Would you tell your child that Santa does not exist?

Would you tell your child that Santa does not exist?
Santa Claus is not real as we all know. However there are many parents who go out of their way to make sure that their kids believe in Santa Claus. They tell them to write him a letter with the toys they would like to receive, prepare a glass of milk and cookies for him on Christmas Eve, and sometimes even a carrot for his reindeer. As a kid I was not brought up to believe in Santa Claus. However I have brought up my kids with the belief that Santa exists. I personally think there is nothing wrong with it, and it is a nice fantasy for little kids. What is your opinion in this regard? Do you think it is not okay for kids to believe in someone who is unreal? Do you think they may feel badly when they learn they believed in him for nothing?

Comments

FindingJay
My kids believe in Santa as did I when I was young. I think it is fun, the Magic of Christmas!
Posted by FindingJay on 12-17-2015
EliteWriter
I agree with you. I am not quite sure if in time they will realize that he does not exist, or if I should be the one to tell them. What is your opinion?
Posted by EliteWriter on 12-17-2015
FindingJay
My nieces/nephews, their parents allowed them to believe in it until they questioned it. Once they questioned it and were old enough, they told them the truth. I think the youngest one still believes but the older two know. Or maybe only the oldest one knows but the younger two still don't? I'm not sure, there are three of them.

I plan on telling mine when they seriously ask. I'm not going to lie to them. Most likely their friends from school will tell them first anyway.
Posted by FindingJay on 12-17-2015
EliteWriter
Yes. There are many kids who know the truth unfortunately and they say so at school.
Posted by EliteWriter on 12-17-2015
FindingJay
And those kids that do know will tease the kids that do not know the truth.
Posted by FindingJay on 12-17-2015
Lop
Yeah, they say so and they tease any of the other kids who still believe in Santa. I was teased when I was younger. I defended Santa to the biter end! :)
Posted by Lop on 12-17-2015
Beverly
My parents were party-poopers. And it was always unhappy Holidays at our house. They didn't believe in or celebrate Christmas. And, though we received Christmas gifts (so we'd feel like normal children), we were not allowed to believe in or talk about Santa Claus; put up Christmas trees or decorations or do other things typically associated with Christmas. They made sure to tell me and my brothers about how he doesn't exist and how we shouldn't place hopes on him. And to be honest, I always felt like I missed out on a special part of childhood. All the other kids were talking about Santa in kindergarten and I had to smile and play along like he was real, though I knew the truth. I would not wish that childhood on anyone. So when my daughter randomly decided her grandpa was Santa Claus, I didn't bother telling her any differently. For awhile, it felt like I got to be a kid again, living Christmas through her eyes and enjoying holiday celebrations. It was a sad day when she realized the truth about Santa. :(
Posted by Beverly on 12-17-2015
FindingJay
Awww, that is sad. I'm glad you are letting your kid have fun in the magic of christmas. The lights, movies, presents, reindeer and santa himself all make christmas so much fun for kids.
Posted by FindingJay on 12-17-2015
EliteWriter
That is very sad indeed. Children deserve to enjoy Christmas in every possible way.
Posted by EliteWriter on 12-18-2015
sspi
I really think that parents who dampen the Christmas spirit for their kids are really doing something wrong, dreadfully wrong! Kids should experience all the beauty, magic and pleasure of Christmas! I would never dream of doing it to my kids. Personally I do not really recall growing up believing in Santa's real existence, although I have a couple of photos sitting on 'his' lap with a gift. There were times when my parents paid one to come to our house to give me a gift because I was often sick, and that is just awesome looking back. I cherish memories of gifts, parties, get togethers and other christmas events and traditions that my family made sure I experienced during Christmas time. I still remember certain memories with love and pass it on to my kids, who still believe in Santa for now.
Posted by sspi on 12-18-2015
Cloverz
I see nothing wrong with kids believing in Santa Claus when they're still little. These precious little babies need some magic in their lives and I'm pretty sure they'd grow out of it on their own naturally. When I was a little, I believed in the magic and goodness of Santa Claus and I remember how exciting Christmas used to be because of it.

I don't have children yet, but when I do, I'm going to let my kids believe in the magic of Santa Claus for as long as possible.
Posted by Cloverz on 12-17-2015
Debater
There is nothing wrong with telling kids that Santa is real. Christmas is a fun and magical time and kids deserve to have fun. I believed in Santa for quite some time. If we tell our kids at too early of an age that Santa is not real, where is the fun in that?
Posted by Debater on 12-17-2015
EliteWriter
yes I agree with you to have them believe in Santa as after all for many kids there is no Christmas without presents, and this makes Santa Claus an integral part of Christmas time. The only problem is that they may feel let down when they learn the truth eventually. But I hope the childhood years they spent believing in him make up for that.
Posted by EliteWriter on 12-18-2015
Lop
If billions of us can believe in a magical god, there is no harm in letting a child believe in a magical errr hero? Gift giver?
Posted by Lop on 12-17-2015
sspi
In my opinion there is no Christmas without the magical presence of Santa Claus. I am not a child but I still like to see decorations with Santa, cards with his picture and so on. Santa is part of Christmas, and it is fun for me as an adult, and even more so for little kids. So let kids enjoy all the magical attributes and symbols related to Christmas time. When it is time for them to realize that Santa is not a real person and it was actually their mum and dad who placed the gifts in the stocking, I am sure that they are not going to despair! They will probably just make fun of their childish innocence and simply look back at that time with nostalgia and pleasure.
Posted by sspi on 12-18-2015
Taffyapple
Children have a right to be children! They grow up way to fast as it is. There is nothing wrong with letting them believe in Santa. I am appauled by people that tell their children at way too early of an age!
Posted by Taffyapple on 12-20-2015
EliteWriter
Yes unfortunately, you would be amazed at how many kids actually know the truth and they are still young. Then they make fun of other kids who believe in Santa Claus. I do not think that kids should feel that they are superior or too grown up to believe in Santa. It is a part of childhood that they are missing. My kids still love to write letters to Santa and check what he brought. It is cute and magical. And it makes Christmas fun even for us grown ups to see them so appalled by it all.
Posted by EliteWriter on 12-22-2015
angie828
I believed until I was in 5th grade. My older sister told me that he was not real. When I questioned my mom about it, she said he was once real and that as long as I believe, he will always be real. I think that my mom id a great job at explaining this to me. Even after I stopped believing, he came to me. I was in college and he still brought me just as much as he did when I was a child. Christmas was just a magical time at our house.
Posted by angie828 on 12-29-2015
Natty
Up until the age of 6 I believed in Santa and then my dad came home drunk one night and told me all about him and how he had really struggled with the concept of lying to his children. I remember the day clearly and for that reason, and that reason alone I will never tell my children that santa clause is alive, I think it is too scary and damaging to lie to your own children, it just sets up a president for deceit.
Posted by Natty on 08-02-2016
vinaya
I don't belong to the Santa culture, therefore, I never received santa's gifts. In fact I did not know about Santa until satellite tv came to our town. Likewise, my child will not be raised in santa culture. However, my child will be living in multicultural society and when he comes home asking about santa, I will tell him Santa is an old man from stories.
Posted by vinaya on 09-10-2017
narutos3nn1n
I do have times that I believer on that old guy with a red coat and a cart getting pulled by reindeer and fly through the sky and I also hang one of my socks on the ever of Christmas. To my surprise it certainly have some lollipop, candies and some chocolate inside after I had woke up on that Christmas day and I'm surely happy that day not knowing who really put that things on the socks. Supposedly I have kids on the future, I would not tell them that there's Santa Claus and just tell them that if they would be good child I might be as well as generous as Santa Claus to give them their wishes and gifts for Christmas.
Posted by narutos3nn1n on 10-12-2017
Marvadaum
My parents made me believe and only told me the truth when I asked them about it. It was a healthy fantasy and it didn't impact my adult life at all so why not let the children believe it. The adult world is harsh enough on its own
Posted by Marvadaum on 10-12-2017
lovely
I wouldn't do that, they will till know anyway, so need to rush it,let them continue to enjoy the mystery, it's this mystery that brew the excitement No need telling them when they will still grow up to find out so for now let them enjoy the fun.
Posted by lovely on 11-15-2017
ColdFlameChris
For children, it's always a great experience to have someone who they can believe in even though they're just a fiction. That way, we will make their childhood memories more memorable and fantastic. It's also a way for us to give all of our presents which we tell that it comes from Santa Claus because they remain a good boy/girl. That way, they'll remain good to their parents because they believe that Santa Claus always monitors their behavior.
Posted by ColdFlameChris on 12-20-2017
overcast
I think some of the time we have to let kids do what they want to do with the imagination. So I tend not to judge and make choices for them. You can see that some of the time santa is not going to be a good fantasy for kids. And we have to understand that children needs to be aware of that part. That's how I am seeing those things as well.
Posted by overcast on 12-31-2017
Scarlet
When we were kids, my mom would say that we put a sock in the window and tomorrow which is Christmas Day that Santa will give us a present. I believed it somehow then I've learned that it's not Santa who gave it but my parents to surprise us and make us happy.
Posted by Scarlet on 01-19-2018
Scarlet
When we were kids, my mom would say that we put a sock in the window and tomorrow which is Christmas Day that Santa will give us a present. I believed it somehow then I've learned that it's not Santa who gave it but my parents to surprise us and make us happy.
Posted by Scarlet on 01-19-2018
Martinsx
Was I told by my parents that Santa doesn't exist? The answer to that question is no, so why in the world would I ever consider telling my own kids that the Santa fairy tale isn't true? That would be breaking a chain of legendary legacy and making my little ones feel sad. I wouldn't do such a thing, I'm for the propagation of the Santa lagacy.
Posted by Martinsx on 02-20-2018
treecko142
Santa is part of tradition, and a big part of it is also the surprise of gifts from Santa and then learning later on that there was no Santa but it was your parents instead. Not telling children keeps the wonder and spirit of Christmas and for them to find out by themselves that the gifts come from their parents make them appreciate it more.
Posted by treecko142 on 03-24-2018
JMS
No why would you tell a child that Santa doesn't exist when he does? I was told when I was a young child about who Santa's idea is taken from and why we have Santa today. It was because of St. Nicolas and the fact that we give presents at Christmas was because of the wise men who gave Jesus the gold, frankincense and myrrh. The Santa that we have today represents these two facts about our Lord Jesus Christ. So I think it is best and proper, to be honest with any child and tell them exactly who Santa represents and why. You don't have to tell children anything. They realise for themselves as they grow up. Like the tooth fairy!
Posted by JMS on 03-24-2018