Working 2 or more jobs ; Does it affect your family life?

Working 2 or more jobs ; Does it affect your family life?
Due to the demanding nature of how life and living is today together with the countless responsibilities facing everyone today, working two or more jobs tend to be a common trend nowadays in order to make both ends meet. ? Now, this commitment to several jobs has the tendency of taking almost the 24 hours in a day and before you know it, it's the next day already, meaning that you still have to go out and do your job. This tend to have its negative effects on one's family as the family members would feel neglected or being ignored because much of your attention is directed to work leaving less or no time for family bonding. ? Sometimes, if care is not taken the aggrieved family member probably the wife might sue for divorce because she is no longer enjoying the family anymore but the man can't really be blamed as he is just trying to provide for the family and make them comfortable. And so comes my question, the effects of working 2 or more jobs in one's family?

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overcast
I think it does affect my life. And it does add a lot of things to the life routines. And on that basis, you can see that it'd be interesting to see how that works out. I think people have to understand that some things do affect our life in many ways. You can see that one has to consider how that is going to be there in many ways. You can see that if you are thinking about adding more money in your wallet hard work and multiple jobs is necessary for sure.
Posted by overcast on 09-22-2017
Heatman
It's never easy to serve two or more masters at the same time, if you try it out, there is every tendency that it's going to take a huge toll on you. You are definitely going to be stressed out for sure, with no much time to share with your family and bond with them. Working more than one is truly a very difficult task.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
lovely
I don't think it affecting my family because i work from home though I spend hours in my room trying to get my work done and would not be with them those hours but I do create time at least 2-3 hours daily to be with them .

I help in their homework,I prepare dinner,stuck them into bed and share one or two bedtime stories.So yes it doesn't affect my family.
Posted by lovely on 09-22-2017
Heatman
I definitely think that it's probably the nature of your job that allows you the opportunity to work more than one job and still have enough time to spend with your family and bond well. Personally, I'm finding it very difficult to adapt and the truth of the matter is that I need both things in my life, the jobs and the my family's love. This has really gotten me in a serious bind.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
Corzhens
I guess your family life is still affected even if you work from home. I have friends who are full time freelancers and they complain that sometimes they couldn’t attend to the house chores because of their online work especially when there is a deadline to catch. However, I believe that if you have the skills of time management then you can probably divide your time conveniently for work and family.
Posted by Corzhens on 09-17-2018
Denis_P
I don't work as much as I used to anymore, but there was a time where I was actually juggling three jobs at once. Needless to say, it was an absolute nightmare. Between having to do my regular work and staying late fairly often, I didn't even have time for myself let alone my family. I would come home from work, greet everyone, have dinner and wash up, then go to bed. Rinse and repeat the next day. Sometimes I didn't even have weekends to spend time with my family. The whole "live to work" philosophy that is occupying the world these days is absolutely ridiculous and inhumane.
Posted by Denis_P on 09-22-2017
Heatman
I absolutely understand what you passed through, as it's practically what is going on with me now. The issue is that I need the funds from working all these jobs and I need my family as well well. But the job is actually consuming 80% of my time.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
wallet
I have tried last year to have two jobs because we had a difficulty in our financial part of life. And ..yes this affected our family life because my family could not see me anymore, I could not spend time with my family at all, because on the day shift I had a job and on the night shift another job, when I was reaching at home all I was doing was to make a bath, eat and sleep. I gave up to the night job and now we have time to spend with the family too!
Posted by wallet on 09-22-2017
Heatman
It's not really a nice feeling when you are trying to do something good that would benefit you and your family, but you ended up being a source of scorn to your family. I really get what happened to you, I'm in the same spot now, which is why this thread was created.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
Marvadaum
I think that anything that takes you away from your family does affect your family life so yes working too much can definitely do it. The problem is that some people don't really have a choice. Still, it's important to make time for your family whenever possible
Posted by Marvadaum on 09-22-2017
Heatman
You are absolutely right, anything that takes one away from family is definitely not good for such individual, only that situation of things most times like you said normally makes it difficult for someone to work and be get the best relationship with his family.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
tophew
Yes this can really affect you family having many jobs because your bonding time for your family will be lessen and it can lead to arguments in the family member no time for kids and for me that is not good. so i much prefer a full time job with fix salary so that when you go home you still have time to bond with your family love once.
Posted by tophew on 09-22-2017
Heatman
Exactly, the bonding of the family is drastically affected by working two or more jobs, because the person in question wouldn't have enough time to even complete his works and not to talk more of spending good quality time with his or her family. Some family get broken up because of this if care is not taken.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
JoeMilford
Of course this affects EVERYTHING in your life! The stress level alone from this type of work can harm your health, relationships, psychology, and emotional state. Even if you make the time for people you love after finishing your two jobs, do you have the energy and stamina to be fully present with friends and family once you have been pretty much worked to death? I know from experience about this, unfortunately, and I know of one relationship of mine that fell apart years ago because I was such a workaholic; unfortunately, it was financially necessary, but it was still a heartbreak.
Posted by JoeMilford on 09-22-2017
Heatman
The stress involved in working several jobs is so much that if such individual is not physically fit enough, he would break down with sickness. This has actually happened to me a while back, my body system was never used to the amount of stress and work load I pushed on it. It took me a while before I was able to regain myself and health again.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
sspi
I think that it does affect your life. Even having one job takes up a considerable amount of your day, not to mention the stress and pressure which tends to come with you at home after. It is important to know how to balance work and family life because you cannot undermine your relatives, especially young kids, by devoting too much time to work.
Posted by sspi on 09-22-2017
Heatman
I have come to realize that to survive in this life and world is not an easy task, and to work and keep everything in balance is merely a wishful thinking as it's never going to be possible to carry out.

Added work stress takes huge negative effects on one's family, I'm a living witness to this. The only way that one could help in controlling such is by being self employed.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
Rhodolite
Most definitely it does. Which is why I'm not going to have a family. Relationships take time to nurture and work out and so does parenting. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Parents working multiple jobs to support their children often neglect their own child's upbringing, leading to them to not only misbehave but also be ill prepared for the future. I came from a single parent household where my mother worked nearly 24/7 to support two kids so I know personally how messed up it can get. I had to learn everything on my own because I never had an adult show me how. Even to this day I have issues with a lot of topics because I was never taught by my parents about much of anything. Everything I learned had to be through tutorials online or through books in order to catch up or even be remotely normal in society.
Posted by Rhodolite on 09-22-2017
Heatman
Let me hear you correctly, did you say that you aren't going to have a family? Before you answer that, let me ask you another question. Are you a family to anyone? Or did you just fell out of the sky?

Well all that I can say to you is that planning makes everything a little bit better. It's not really a must that one would have to work two or three jobs or even work at all. You can start up your own personal business and have your time at your disposal to use as you please.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
Joteque
Well sacrifices have to be made one way or the other and since the main purpose of working two or more jobs is to ensure that the family enjoys a higher standard of living then the effects cannot be all negative. As a result if the benefits come trickling in after the job initiations like for example, the wife gets a lovely gift more often or gets to dine out at a fancy restaurant more often or enjoys more vacation or just has more spending money to shop and buy clothing. The compromise of having multiple jobs should manifest itself in more benefits irrespective of the fact that at times there will be less time to sit and eat at the family table. It's not like the family member just fell into a black hole and they went MIA without any sign of progress or indication of a modus being instilled. Once everyone understands exactly what the purpose of working multiple jobs entails and the level of communication is well established then the occurrence of such negative effects such as disconnect and feeling of neglect should be less, particularly when the benefits start rolling in!
Posted by Joteque on 09-22-2017
Barida
I think everything is all about planning your daily activities of which having the time to work and as well to stay with family. I understand that it is quite hard to handle one job and focus on family as well not to talk of having 2 or more jobs. But I do not see anything to be afraid of if one has gotten an understanding partner who realizes that what you're doing is to help the family as well. So, everything has to do with time management.
Posted by Barida on 09-22-2017
Heatman
I totally agree with you and I have said that before that planning matters a lot in handling what comes with having to work two or more jobs, or totally choose not to work for anyone but yourself. Well all that I can say to you is that planning makes everything a little bit better. It's not really a must that one would have to work two or three jobs or even work at all. You can start up your own personal business and have your time at your disposal to use as you please.
Posted by Heatman on 10-21-2017
Mehano
I think that whether the two or more jobs will affect your family life largely depends on what type of jobs you have. Some jobs are far more demanding and exhausting than others.

I have previously worked two jobs and it didn't affect my relationship with my partner. We just made a conscious effort of making compromises and still tried our best to spend quality time together. You just have to be very good at juggling multiple things or it can definitely show on the quality of your family life.
Posted by Mehano on 09-22-2017
Heatman
I think that there is a truth in what you actually said in a way. The nature of one's job will definitely determine the kind of time he or she will have at his disposal to deal with other things.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
muaaz.93
Generally its quite difficult to have two jobs at the same time. Even its impossible to keep the check between house life and office life.How the hell are you going to balance two jobs and house things together.It would be a lot to juggle and extremely difficult to make it happen.
Posted by muaaz.93 on 09-22-2017
Heatman
It's pretty much possible to have two jobs, I have seen people who are working two jobs, personally, I work 2 jobs at the moment and not including the freelancing job as well.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Sue
It depends hoe many hours that you are working. If you are spending a lot of time at work and neglecting your family then it can have a negative affect. You have to put your family first and make sure you are spending quality time with them. If you have a stressful job and you bring that home with you then no good can come from it. I think a person should have a good balance between there work life and their family life.
Posted by Sue on 09-22-2017
Heatman
The real reason one takes 2 or more jobs is probably because of the need to get more out of the hours he or she has. There is no way the person is going to be sacrificing the time he wants to make money with for just family bonding.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
babyright
Working two or more jobs may not really affect the family life if someone plans the time to dedicate for the job well so that it will not take the time when the parent will need to be with the family.
Posted by babyright on 09-22-2017
Heatman
Planning may work, I can agree to that but that's if the person started it on time before securing the two jobs. Most times, the firm one works in determine the number you put into the work. So therefore, if you wanted to have more time with your family, from planning, you won't accept any kind of job from such company.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Corzhens
I had never experienced having double jobs to work on but my husband had that for a time. Yes, it greatly affected the family because of his work, he seemed to be losing time for us. He would come home late at night, usually at bedtime and most often he would leave earlier before breakfast time. After 2 months, we had a serious talk. I insisted that my husband should drop the extra job since we were not really in dire need of money. I pity the parents who had to work more than 1 job because they will surely neglect their family.
Posted by Corzhens on 09-23-2017
Heatman
It's completely overwhelming having to live with a family member that is working two or more jobs. I'm glad that you had talks with your husband and probably he dropped the other job. I think this was possible because there wasn't the dire need for money in the family.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
AlexHarris
My father and I have worked double jobs before and it depends on what you have waiting for you a home. If you are the father of children old enough to know how often you're gone or a wife that doesn't also work, then it will most likely affect your family life unless you have a really understanding wife which can only last so long. Since you're working those two jobs if they take up most of your day you'll be exhausted when you come home and on the weekends so you'll never have the energy or time to spend time with your family. Maybe if they are two part-time jobs it may not change anything really depending on the hours.
Posted by AlexHarris on 09-23-2017
Heatman
This is most certainly true. It's the hours that one put in these jobs that determines how it affects the family in general. Having an understanding partner is good actually, but everyone have his or her breaking point.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Wubwub
I think if it's necessary then nothing really can be done about it except to just ride it out until things get better. This is just reality for some people and it can't be helped so complaining won't really do much. The best thing to do in this situation is for the family to pull together and come up with better solutions and compromises, either for the short term or the long term, or maybe even both.
Posted by Wubwub on 09-23-2017
Heatman
Riding the two or more jobs out is definitely going to be to the detriment of the worker. If the wife decides to quit the family on the grounds that the husband isn't caring for them, would you blame her?
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
zheh
I think it would really affect your family cause having a normal one job can take too much time and pressure to ones life, so what more if you have two or more jobs. I'm sure it would be really hard to find time for your family. Not unless you are great in time management. Maybe you can set a few hours each day to be with your family. And your other half should also be patient and understanding to help you make your kids understand and accept the situation. Or both of you should help each other find the solution on how to bond with your family. I think it's all about understanding and cooperation.
Posted by zheh on 09-24-2017
Heatman
Understanding and cooperation between the two parents have it's limits, either of the parties can be very understanding and cooperative to some extent, and once it's too much, there is every tendency that the outburst and reaction of such person is most likely to be on the extreme.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
wiseagent
I don't have such an extensive work day, but I think this is something that can impact (negatively speaking) the health of any family, however well structured it may be. So, before a decision like that is made, I think it's necessary for everyone involved to talk and get it right first.
Posted by wiseagent on 09-24-2017
Heatman
I definitely think that this would help because before taking the job, you probably discussed with everyone and they are in agreement with it, so therefore if it gets to the time consuming part, there is every tendency of them not having an issue with anyone.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
chatbox
That is what I used to do a few years ago. I wasn't employed by two companies but I was handling multiple companies which were all actively operating. I had very little time to sleep at night and there were nights when I didn't even get to see my family awake when I come home. My child felt bad that I can't even take a leave of absence from the office to attend important school events. It has gotten to a point when my body itself manifested stress-related symptoms such as hormonal imbalance. I decided that the salary wasn't worth it and that we can manage with less money by living frugally. I don't have regrets that I gave up a high paying full time job because it gave me more time to bond with my family and to take care of myself and my health.
Posted by chatbox on 09-25-2017
Heatman
Congratulations on finally being able to get a full time job that pays you better, and which allows you the opportunity and chance to bond well with your family. That must have really being a great feeling.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
DanoCath
Working two or more jobs definitely affect one's family life and relationship to the people around you. Work requires time, and as you are working more and more you'll have a limited time for yourself and your family. Balance must always be observed, though work is important, we shouldn't forget ourselves and the people around us.
Posted by DanoCath on 09-27-2017
Heatman
It's definitely going to affect ones relationship with his or her family because one of the parties involved would definitely feel ignored or neglected at one point in time, and that is where and how the problem actually kick starts.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
limberg
I have an 8 to 5 day job, plus I work overtime until 8 in the evening. When I get home, I immediately open my laptop and check on my online gigs like writing online and further developing my websites.

Does it affect my time for my family and friends? It certainly does. I spend less time with them than before. My girlfriend sometimes even gets mad at me because I can't reply immediately to her text messages due to the things that I do at night.

I also go to work during Saturdays which greatly limits my time with my girl. The good thing is, she's also adjusting to my routine. I don't expect this to last forever though. Maybe next year, when all my websites are fully developed and earning lot of money, I'll be able to quit my day job and have more time with my family and loved ones.
Posted by limberg on 10-01-2017
Marvadaum
Well, I do think that your professional life should be your priority but everything has a limit bro. When things in your personal life start going south I think everyone should take a step back and figure out what can be done about it so your routine can be adapted
Posted by Marvadaum on 10-02-2017
Heatman
Well, I would say that it all depends on the reason for having to work like that. There is probably a good reason why one had to put himself through such work stress. And to have girlfriend be a good distraction to achieving ones aim is definitely not good enough to get it together.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Heatman
Haha at the saga of your girlfriend tantrum, they are all certainly the same thing all over the world. They don't really care about the reason why you did what you need but rather more interested that you don't do it again. But you and I knows that it's almost impossible to stop such from repeating itself.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
williamk
Yes, working two jobs will definitely affect your family life since most of the hours during the day and even at night, you might be engaged at work leaving with only a few hours left for rest. Most families are breaking up or you find a lot of single-parent families since both parents don't have enough time of their own. Illicit relationships start especially with colleagues since that is the person you are spending most of the time with. If there are good salaries being offered by all companies then there will be no need for working two jobs and then having enough time for your family.
Posted by williamk on 10-02-2017
Heatman
I don't think that one who values his or her family so much and had to put himself through the stress of working more hours on more than two jobs would be likely disposed to getting into an Illicit relationships with his coworker. That doesn't serve the individual needs well as he would still be found wanting in both the relationship.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
kgord
I think it can but I really think it amounts to the the intensity of the focus you have to give in each job. Some jobs don't require rapt attention tot he task while others do. It is just something that you need to be aware of when you have two jobs and a family. Keep your focus where it needs to be.
Posted by kgord on 10-04-2017
Heatman
The best way to avoid this is not accepting to work with demanding nature and also to actually get on with a plan for being self employed instead of working for the parent involved as well.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
vinaya
I am a writer, every day I spend hours writing for print and publishing online. I am also a businessman. I have a front store, every day I go to my store and open the store from 8 to 6. I am also a farmer, I have a dairy farm and I also farm cereal and vegetables. I have multiple jobs. It is hard to manage life when you have multiple jobs.
Posted by vinaya on 10-07-2017
Heatman
Well, yours happen to be your personal self owned jobs. You can decide the pace at which you handle such jobs. This is the real reason why self employment is ultimate in situations like this. It can easily be possible to handle the pressure should I believe that?
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Soulwatcher
I have worked 2 jobs in the past and it was out of necessity. And I was a whole lot younger. And yes it does affect your relationship. But these days you need at least $2k+ take home a month just to make it through everyday life. And unless you have a degree and a good paying job you're never going to make that kind of money off of a single job. These days 2 jobs is almost a must have!
Posted by Soulwatcher on 10-08-2017
Marvadaum
Well around here degrees aren't worth that much. Everyone has a degree in something and they will most likely make as much money as everyone else maybe a bit more. A sad outlook for spending 4 year in an university and a lot of my father's money
Posted by Marvadaum on 10-10-2017
Soulwatcher
Well the same can be said in the United States, we have people with a 4 year college degree that are working at a minimum wage job. And they have over $100k college loan to pay back with no possibility or hope to pay that kind of loan off in a lifetime with a minimum wage job. And I think that is a huge slap in the face for how much time, money and effort that it takes to get a 4 year degree.
Posted by Soulwatcher on 10-12-2017
Heatman
There was never a time where it was said that immediately after getting a degree, that you are going to secure a good reasonable job. It's very that way.

This is why people are encouraged to start up any other form of self employed jobs in order to make ends meet.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Heatman
Degrees won't fetch you good money at the initial time but with time, persistence and hard work, a degree might turn into diamond cache, which is definitely going to be a good thing in one's family life.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Heatman
Well, in my opinion there is never a way in which two jobs would afford one the freedom and opportunity to roam about freely. It certainly affects the relationship like and definitely might lead to the individuals involved.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
Authord
It affects my life in every aspect, even though I don't have my own family, but my work time and the hours I spend on my PC is alarming and it's making my parents to be complaining always, but nothing can be done, because I need the money. When ever I don't have the money I need to have, or when ever I feel broke, I don't sleep well
Posted by Authord on 10-10-2017
Heatman
I had this experience while I was still staying with my parents, they tend to easily get worried when it appears that we are over going things. They try so hard to get involved and make us understand that too much of everything is bad.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
potentialwriter
Working on multiple jobs would never affect my family life. As a family man, I am expected to be fully responsible to the total affairs of my entire family especially in the area of making sure that children have the best education. Thus, no extent of labour can be too much for a responsible family head who wants nothing but the best for his family. I am a publisher, a Mathematics teacher and school owner at the same time. I am planning to add farming to my jobs again.
Posted by potentialwriter on 10-17-2017
Heatman
Wow, that is too much of a job description and participation by just one person, only you, a math teacher, school owner, and you are still planning on adding farming to your work ranks. It's too much in my point of view.
Posted by Heatman on 10-22-2017
NickJ
I wouldn't work two jobs unless I really had to. Or one was located at home where I could work around my own personal schedule. I think most people can avoid working two jobs in most cases if they save money and don't overspend.
Posted by NickJ on 12-09-2017
Rumu
It will take a naive person or someone who has no family values to argue "No" on this topic. Yes, working 2 or more jobs will sure affect your family life.

Presence matters a bunch in a family. The moment one begins to spend more time apart, the feelings stars drifting away...it's the reason why most long distant relationships fails.

I read a survey once in the past which showed that most cheating husbands and wives when asked blamed their irresponsible behaviours on distance, arguing that their feelings changed in the continual absense of their spouses.

Relatig this to children in a family can still be explained in manner said above. Children drift apart from parents when they are hardly around. The parent more present gets more close to the children.
Posted by Rumu on 12-26-2017
jaymish
Yes it does.But I think this is the price we all have to pay, to be able to survive and become financially independent. Today, very few 8 to 5 jobs allow you to pay your bills, develop yourself, invest and spend money on luxuries. I'm afraid this is the path most of us have to take, especially when you live in a country where the general wage is low. The trick is to curve out a block of time to spend quality time with your family. I would advise working 24 hours during the week, but spend Saturdays and Sundays with them. Also take a week off after a few months e.g Easter, Summer holidays and Christmas holidays and spend time with them.
Posted by jaymish on 01-28-2018
Emmaz
Trying to split yourself into two does not make things any easier for you. The two jobs already is a huge task, working several hours without rest would weigh one down and if such person isn't strong enough, he or she is definitely going to break down. Coming back to the family to handle family matters is even more demanding than the two jobs depending on how one's family is structured. Working two or more jobs and combining it with family life is not something that can easily be done, it would be a lot easier if the person is still single.
Posted by Emmaz on 03-10-2018
fishbate
Yes it does, everything you that does not involve your family consumes your time for them. Lesser working hours has really minimal difference, work has its contribution not only on your physical exertion but also it effects your emotional state. That is why your physical and emotional state during and after working hours affects your family time in so many ways. Although there remedies to somehow relieve the lost time for the family, the point is work always consume your time for the family.
Posted by fishbate on 04-14-2018
cmoneyspinner
Of course, working 2 jobs or working 1 job that takes up so much time it keeps you away from your family seriously impacts the quality of your family life. It's just like a person who works a job that requires a lot of travel and it keeps them away from their family. There are also people in the military who are away from their family years at a time. This prolonged absence is very hard on a family. But that doesn't mean the family unit will be destroyed just because of this. Some people can hold it together and get through all kinds of “weather”. Families made it through our country's Depression Era and they had no jobs at all!
Posted by cmoneyspinner on 09-17-2018
Kakashi2020
In the past I tried having 2 jobs and what happens is it affected my work. It's quite hard to maintain a good level of performance when you're serving two masters. It's better to focus on one job and if you have some spare time then you could do some part time freelance work with much lesser load than a full-time job. Also having two jobs would affect your family time and that could lead to complications.
Posted by Kakashi2020 on 12-15-2018
hstinscdln
I guess it does. In my middle ages or at the time where I am already about to start a family, I would prefer a homebased job over an office job. I want to reach my dreams and get to the company I want to work with but I would be more glad to have a job where I could manage my time better.
Posted by hstinscdln on 12-18-2018