'he' for 'who' and 'him' for 'whom', then use the word that sounds better. If you are female, you could also substitute the pronouns ‘she’ for ‘who’ and ‘her’ for ‘whom.’

But I always use who than who. LOL!!
Posted by Jo-Anne Saribay on 08-24-2017
I agree. But in many cases you will find yourself using "who". There are rare cases where yiu can use "whom" in general conversations. Not unless you are very strict with your grammar that is.
Posted by Martin on 08-13-2018
I probably don't have any preference. I just use anyone that comes to my mind when I am speaking even though I think i used who more. Quite alright, I know the rules and when to use the both of them but I end up saying who more. But in any case, it doesn't make me grammatically right. I should pay more attention to this probably.
Posted by wiiky28 on 08-25-2017
I actually know when to use who or whom and this is something that I learnt in school. I can understand the difference between the two. However, it can be really confusing for many especially those who are non native English speakers.
Posted by Pixie on 08-26-2017
Using both words can be really confusing especially for most of us that aren't English natives. But I think it is very essential to learn when to use either of the two because if it is not proper then it isn't correct. A number of basics in the english language have become not so basic anymore.
Posted by Anonymous on 08-29-2017
This is a funny post to me because I believe 95% of my country people do know there is a difference between who and whom but they really don't care using them interchangeably. I simply don't blame since English language is not our mother tongue, we learnt it from our colonial master and there is no way we are ever going to be perfect in its usage.

To me, I read mass communication, I understand the difference between them and how to make good use of them separately; and I totally agree that using them wrongly is not good but I don't have any problem with my people using it as they please because it's not their father land language.
Posted by Heatman on 08-30-2017
I never thought that the basic and easiest way to learn about who and whom is by associating them with he and him. I never thought it was that simple. Because of my unawareness about when to use whom, I just use who all the time and I believe that this is the case too for most of us. I am thankful to have been refreshed about an important part of grammar!
Posted by giovanniiiii on 09-06-2017
It is worth learning! Never be afraid or lazy to put few extra hours in your education. That is the most important tool you have in this world. If you are poorly educated, you are easier to fool and trick. Think of it as an investment in your own self. Would you not want to invest in yourself? :))
Posted by Anonymous on 09-07-2017
I typically use 'whom' when necessary, but rarely use it in day to day conversations since, depending on wording- makes 'whom' rare anyhow.
Posted by Rhodolite on 09-08-2017
I honestly don't think I've ever used the word "whom" it seems like one of those weird grammar things that is disappearing in younger generations, for better or for worse. Personally, I think it's for the better.
Posted by anna on 09-13-2017
I can see the conundrum here, never thought of the who and whom debate as being such an issue. Now going through the who and whom refresher dialogues I find myself going back to the old drawing board as well! Seems simple enough one referring to the subject and the other the object but I suppose just like there are tongue teasers there are grammar teasers as well. I gather some practice and some acknowledgement of how who and whom is used from time to time will solve this issue. It's a wonderful opportunity to revise some grammar rules and reapply them. Most people use 'who' formerly and informally but this does not make it correct. To whom it may concern I suppose we owe it to ourselves to get it right so that we don't contradict our very our grammatical prowess.
Posted by Joteque on 09-13-2017
I am not really a English language master but. For me it depends ob the sentense or phrase that you will says sometimes we can use whom for better pronunciation and matches the other words but for me I use who normally much easier and it is almost the same thought with whom so no need to worry.
Posted by tophew on 09-17-2017
When we were absent in school, we had to bring an excuse letter written by our parents. The standard opening line of such letter is - To whom it may concern. To be honest, that is the only way I know how to use the word whom. And just to be safe when writing in the office, I just use who.
Posted by Corzhens on 09-19-2017
Who is often used than whom that is why most people only knew how to use who. I only used whom when writing to an unknown person like " To whom it may concern" or when asking the question "To whom?".
Posted by Anonymous on 09-21-2017
I think it depends a lot on the need of each person. particularly I don't see much difference in the sense of daily use (because you can make yourself understood in one way or another), but I think both options are easy to learn. Because of this, I don't see the need to vote in just one option.
Posted by wiseagent on 09-30-2017
The keywords Who and Whom are commonly used in English both when we write and speak, but a lot of people get confused about the use. The two keywords do not mean the same and must not be used for the same meaning while speaking or writing English sentences. While using the keyword Who, it can be used to ask questions such as Who is she?, Who can do this?, Who was here yesterday?, who are they?, Who came here?, and so on. The way we use the keyword Whom is quite different. These two keywords are not used in English sentences the same way. The keyword Whom is used in sentences such as To whom it belongs, To whom it may concern and so on. There is a disparity between the two keywords and that is noteworthy.
Posted by potentialwriter on 10-02-2017
In most of my readings and mundane conversation with my colleagues and family, I usually use who. This is quite confusing know because I may not literally know when to use who or whom. Most often than not, merely just by listening or reading the sentence, what is fit and more pleasing to the eyes and ears are the most appropriate word to use. I surmise that in terms of the daily usage of the word, who is really more popular to people as this was thought in a more precise way that the other. In the long run, what you are most confident to use is the most convenient of all. Nobody is perfect so let us all learn from our mistakes and be open to clarifications.
Posted by IamMaven on 10-02-2017
It's not difficult to know when "who" or "whom" should be used, but other language speaking people who are just getting to know or learning to speak English might find the grammar rule a little hard or complicated.
Posted by Rumu on 10-07-2017
I still wonder which to use, but more often when I am writing because 'who' is used in conversations and 'whom' in writing more. Therefore, if you use 'whom' in everyday conversation people will either think you are egotistic or that you are being too formal. It makes sense to know how to use both, but a sentence can be rewritten to use 'who' instead of 'whom' and I think there are more important things in this world to spend time on that to figure out which one to use.
Posted by Alexa on 10-22-2017
Back in the days, I always get confused about this words because both are the same. It just that there's a letter m in the word Whom. We can both say as to who and as to whom, so which is which? English is my second language, however, I never get better of it. I commit a lot of grammatical mistake and confused words.
Posted by DanoCath on 10-30-2017
English Language learning is part of our lives. Well, here in the Philippines. Those comparison has been dealt with during my first few years in elementary school. 'Who' simply pertains to a person while 'Whom' is used to possess something. So it's not hard at all to identify the difference,
Posted by tiffiecute on 11-30-2017
I think that most people know the difference because they are taught it in school at a very young age. However I think that most people choose bot to use whom. They use who all of the time. I very rarely see or hear anybody say or write whom. It comes down to their personal preference and not the use of proper grammar.
Posted by Sue on 12-04-2017
who and whom are two different word, different meaning. However we do use who frequently than whom in spoken language. Who refers to a person while whom refer to a person's belonging or a 3 rd person
Posted by peachpurple on 12-11-2017
Exactly. It is mostly based on the factor of which one serves the meaning perfectly. I also doubt that we find ourselves in scdnarios that we have to use whom. Unless of course its on occupational basis.
Posted by Martin on 08-28-2018
English is not my first language, and when we learned English in school, we have to go through the grammar lessons and they seem to be very important to us. Hence, I have been brought up to differentiate WHO and WHOM, and never thought they can be used interchangeably. I agree that in spoken language, it might still be okay as long as the other party understands, but in written text, I think the proper word should be used.
Posted by kaka135 on 01-03-2018
I agree with you. There are a lot of people who mistakenly use who for whom and fortunately, people still understand it. Well, it should really be corrected because a person might get used to it and might choose the wrong word in writing.
Posted by theresajane on 11-29-2018
Who hasn't been confused in using those two words at some point? I know I have. And a lot at that.

But we do have to learn their proper use at some point as well. While some people are frustrated by the idea of having to learn and apply its correct use, it shouldn't be a reason to quit so early. It takes less than 5 mins. to actually understand the use of "whom" than to state all the reasons why you hate using it. Sometimes it's better to learn something and get frustrated later. Because if you put frustration first all the time, then you may not learn something as simple as correct grammar.
Posted by Steve5 on 01-24-2018
The both of them different when you used in some sentences, it's not like they are the same thing anyhow it be both of them are needed .
Posted by Adesuwa08 on 02-02-2018
The both of them different when you used in some sentences, it's not like they are the same thing anyhow it be both of them are needed .
Posted by Adesuwa08 on 02-02-2018
Who and whom is one of the easily confused subject by native and non-native English speakers alike, and while their misuse is not the end of the world, it is still better to know the proper way of using these two so that you can express yourself better when talking to someone or when asking questions to other people. It's not that hard honestly, and could save you a lot of weird judging looks from those who know the difference.
Posted by treecko142 on 02-08-2018
I don't really see the point of voting for either who or whom. We need to learn the usage of both words if we want to express ourselves properly in English. Who is a subjective pronoun while whom is an objective pronoun so it's no different from learning how to use he and him. I know that not a few are confused with 'who' and 'whom'. I like Grammarly's simple trick to distinguish when to use these pronouns. The pronoun 'who' is used if you can replace the word with either 'he' or 'she' and 'whom' is used if you can replace the word with either 'him' or 'her'. Easy, isn't it?
Posted by chatbox on 03-02-2018
I'm not always using the whom, and now I got confuse about this. English is not my primary language and I think they are the same. but now, I think much proper to use the word whom. I really need to learn and study more about this English words or grammar, I think I mistakenly use a lot of English words.
Posted by ion on 03-05-2018
English is a tricky and complicated language. The who and the whom remind me of the there and they. English has strict rules so long as you follow them you should be fine. I like to read and read alot. I've never really seen whom used very regularly. Who is the most regularly used. I think whom as an old English word that has no place in modern English written or spoken speech. I would be interested to see whom used.
Posted by jaymish on 03-07-2018
i believe we should learn them to know when we should really use them and in their right places because the English language just like mathematics has it set rules which we. need to follow like Concord or else we get it wrong but I believe we should learn about who more since it mostly used than whom.
Posted by lovely on 03-08-2018
I really think that people should learn when to use Who and Whom because it's very simple if you would just spend 15 minutes in learning it. Nowadays the word "Whom" is seldomly used, and I really think that it's only used now in formal or business letters. I've also noticed that lawmakers and lawyers are still using it, but in normal day to day English people tend to use "Who" always. Both words have their uses as discussed in this thread and it's wise to study it.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 03-26-2018
I'm a stickler for correct usage of proper grammar. I'm not proud of it, but I feel more secure when I convey my message in simple, accurate, concise Eglish language that I can be understood in converations. Without having the trouble of being asked again about what I mean. Being a teacher, I guess I put the standard upon me and my students to use our gift of language to communicate well. We can't afford to be lazy and get away with it.

Who, 'experts' say in standard English, is used as a subject or a predicate nominative. Whom is used as an object (direct, indirect, object of preposition, etc.). Compounds, such as "whoever" and "whomever" follow the same rule.

"A legal citizen who has enrolled in the election commission may vote." This example may seem easy. But what about this: "Who/Whom did you elect in your district?" Whom is correct because "You" is the subject of the verb "did elect". "Whom" is the direct object of the verb.

Still confusing sometimes.
Posted by ZevJabo on 04-03-2018
In my understanding, they have different meaning and uses. Many people confuse these two words and are using them interchangeably. I feel like it is not proper to use whom in most cases. It feels like a traditional or old English if you use it nowadays. But there are cases that you have to use whom instead of who.
Posted by EfficientNinja on 04-24-2018
Honestly, eliminating any of those will show how lazy people are for grammar, and that won't solve the issue. The problem these days is that people don't read, they don't practice good grammar, and they just speak to be understood even if it's not proper. That will pass through generations, and the only way to avoid it, is to make sure we read what's the difference between them, and how's the proper way to use them. Then we will use them in our daily talk, and kids will automatically use them too.
Posted by ballyhara on 05-17-2018
In my perspective, learning the difference between who and whom are worth learning. As someone who frequesntly used English language in academic and professional purposes, it is very important to know the rules of English grammar. No rule shall be left behind. It may seem as a small issue for others, but every rule in English grammar must be take into cobsideration whenever you are using the English language.
Posted by RhealaineS on 07-06-2018
In my opinion "Who" and "Whom" has their correct uses and realistically noone's really using "Whom" nowadays. It maybe because it sounds old fashioned and that's why people are not using it. While "Who" is an important word being used by a lot of people presently.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 08-29-2018
I usually use "Who" since it is easier and more common to use. Although I know the difference between who and whom. I find it hard to use Whom in a sentence. I understand if this word is being used in a sentence but I cannot make sentences using Whom.
Posted by superlicca on 09-17-2018
Whom is being used to refer to the object of a verb or preposition. Example: I do not know with whom I will go to the prom.

Who is to refer to the subject of a sentence. example: Who is your crush?
Posted by superlicca on 09-19-2018
Back in the days I generally get befuddled about this words in light of the fact that both are the equivalent. It only that there's a letter m in the word Whom. We can both say regarding who and with respect to whom, English is my second dialect, nonetheless, I never show signs of improvement of it. I submit a considerable measure of linguistic misstep and befuddled words.
Posted by jetselle on 10-08-2018
I'm guilty on this before even when I'm on my college days already. Who and whom confuses me. Don't know what is appropriate to use.
Posted by vhinz on 10-18-2018
Honestly I always gets confused with whom and who, and I am ashamed of myself because of that. So for me, it is really important tk learn gramnar correctly because it has a lot of use not just in writing for school, but also in understanding a lot of things.
Posted by nrnlss on 10-19-2018
Whom and Who should be of importance equally. They serve different purposes when you converse in English. Though many would prefer "who", which I must say, as the easiest one, we must not forget how important "whom" is because the moment you use them differently, that's where miscommunication starts.
Posted by theresajane on 11-08-2018
I prefer to use who than whom. Who can used in asking questions. It is commonly answered by the persons name. It is more widely used word.
Posted by menchuuy58 on 11-08-2018
I think it's useful to learn the correct usage. It's usefullness, though, primarily depends on who you audience is. Most people won't care in day to day conversations. It will be important in professional and academics writing, and it never hurts to know proper English grammar.
Posted by slugsinthai on 11-09-2018
It is worth learning for especially for us who lives in the Philippines where people very judgemental that you have to be perfect to avoid being criticized. Me, myself still struggles when it comes to speaking and writing in English but I still try and do my best to learn because I will be able to use this my future job.
Posted by agbuyarashel on 11-18-2018
This is more of a debate than choosing a side. Both of these words can be used according to the situation. Whom do you want to meet? is perfectly fine? Who are you looking for? is also correct. It all depends on the situation and the tense you are choosing. Both these words are correct and there is no problem in choosing either one. You need to make sure you use the correct tense when formulating the statement.
Posted by kaushikangara on 11-21-2018
I'm kind of confuse though when I read "Pros: The rule isn't actually very hard and can be learned in about 10 minutes" then "Cons: Hard to learn. Anyway, it is easy to remember and get used to it especially when we are writing since we have time to edit if we notice that there is something wrong with our grammar. When you are speaking though, these things are almost unnoticeable or being ignore to retain the fluency of the conversation.
Posted by gutzman on 11-30-2018
Wouldn’t it depend on the context. Yes, “whom” is slightly more unusual and perhaps a bit old fashioned, but there is a time and a place for it.

Language is organic anyway. Words rise and fall.
Posted by on 12-14-2018
I admit also that I use who all the time. I remember there was this one time I was doing homework with my kids about who and whom. I have to go through her notes to better understand the difference. Who is for a subject, if you are going to use "he or she", whom is for indirect object you will use it when yiu are going to use "him or her".
Posted by Carrascoshiela on 12-17-2018
In the native English-speaking world, your use of "who" vs "whom" tells your listener what of English you grew up speaking at home. While there are many people who never use the word "whom", there is also a wide band of people who use it in the preposition case only. Since that covers most proper cases where you would use "whom" instead of "who", you could say that these people sound educated most of the time. In order to not sound dumb, many people choose to never speak in the preposition form at all.
Posted by Caguioa747 on 12-18-2018